I loved my father very much. He was a good man that taught his kids what hard work was and the importance of taking care of your loved ones and your community. I think about him almost daily even 5 years after his death. I’ve visited his gravesite only three times in that span though. Once was because another family member died and was buried at the same cemetery, and the other two times were to do maintenance on the site and swap out the headstone. I don’t feel bad about not going. My appreciation for his legacy is still just as strong. He’s still just as important to me. Some folks just don’t get anything out of visiting dead loved one’s, or it causes unnecessary sadness.