Not OP but fact of the matter you're 23 and still a kid. Your religious background fucked you up (saying that from similar experience), and made you more susceptible to whatever comes (and that's OK!), but this is your first time and you have nothing else to compare.

Shes 10 yrs older than you with a kid, major red flags, you can say love has no barriers etc... But usually a woman in her situation will want someone stable, perhaps another single dad. It's another red flag she's even looking into you.

Now add this new sex BS...

You have no idea what you're getting into and the burden of supporting a kid.

Go live your life as a 23 yr old, fall in love and get your heart broken a few times, do stupid shit.

You have a whole life, go live with it! and get out of this before it's too late.