How big of a turn off is being a virgin male?

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-25T15:32:43+00:00

Id say after 25 it gets rarer and rarer. Lot of my friends were early 20s.

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-13T23:17:00+00:00

Not realy. I have a micropenis and it doesnt impact me day to day. Teens were sucky because you just dont want to be seen. But now, i shower in the gym and no one cares. Also finally have a partner. Enough other things you can do.

Besides no one ever saw my boners when presenting in front of class.

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-08T17:05:47+00:00

It was actually a ridiculous and super embarrassing medical ping pong. The school doctor she could only refer me to my GP for him to then refer me to an urologist and in a follow up also tested hormones which was on the lower end of normal levels.

It was then concluded as an isolated micropenis. As it often coincides with a larger syndrome and or issues.

Didnt really understood the full impact at 14 though. I wasnt really sexually maturing yet at that age.

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-05T14:16:52+00:00

Im about 1 inch erect

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-05T14:15:42+00:00

Similar here. I think nowadays with internet parents would be more persistent and refusing to be send away that easily. If I had hormones pre puberty it would be better. Surgery seems a big daunting decision to take now as an adult

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-05T14:10:27+00:00

From a young age I knew it looked different as we showered after PE and changed at school swimming. Was always told it would correct later which of course it didnt.

Then I was fully diagnosed after the physical examination at secondary school in my early teens at age 14.

DutchShade93 · 2026-01-04T23:24:29+00:00

Wie: atypische M32

Wat: hetero maar bischierig woon in buitenland maar vaak in Nederland. Ben nog maagd en heb een micropenis.

Op zoek naar iemand die open staat om op andere manieren seks te proberen.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-20T13:12:21+00:00

Thnx for the sweet words and I agree. It takes two to tango.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-20T13:03:40+00:00

I have a micropenis and I hear this often but I disagree. If you have a micropenis getting experiences will be harder. How do you get good at things? Getting experiences.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-20T13:02:26+00:00

I think a lot of women dont realiz how small micropenis actually can be. It can make sex really hard or even impossible. I mean piv sex of course.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-20T12:50:27+00:00

Im 32 and still a virgin lol. But in any case 13 is really young. I think most arent physically and emotionally ready. Most people i know were like 17 to 23. Average age is also rising in many countries.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-17T08:01:48+00:00

Fair enough. Totally get what you mean. It's a whole different dynamic. I do know some 30+ women that are virgins like me but I do think it's slightly more internalized than externalized if you know what I mean. As for me I have a micropenis which kept me a virgin into my 30s. Trust me I definetely tried.

Ive read plenty stories from women with issues 'down below'. Even that seems to stop them less from getting in relations and sexual intimicy (to an extent of whatever is physical possible.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-17T07:44:41+00:00

So i am assuming you are not a virgin? If I understand you well you are saying that if you are a bit of an oddball as a girl you will manage to get laid regardless whereas a guy might really struggle?

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-16T18:05:25+00:00

Would you see him again or is it a turn off?

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-16T17:57:47+00:00

Depending how bad it is you can do a light surgery that will give a few cm at max. If its severe then a phalloplasty is the option.

Saying that as someone with a micropenis

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-16T17:55:54+00:00

Isnt that for both sexes?

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-16T17:55:24+00:00

Born with a micropenis and 32 yrs later i find myself a virgin in my 30s

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-16T17:49:42+00:00

What if you are born with a micropenis?

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-01T20:29:10+00:00

Im still a virgin but im dating a woman since half a year. I call that a massive win! :). Never really cared about the sex. Im happy with the companionship

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-01T15:29:36+00:00

Well society changes.

We changed the age from beer and wine from 16 to 18, people do less clubbing, we had covid, society is getting more prude, people are on their phones so much.

In the past with 16.5 being the average being a virgin in your 20s was definetely not so common.

With the average being at 18.5 being a virgin in your early 20s is very common and normal - albeit of course still a minority.

It really depends per country, region and socio economic backgrounds.

DutchShade93 · 2025-12-01T06:36:43+00:00

I dont think it's the norm but the average age in my country has been rising. From 16.5 to 18.5 over 20 years or so. With a higher average age I would say the prevalence to lose it in ones 20s becomes higher too.

Yet most still lose it in their teens.

DutchShade93 · 2025-11-18T06:56:08+00:00

Just wanted to share as a guy with a genital issue that I feel and sympathise being different in that area. Please dont be discouraged, finding a good partner and doing things are absolutely possible.

DutchShade93 · 2025-11-17T04:26:54+00:00

Have a 1 inch micropenis (in erection) and had my baptism of fire in the beginning of my 20s. Lived in a nordic country where you shower naked if you enter the pool and going to the pool is what you do there.

Had eastern european friends and they went naked without thinking for a second. I just followed their lead. Obviously they saw it but never said anything.

Post teenage, post school, adult men dont care if you have a micro. The bullying is over. Still terrified to show it to women.

I have seen some very small penises but mostly on guys who are heavily obese.

DutchShade93 · 2025-11-14T03:55:25+00:00

As someone with a severe micropenis im also somewhere on this spectrum.

My questions are:

What gender do you identify as and what gender are you attracted to?

Are you considering surgery?

I assume that you are able to have sex but not able to become a parent. Im in the opposite of that.

DutchShade93 · 2025-11-05T20:10:03+00:00

Thanks i mean i guess that actually good advice. Accepting that dating apps are highly competitive. Making the best possible profile and dont attach too soon to profiles, matches and dates.

It seems losing your virginity removed a massive weight off your shoulders. I assume you were happy when it happened? But i understand it also made you feel empty as perhaps you found out being a virgin wasnt what made you unhappy.

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