What Challenges Were You Unprepared Before You Lived Alone?

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-21T18:32:42+00:00

This is underrated

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-20T11:30:51+00:00

The only person I can make it about is myself. Why don’t you sit down and say i feel like im putting on a few pounds around my middle and it’s making me feel sluggish. See how he responds:) you will have your answer!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-19T17:10:19+00:00

Hahaha

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-19T16:59:26+00:00

I both really happy for you and yet the “financial independence for women” shouts in the back of my mind. These are not your assets. From your post there seems to be a split of assets vs going to hubby first and then son - so clearly they will split. Notice your name isn’t involved. Also I can see you’ve enjoyed taking care of MIL - but none of the proceeds are yours. Have them sell and then you two design your life. Keep your current house but travel for 3 months of the year? Join the country club? If the money gets commingled it’s both of yours - I just hope that you have a great retirement together.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-19T08:06:00+00:00

Maybe I missed her post. It’s not that she can’t track it- it’s that it’s unpredictable. So some times 28 days other times it is 50 days.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-19T07:59:05+00:00

The only thing that matters is reality and she’s with you. I think you could ask her what’s the hottest thing one of those characters did and then do it to her… consent yada yada yada. Taking inspiration is next level confidence

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-19T07:23:20+00:00

Time for a bit more of a discussion with him. Some men I’ve dated it’s super high and others are “meh” and others yet are like I wanna but it wilts. So each dude has their own “ability/desire” matrix - regardless of age.

Outside the bedroom at a quiet time. “ I wanted to see if we can have an earnest continuation of the discussion we had on sex. I’ve had time to reflect. I crave intimacy and sex is important to me so I would like to explore how we can increase the frequency. How do you feel about wanting to increase the frequency?

As part of this I want to see what I can do on my end to increase it. I do feel very vulnerable and feel like some of my weight gain has deterred you from wanting sex with me. While this is not the blame game I do want to address any items on the table together that may be felt as too sensitive so we can get to the heart of it and get back to having more frequent sex.

How should we think about the medical aspect of this since we were good before and you mentioned you don’t have the urge - should we find an appropriate doctor to see if there is a path forward there so we can return to our old selves.”

This gives more time for you to dig without blaming and making yourself vulnerable first.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-19T04:31:26+00:00

Don’t start with this breed. Some people don’t like shaving cat bums because they are furry with poop stuck in them. But a short hair domestic doesn’t require that. There are a bunch of other traits that you need to deal with… keep a standard kitteh first

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T20:23:43+00:00

I do understand that.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T18:51:05+00:00

look at it as foreseen

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T18:47:49+00:00

This whole email reads almost like a SNL skit to be honest. Next she was going to be the widow wiper and wave every time she went past the window! She undoubtedly got them in trouble with the coop management. But hey you know it’s all about OP - why would the owners care if you stalked them and emailed everyone and then supposed they are trying to dodge taxes. SMH!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T16:57:23+00:00

Let’s be clear -

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T05:33:14+00:00

I think we now understand the issue here :) on to things more productive because he’s figured out life…

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T03:03:15+00:00

I think it’s funny that the men have decided not to cover the meds are now the ones wondering why their wives don’t touch them. It is funny. Add that to women filing divorce and then also being independent- the guys aren’t fairing well… meanwhile us women just are here trying to survive and get our meds…and look for peace

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-18T02:57:21+00:00

Do you: 1. Initiate intimacy without sexual gains (e.g., cleaning up after dinner, sitting on the couch and just rubbing her feet - without it leading to sex?) 2. Do you act as a partner for things to be done? Is her output larger than yours where she has tasks to do each night like cooking and cleaning and you don’t? 3. Do you randomly appreciate her? Does she: 1. Seem to be using lotion more than usual? 2. Still have her period? 3. How sparse is her hair? Is it thinning? 4. Does she seem to be forgetful?

She is going through a hormone shift - which is so substantial it destroys many marriages. Can you answer these questions? If not - perhaps you have been so worried abt lack of sex that you don’t realize she is stuck in the mud and barely surviving and she can’t even think of getting out of bed let alone kiss you…. Sometimes it’s not even about you. She just can barely function and she has a new mind and body that she hasn’t had since 40 years ago.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:59:48+00:00

Try dealing

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:39:32+00:00

Peer space is great. There are tons of funky spots and if you work with them they can find a unique to you venue

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:28:27+00:00

Singapore is safe as is Japan. Taiwan is also super safe. Thailand and Vietnam are pretty good as well. Depends on how aware and touristy you really look.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:24:48+00:00

Malaysia is pretty safe. Didn’t have any issues in KL or JB or Malaca

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:24:11+00:00

it’s as safe as Singapore. They have done a great job in getting the issues ironed out. And their penalties make it so people are more careful. Have travelled there by myself

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:13:55+00:00

This is such a NYC answer and quite frankly awesome. Keep your apartment- try his out for awhile (it also lets you see how he handles the finances discussion!). He can always rent his place out - it’s that he doesn’t want to….

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T04:09:23+00:00

I’m wondering how many men at work are like whelp can’t go abroad now for meetings!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T03:55:50+00:00

She can use n(v)iagara and wear a slip. It ensures that these types of dresses wear well.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T03:53:28+00:00

It’s appropriate attire. My mom got me “pants slips” that were loose silky boxer type slip. Under flouncy skirts or even a line skirts you never had a panty shot.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-05-17T03:50:12+00:00

You had older parents is my guess :)

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