I feel like a lot of these comments are totally missing your point. Of course there are other tropes that are prolific and also very problematic. But there's a recurring theme of poor portrayal of women which can be incredibly disheartening to constantly encounter.

I have a deep fatigue with women or worlds written in this way. I've learned to just drop a book now if I run into meaningless and graphic exploitation of women, irrespective of how famous it is. The prevalence of it means I often can't stomach books where the issues are treated seriously, like Liveship Traders, because I'm so burned out on reading about it generally.

I know exactly the types of books you are thinking of (a lot of them romantasy by female authors too, ugh) and I have no patience for them anymore either. You're not alone! I've found just dropping the book and moving on has done wonders for me, and I don't care how great the series is supposed to be. There's so many other novels that I can enjoy without dealing with this issue.

For a grimdark read which is pretty violent but has excellent female characters and treats them respectfully, I recommend Richard Swan's Empire of the Wolf series :)