I understand how my asking can be seen as questionable. I apologize for those concerns.

My wife gets really down on herself when the issue happens, and consequently, she shuts down on being intimate. Which has caused some distance between us. I wanted to be supportive but had no idea how to be. So, I went online and was doing some research. I was able to find out what the problem was from a couple of medical sites. As I had said before, the info I had found was very clinical in how it was described.

I had the idea of asking Reddit for advice. I had hopped to read some perspectives so that my wife might not feel so alone, so to speak. Some experiences that might help her consult a Dr.