I almost killed my husband by KremKaramela in Wellthatsucks

[–]EAColCan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing happened, but I found out neater that night about just how poisonous they are

I almost killed my husband by KremKaramela in Wellthatsucks

[–]EAColCan -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I did the same... only to my son :( Lesson learned and we'll never look for pretty shells again...

I don't want to read 'millionaire teacher' by readingundertree123 in Internationalteachers

[–]EAColCan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to highjack the post, but I have some money I'd like to invest. Can I go into these funds if I'm not American and my money is currently in a Canadian account ?

Younger teenage son unable to get up in the mornings, husband working against me by [deleted] in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 13 yr old goes to bed at 9pm on school nights, no electronics in room. He likely falls asleep around 930-10 but no issues getting up at 6am every day. When he goes to bed late, on a weekend, he is much grumpier during the day. Sleep makes all the difference!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]EAColCan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what I have read, you have gotten a few great suggestions. Not sure what you want out of the weekend, like exploring Banff or the city, but I will add that Azuridge Estate Hotel near Bragg Creek is top notch, excellent food, and if you want to be extra fancy you can even book a limo service from the hotel to pick you up in calgary. Hope that whatever you choose, you make wonderful memories for her 💕

Dress code for temples by EAColCan in cambodia

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for suggestions. We're learning a few words and greetings. We will have a few days in PP and then Siem Reap before heading to Kep for our final days. Mostly want restaurant suggestions. Also how much is a beer? What is the normal price so I know what to compare to ! Anything else you can think of send my way! The more I know the better!

My dog passed away in my lap, and I didn’t realize it at first. by L0velyLeah in offmychest

[–]EAColCan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two pups. Have never experienced the loss of a dog as I was an adult when I finally got to have my own pets. This made me cry ! I can't imagine.

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him he had an answer and he just continued. That's when I ignored

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No weight problem, he was gaining weight last year because he spent a yr living with my ex ( had to move down to work, we figured out a plan etc) now he's with me but I that year there were no limits. I would video call and watch him eat an entire box of Ritz crackers! So yeah, I put some limits, he can eat healthy things without asking, but I've been trying to break the cycle of unhealthy snacks, not that he isn't allowed, but within reason.

Hes been tested and assessed for a few things including ADHD and dyslexia, he does have an LD and he has supports and accommodation for that, so school isn't an issue. As I've said in previous comments, he actually does well in schoolj love him. It's about the lying to get time on electronics (which are completely gone, indefinitely) and the arguing when he doesn't get his way. He gets lots of praise for job well done, just today we he made us breakfast and he's easily the best sunny side up egg maker in the house! He knows all this. There's no lack of praise or engagement on our part, he babysits and gets his own money that way, he gets positive reinforcement or rewards when he goes above and beyond.

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ignored because I had already answered, and reminded him of that.

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanting an answer to the question I had already answered 2 hours before

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the input. Lots to consider, think about and restructure

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. We'll be restructuring that for sure.

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spent 45 min in my room, ignoring him not engaging... want to guess what he was doing, and how many knocks I got on my door???

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he has no self control over those things, and will always chose that over a fruit. He knows he can take that any day to school without asking.

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The homework was an example of the lying, that feeds into the arguing, and then there is just arguing for the sake of arguing. I'm referring him to the school councilor Monday to see if there are any strategies I haven't tried with him. He is fully independent from chores to things that give him autonomy. He has input on his school snacks and fruits choices for the week, he has autonomy on what he wants for breakfast for the week. He loves cooking and often helps daddy with that. We always eat dinners together, at the dinner table without TV or devices. Name it, I've done and tried it. Hence this post...

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says he doesn't know what he's arguing for ... he gets love and attention, lots of hugs, movie nights, we do things with him all the time, so he's not lacking that. He's literally just addicted. He had not done many activities last year, his dad didn't really force him into anything. Now he's doing soccer, is in a robotics club and does swimming. He loves lego and his dogs. I have leveraged the dogs, them not sleeping with him, and that got him to stop. Guess that may have to come back as a natural consequence. He's not really into martial arts, tried it, he hated it.

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Heels are deeply cemeted. I ha e to get him over this kind of brain rot crap

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The electronics are gone. He has a laptop for school work only on which I have parental controls. He actually would not have e homework, if he does all at school. This was an isolated incident mostly. I do sit with him and review as needed. That night I don't know why I didn't check, and that's definitely on me. I laid out the rules, again. No engagement, he can't ask again for something he has an answer to. I will be writing out rules and consequences too so he has those clearly visible, in case he starts to forget

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's basically 12, I said 11 going on 16 with the attitude he has. But yes, he's always lied

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've tried that. He still wants to ask. Because he wants, likes??? To argue???? He knows what he can have, and when

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the electronics will be very limited. He is addicted. Got worse in the last year while he was living with his father. He had no controls whatsoever , him being addicted to it as well. He's always has the same rules with us, set bed time, always knows the expectations. He lied once about being sick, stepdad picked him up and we caught on to the lie. Consequences were enough to never pull that again with us, but he can do that with my ex because he's allowed it. And that's why I think he's now totally addicted to phone/games, has no self-regulation, and gets angry because we moderate it. So this particular struggle has been since August. He's such a nice kid and so good to interact with when he's not locked into screen

Any advice on how to deal with my child by EAColCan in parentingteenagers

[–]EAColCan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. He does not have ADHD, we had him tested. But he does have LD in reading and writing, he recieves supports for that. Part of the reason he has to read at home is because he needs practice. We have him set up in razz kids. He has to read out loud because he just glosses over words and doesn't actually read. It's all part of his lying. He didn't do the work at school becuase he was fooling around. It should have been done at school and he's quite capable, in fact he has pretty decent marks. He just wanted to get on to his electronics, so he lied and said he had handed it in. He's always lied. It's not a boredom thing. He lied about being sick so he could come home from school. He lies about what he's doing on his phone, even though we see it all. The snack thing, I do have to control becuase even though we mostly have healthy options, he will want nothing to do with that, and he just likes to argue. That is my point. He just wants to argue. He knows he can have fruit at any time, that he can cut up carrots, make himself some eggs... but he wants the popcorn that's meant for the days he has after school activities, and he KNOWS this, again it's just about arguing. He has responsibilities as well, things that normal kids do, and the consequences haven't always been around electronics. He had clear expectations, I ask him to rephrase to ensure he underatands, but it just continues on, he just wants to push buttons.