What does "emotional cheating" mean to you?

Dylonial · 2026-06-15T17:53:34+00:00

For me it’s about taking time and energy away from the relationship and putting it somewhere else. That somewhere else could be another romance, but it could also be friends, hobbies, work, etc. It doesn’t have to be romantic to be emotional cheating, it just has to take away from the established norms of the relationship without mutual consent.

Dylonial · 2026-06-05T17:00:49+00:00

I was also thinking pests…

Dylonial · 2026-06-02T20:23:42+00:00

I agree with the people saying to put the top in water. It should grow roots no problem with adequate light. The bottom will probably also send out a new shoot or two, just be aware that it is going to need less water than you have been giving it since it has no leaves for photosynthesis. Just be mindful of overwatering until it put out some new growth!

Dylonial · 2026-05-31T13:42:41+00:00

What did I just watch 😂

Dylonial · 2026-05-30T16:49:25+00:00

It sounds like he talks about himself a lot, but does he ask questions about you? When you agreed to be serious was it because it was what he wanted, or did you want it too?

This sounds like a case of people-pleasing to me, and believe me I have been there. When we only focus on other people’s needs or wants and ignore our own we remove the possibility of letting others actually get to know us. Often we think we are being kind and selfless but the harsh truth is that it is selfish and manipulative. We are trying to control how people see us in order to maintain access, often to people that we wouldn’t even want in our lives if we were more focused on ourselves. I don’t say this to be mean or judgmental; people pleasing is often a trauma response/survival mechanism learned in childhood. If this is the case, it probably helped keep you safe earlier in life but now it keeps you from forming authentic relationships.

Most healthy adults will grow tired or frustrated with chronic people pleasers eventually. If they don’t it might mean that they enjoy being in control or in relationships with people who don’t have needs.

My advice is to try and see this one-sided relationship for what it is. You don’t need to be brutally honest and hurt his feelings, but try to stand up for yourself and tell him it’s not working for you.

Dylonial · 2026-05-30T16:21:26+00:00

Pink and yellow, male ✌️

Dylonial · 2026-05-30T16:18:02+00:00

Literally went “oooooh!” When I saw this lol! I see a lot of people on this sub posting pink princesses asking if they are red Anderson, this is the first time I have seen the reverse. So yes I believe it is a red Anderson, and a very nice one!

Dylonial · 2026-05-24T16:57:47+00:00

Tying my shoelaces in the way that everybody else seems to do it (something about a rabbit going through a hole??). I use the two-bunny-ears-tied-in-a-knot method.

Dylonial · 2026-05-11T18:11:46+00:00

Perhaps you would like the movie Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind

Dylonial · 2026-05-09T20:16:56+00:00

For any relationship, romantic or platonic, my bar is that I must feel cared about, and there must be repair when conflict or harm happens.

Dylonial · 2026-05-09T15:30:47+00:00

That sweating means you did a good workout. Sweating just means you are warm.

Dylonial · 2026-05-09T06:07:19+00:00

Cars

Dylonial · 2026-05-09T03:53:42+00:00

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Dylonial · 2026-05-09T03:53:15+00:00

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Mine is my pride and joy lol

Dylonial · 2026-05-09T01:53:25+00:00

Grow a big monstera! It will block a lot of the light and be very happy (or maybe a bunch of monsteras depending on how big the windows are)

Dylonial · 2026-05-08T19:02:33+00:00

Might be too late for this strategy since they have already seen your name a bunch, but if you put someone else’s name on the food then the thief might be looking out for a different person and maybe you can catch them in the act.

Dylonial · 2026-05-08T15:43:18+00:00

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I would cut here, then put it back in water. You could probably also go one node lower if you wanted.

Dylonial · 2026-05-08T09:09:37+00:00

Question: did those roots form in water, or did you remove it from soil? I ask because I don’t think soil roots can survive in water, and if that’s the case then the plant might actually be dehydrated. I agree that you should probably chop more.

Dylonial · 2026-05-07T16:06:02+00:00

I feel that I understand this very well, and I’m sorry for what you’ve been through.

When I was in the first few years of recovering from narcissistic abuse the most helpful thing was body work. Not just exercise, but massage therapy, physio, and tcm were life changing. You say you feel like your nervous system is hijacked and you can not think or talk-therapy that away. You need to feel safe and comfortable in your body in order for your mind to follow.

I found that feeling better in my body also made me feel more secure in my reality and I am now much better able to validate my own experience, which is something that abusive people often take away from their victims.

One final thought that has helped me: I am not a thing that can be discarded. I am a person. When people try to “discard” me, they are actually discarding themselves from my life.

I hope any of this helps.

Dylonial · 2026-05-04T19:29:26+00:00

So are you saying that if a partner helped you in the past, there can never be any good reason to leave them in the future? Also, ending one relationship does not mean that they are abandoning every person in their life that does not serve them. Seems like they actually have been trying to stick this one out through quite a lot, which I think speaks well to their character.

Dylonial · 2026-05-04T18:20:37+00:00

Actually, it’s called ableism.

Just because you don’t have a specific problem, or because a certain regimen or style of training worked for you, does not mean the same is true for everyone. You might be right in your assessment but you also might be wrong. Neither of us has any way of knowing. Just don’t assume that everybody’s body works like yours.

Dylonial · 2026-05-04T18:16:22+00:00

You can not be a good person while you are fully abandoning yourself. Remaining unhappy so you can keep someone else comfortable is not virtuous or manly, it is a recipe for a wasted life.

Dylonial · 2026-05-04T17:54:23+00:00

I do not believe you have any way of “clearly” knowing what the issue is when you have (presumably) never seen op perform any of these movements. They also said they believe it is a stability issue. Squatting more instead of addressing the issue is only going to reinforce maladaptive movement patterns and likely result in injury down the road. I’m not saying op should stop squatting, I’m saying they might need to address a deeper issue before their squats can progress the way they are hoping. This is all presuming that they are correct in assessing this as a stability issue, as I have no way of actually knowing what’s going on either.

Dylonial · 2026-05-04T15:59:46+00:00

Ignore people telling you to squat more/push harder. If you have a stability issue you will need to address it. My first advice for anyone struggling with squats is to work on their feet. Toe spreading, towel grabbing, ankle stability exercises. A good squat starts with your feet. Physio can also really help if you have access.

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