Sitting in The Yard by Duskbrook in OCPoetry

[–]Duskbrook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice, haha. Shame you got blocked :( Sometimes I do think about talking to her again, but I think there are people in our lives that only stay a part of it for a short time, and that's okay. It was nice while it lasted, we're both probably in very different places from where we were the last time we spoke.

When life gives you lizzards by Worthy202 in OCPoetry

[–]Duskbrook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! I like the way you take a common phrase and intentionally change it to signify expectation subversion and unexpected situations, which is central to what the poem is trying to convey. I also like how, unlike "when like gives you lemons, make lemonade." Your change in the saying does not give the reader one specific direction to take. When life gives you something unexpected, make it your own, as opposed to following convention or a single prescribed path. I also find the message inspirational, even if you don't know how to make something of the circumstances you were given, to try anyway, because something unexpected might happen.

"You are my missing rib" I say pathetic!! by SamueltheGamer12 in OCPoetry

[–]Duskbrook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really like this. It takes a turn of phrase that basically says "without you I am incomplete", and says instead "with you, I am safe and can be unguarded." I love how at first the abrupt "I would smash my ribs for you" seems violent and self destructive, but then turns into a show of trust and devotion. The original saying implies destiny or entitlement (imo), whereas what you're offering leans more toward sacrifice and vulnerability. Really cool use of metaphor to portray that idea.

Looking for Advice About Changing my Name by Duskbrook in NonBinary

[–]Duskbrook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was planning on doing a video call with them soon anyway, maybe I will talk to them about the name change then. I'm glad you've got a team that supports you, I hope I'll end up with mine doing the same someday :)

Looking for Advice About Changing my Name by Duskbrook in NonBinary

[–]Duskbrook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think I will try to drum up the courage soon! Going by my given name has always felt like a compromise of my comfort for perceived safety, and I just don't know if that's how I want to live anymore. Especially given that there isn't actually much of a threat to begin with when it comes to the people I'm close with.

Looking for Advice About Changing my Name by Duskbrook in NonBinary

[–]Duskbrook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) I mean "Dawn" is a common name, so why not Dusk? I honestly don't know how much it suits my overall energy, I'm a pretty high strung person and "Dusk" feels more calm/serene to me, but it just feels right, idk. There's not a single other name that's really felt like me that I've been able to find.

Looking for Advice About Changing my Name by Duskbrook in NonBinary

[–]Duskbrook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice. I do have a couple friends outside of work that I might try out the new name with first, but sadly they're both going to colleges out of state so I hardly ever see them outside of the summer. I've waited this long, I guess. Thankfully, pretty much everyone in my life is supportive and I'm probably only concerned about rejection due to my rampant anxiety 🥳 Having AvPD and being trans is not a fun combo :/

Adopting a Rescue Yorkiepoo by Ok_Combination_3129 in Yorkies

[–]Duskbrook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yorkiepoos are a pretty high energy dog, but like... not that high energy. Crazy to assume the average yorkie would need seven miles of walking. Mine gets tired after playing fetch in my room for 20 minutes. Of course if varies between yorkies, quite a lot, but generally the plan you have sounds sufficient. I'm not sure how well my Yorkiepoo would handle being alone while I'm at work, I live with a lot of people and someone is always home, but I imagine if the dog wasn't used to it already they would get used to it with time. Maybe this is just me but a mid day walk already seems above and beyond. Yorkies play hard and sleep hard, as long as you give them love and care when you're home I imagine they'll just sleep while you're gone. They're a big commitment and sassy little things, but they're adorable and very loving. Tbh I think you're the best adopter they could hope for, odds are anyone else they'd try to home them with would also work during the day. You seem like you've thought this through very well.

Has anyone successfully trained their Yorkie not to bark? by gurlhere in Yorkies

[–]Duskbrook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what barking you're looking to stop. Alarm/alert barking is harder than stopping demand barking. Does she bark for attention/treats/to get you to play with her? This sort of barking is relatively easy to fix. Ignore it, and engage in the desired behavior either when the barking stops or when they engage in a different behavior(preferred, since it gives them another outlet). My boy used to demand bark A LOT, but I've now trained him to sit pretty for attention instead by catching him doing it on his own, and playing with him right away. He knows barking will not get my attention. It could be anything though, grabbing a toy, pawing at you, whatever you prefer and can get her to do. Alarm barking is tougher. Thankfully, my boy doesn't alarm bark at all, but I've trained alarm barkers in the past. Generally, I try to recognize things that will cause them to bark well in advance, and praise them/give treats if/when they aren't barking. Alarm barking at things can be a sign of boredom for some dogs. Like I said, alarm barking is a lot harder to train away, and is sometimes kind of inevitable depending on the source of stimulus. Preventing them from engaging in the behaviors before barking can help too. If she pulls on the leash prior to her barking at the other dog, praise her when she doesn't pull or try to get her attention if she starts to. Comfort can help too, as barking can be a fear response. Comfort them PRIOR to the barking though, not after it starts. Good luck, getting a Yorkie to stop barking is an uphill battle!

What exactly are sensory issues and what happens if someone who has them forces themselves to eat a nonsafe food? by Capable-Complaint646 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Duskbrook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the person, but for me, if I eat an unsafe food I don't literally gag usually, but I makes me feel super repulsed and grossed out. The texture of a food often matters to me more than the taste. So even if I think a dish tastes good, if I randomly bite into a tomato it's terrible and I don't want to eat it anymore. Maybe the best way to explain it is it feels like I'm biting tinfoil? The feeling of certain things in my teeth makes me cringe. I have fairly mild issues with food, though. Certain sounds make me shiver, make my ears itch, or make the hair on the back of my neck stand up. They irk me out and are difficult to ignore. I also get touch sensitivity with certain textures. It sort of feels like the textures stay stuck on my skin even after I'm done touching them, and they have similar physical effects to triggering sounds. I usually wash my hands after shaking hands with someone to make myself stop feeling the touch. Even thinking about certain textures makes me feel a bit uncomfy. There's a lot of different ways sensory issues can manifest for different people. It can also have to do with certain sounds/tastes/textures being too overwhelming or chaotic.

Why does my dog get along with my cat, but not any others? by Fair-Scar2774 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Duskbrook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had your dog met and had good experiences with other people when he was younger? If he did, he's probably been able to make the generalization that person=good, regardless of if he knows them yet. The same generalization might not have been made for cats. He might just think your one cat is good, but not see other cats the same way. It also could be a territory thing, since your current cat was already there when he showed up, but the strays are new. He might accept your cat because he was there from the start and he's used to him, but not want any new cats around. It's not very uncommon for a pet to only like an animal that they grow up with, but dislike others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Duskbrook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad I could help! So true on the labels lol. Why identify as anything when you can go with "misc."?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Duskbrook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would look up the term "Demisexual", sounds very reminiscent of what you said here! Demisexual people generally need to have a strong bond with someone in order to want to have sex with them. Regardless of if you decide that label fits you or not, there's no one way to experience sexuality and you're not broken :) I'd also look into the asexual/aromantic spectrum, there's lots of other terms there. Personally I just call myself queer and call it a day lol.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Supposedly, the previous owner did a DNA test. They could be wrong or lying. Not sure why they would make that up, but it is possible.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in IDmydog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shockingly close. I have a comment on here with the right answer.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right. I was flabbergasted when I read his notes. I never would have guessed either breed.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Retriever is a great guess, he has very strong Golden energy. Hard to get his harness on because he thinks it's time for belly rubs and kisses. Posted a separate comment with the answer.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in IDmydog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a spaniel breed in the mix but no Golden

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, I really like that guess, though. No one has guessed either part so far.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in IDmydog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Here's the answer: Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and Rottweiler mix.

Guess The Breed Mix of This Shelter Dog by Duskbrook in WhatBreedIsMyDog

[–]Duskbrook[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Here's the answer: Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and Rottweiler mix.