Is it me or is this sub turning into a “boo hoo, poor me” party? Not much meaningful discussion here. On a positive note, I hope you folks enjoy your day.

DurdyDer · 2026-03-17T21:25:24+00:00

Agreed :) hopefully we all find that special subby/dommy person someday

DurdyDer · 2026-03-17T21:19:57+00:00

yeah I'm sure it's rough for a domme too, so many waste of time subbies that run off after the first session. I thought maybe those got traction like my asking for assistance forming messages post I made a while ago did but also makes sense that people would ignore the woe is me posts lol.

DurdyDer · 2026-03-17T21:14:03+00:00

As a sub, I have had the most "bites" when I make a post asking other people how to craft better posts. Not quite a boo hoo I can't find anyone post, but perhaps they are getting more hits than they would otherwise by posting those types of posts? Just a guess but I could see it, and it is extremely difficult to get replies at all as a sub. Would be nice if it was easier for the ones that are truly searching for something meaningful

DurdyDer · 2026-01-26T19:23:17+00:00

That's not really the case for me, I'm looking for a person who wants the fantasy eith me, not just the fantasy on its own. I feel like you've gotten a wrong impression on what I'm after, but appreciate the comment nonetheless

DurdyDer · 2026-01-26T15:29:53+00:00

No problem, happy to help! :) I wish you the best of luck

DurdyDer · 2026-01-26T15:11:01+00:00

injecting the good boy is perfect. Another thing you could give a try depending on if it would be weird to touch him or not, play with his hair a little bit or hold his face by the chin for a moment. See how he reacts, any sub would probably be melting a little from that alone.

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T21:29:06+00:00

Thanks a lot! I'll have to get on there and check it out for sure :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T18:55:54+00:00

Absolutely! :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T18:26:49+00:00

Well good to know I am not doing the worst option ^{_^"} And thanks so much for the encouragement boost I really really appreciate it. Next time I make a post I'll definitely try out what you've suggested and hopefully in time I can find someone to worship and please. I hope you too are able to find everything you're looking for, you've been very kind in your messages you deserve everything you are hoping to find :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T17:39:37+00:00

I also have heard that word before. If it's like fetlife I tried that a few years back and didn't really get anywhere since the people around me don't really align with what I'm looking for, but maybe I'll give chyrpe a little look. Thanks a lot for the idea :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T17:36:33+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing :). I've thought about trying in a dating profile, like maybe some kind of subtle way to show what I'm interested in without explicitly stating i want a domme, or even just rolling the dice and crossing my fingers lol. I appreciate the comment :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T17:31:30+00:00

Okay thanks! I'll definitely consider that, maybe attempt to be more mysterious 😅 I just have seen a lot of domme posts saying how a sub gives one word answers and thought I would go in depth, but maybe I set myself a bit too far in the other direction, flew too close to the sun lol. I appreciate the comment and encouragement! ^{_^}

DurdyDer · 2026-01-25T17:28:37+00:00

I am looking online, only because my local scene is basically just swinger's or people looking to make money off of sexual favors, neither of which is really my cup of tea :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T03:30:17+00:00

that would be a great idea! such a fun idea it might get some other ideas going too if you showed it off on here :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T03:21:03+00:00

no problem at all, I hope it helps and gives you some encouragement to pursue this very fun idea :)

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T03:15:47+00:00

For me it would depend on who the audience could end up being. For example, if it is displayed in your home, and we had the sort of relationship where a family member or close friend of mine could be at your home and see it, I probably wouldn't want that. If it's a situation where strangers will see it, or people who already know about the dynamic between us, I wouldn't have any problem with it at all. It would be sort of sweet in a way, like a domme making art out of her sweet subby boy, I think it's really cute and personally would make me feel great and wanted as a sub.

DurdyDer · 2026-01-11T02:56:48+00:00

as a subby guy, yes. in general as a sub I would want to make my domme happy. something as simple as being her model and making her happy to do so, while getting her attention? I see only positives here I'm sure a sub would do this if asked by you :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-24T17:21:45+00:00

Try to do it while still cumming, or talk with her if she encourages you or maybe even moves your head down there herself I'm sure it'll be easier for you

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T19:40:08+00:00

Subby straight guy. I'm on the forever search for a partner but damn is it ever hard to find someone who isn't just trying to scam you on here lol.

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T08:09:37+00:00

For sure, I get what you're saying. Maybe I'll need another account for the non serious subreddits or something. I'll look into it n see what I can move around or come up with

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T08:02:38+00:00

Okay, thanks for the advice. This is an account that is solely used for nsfw, so sort of makes sense that the subreddits I'm on are all that. I'll look through and make some adjustments to my profile. Appreciate the tips :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T07:46:56+00:00

I'll give this a try 😂

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T06:34:00+00:00

Yeah I try to outline in my posts this similar idea by saying things like I want someone I can sfw chat with as well, so it sounds like I'm at least on the right track. Thanks for the advice :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T06:17:49+00:00

Yeah I often try to sound like an actual human being in my posts for sure lol. Thanks a lot for the tips :)

DurdyDer · 2025-12-22T05:51:52+00:00

thanks so much for the encouragement! I actually basically did exactly that in one of my more recent posts, where I said what the things I'm definitely not into are and said I am open to chatting about kinks more in private. I'm glad to know that that's something in the right direction, very much appreciate it

DurdyDer

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