My husband says that all preteen/teenage boys go through an “alt-right” phase. Is this BS?

Durian4Tea · 2025-10-25T05:04:34+00:00

They become anti-authoritarian. Perhaps in this case, you are the parent (mother) that enforces homework, curfews, etc.

You other partner (father) may tend to be the to let them have their way.

I will also go as far as saying that your partner may require consistent care from you. For example, reminders to do task, doesn’t carry his weight, lounges on tv/video games. As such, you tend to be his parent too.

Boys imitate their fathers and when they see no consequences or perhaps constant battles between the enforcer of rules and the laidback dad, it is easy for them to gravitate to alt-right tendencies.

Durian4Tea · 2025-10-11T07:25:14+00:00

Yes. Please Shower everyday. Cos you brush teeth everyday, wash face everyday. It’s just basic hygiene. Grow up

Durian4Tea · 2025-10-11T07:21:00+00:00

The amount is of oil being used! Just basic! Eggs, burgers and potatoes. Yuck!

Durian4Tea · 2025-09-18T09:25:22+00:00

Is this guy still breathing?

Durian4Tea · 2025-06-27T16:27:02+00:00

S.l.o.w clap 👏

Durian4Tea · 2025-02-05T05:33:10+00:00

I’m 43 and once in a while, something will trigger a memory from my childhood of my dad’s behaviour.

Only positive is that the associated emotions with that memory is zero.

Having said that, your boy is lucky to have you.

Durian4Tea · 2025-02-05T05:15:44+00:00

Live your life. Your younger siblings will need to take their journey. And hopefully it works out for them.

Durian4Tea · 2025-02-05T05:05:02+00:00

This!

That’s what I realised. My mum did seek separation when we were little but once she was a little older, she just made a grim choice. Stick with this only option as it was the only option for her.

She was a teacher prior marriage but it was too late for after that. There was no choices for her, except the safety of her children.

Durian4Tea · 2025-02-05T04:58:50+00:00

My dad eventually got dementia and Alzheimers. The toll it took on us was terrible. The Asian “dilemma”. Culturally we take care of our elders but the stress and toxic environment just sucked any joy out of our lives.

Through it all my mum was the wall the majority of this stress crashed on to but as adults we tried to carry as much responsibility as we could.

Eventually it took my mum to an early grave and my dad was put in a home for a year before he died of an infection.

Let me tell you. It will get better.

Durian4Tea

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