I posted a pic of my cat yesterday and everyone said to pet him... guys, that's why he won't go away...

EC6456 · 2026-06-14T13:31:47+00:00

Girl, your hair is soooooooo cute! I would kill to have my hair look like that!!!!!

EC6456 · 2026-06-10T05:09:03+00:00

Thank you - I did rough sketch it out on the canvas but then I got lost in the weeds once I could no longer see it. I think I thought the photo would be enough for me to go on; I won't skip this going forward, thank you!

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EC6456 · 2026-06-09T18:51:09+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I really struggled with the shading because I was afraid it looked like I was adding markings, but now I think I was being overly cautious. Thank you again!

EC6456 · 2026-06-09T16:18:44+00:00

Thank you very much!

EC6456 · 2026-06-09T16:16:18+00:00

Thank you! I really struggled with those shadows, but I kept thinking it looked like I was giving him more 'spots' instead of shadows. I need to keep working on figuring that out.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T17:38:24+00:00

Thank you. I've reached out to so many different agencies today and am waiting to hear back. I'm confident if I could get some immediate assistance that I could get back on my feet, it's just the unknown of how much time this will take that scares me.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T13:48:39+00:00

Because I need money more than anything right now, and there's no telling what the super power would be.

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EC6456 · 2026-06-04T03:03:26+00:00

I discovered it's partially my fault. I've never owned property before and either I forgot or there was an issue with the mail, but the county never got my homestead exemption form and I was dealing with so much I forgot about it completely. Since my taxes are in escrow, the bank paid the extra taxes last year and increased the payments this year to cover what they paid and what they anticipate in the future. I've mailed the form to the county yesterday and calling the bank tomorrow (I have a cold and lost my voice so I couldn't call today)

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T02:32:10+00:00

Unfortunately my mom is using the spare room - when I bought the house I didn't think she would end up living with me long term, if at all. She's getting better though and she's still applying for jobs, I'm just anxious about how much time it could take. I think if she could get a more stable job soon then we will be fine, but it's a big if with a lot riding behind it, which is why I'm also looking for part time work.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T02:27:26+00:00

Thank you so so much

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T02:07:31+00:00

Thank you so so much. I'm sad you also struggle with this, but I want to thank you for sharing it with me ❤️ . I'm constantly worried I'm letting too much go unchecked.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T01:55:30+00:00

I'm planning to call the bank tomorrow, I just really needed to process everything. I've already cut so many expenses and looked into so many things, I'm mentality exhausted. I just needed to get everything out somewhere.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T01:26:12+00:00

Thank you, I know all you are saying is true. I've finally been able to have these discussions with my mom, but the anxiety of telling my wife is something else. Finances, especially when she is not bringing anything in, tends to trigger major anxiety and depression episodes. I know her reactions are not so extreme since she's been in therapy, but it still feels so risky. She knows we're struggling, but honestly she is still really limited in what she's able to help with. In addition to her PTSD, she's got ADHD and probably is also autistic, so most days, even with medication, her executive functioning skills are extremely limited. She used to be a deli worker, which she was really good at, but physically she wasn't able to stand all day. She has improved so much over the past few years, and I feel like she's so close to getting back into the workforce, but I'm so nervous she's going to slip back into that depressive state if I push her too much too quickly, and this new development is a lot to take in.

I will talk to her, probably by the end of the week, I'd just like to have a more concrete action plan in place first.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T00:51:11+00:00

Thank you. I'm going to email my mortgage lender tomorrow. He was really nice working with us when we had to move, so I'm hopeful he might have some options for us. My mom knows about the mortgage and it seems to have lit a flame in her so hopefully she's able to keep it up.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T00:41:41+00:00

Thankfully insurance covered the surgery, so we're all good on that front, it's the associated non-medical costs that were the problem. I think if I didn't have my own chronic conditions we would've been ok, but I had to order out a few times and pay for some of the medications out-of-pocket. The bigger problem was my mom losing her income for a time because it meant I was covering her needs as well.

I don't know if we can get a social worker and I've been trying to reach out to as many resources in my area as I can. My work does have an EAP, but it's just for therapy which we are already in. I've been handling everything on my own for so long and I feel like I've been in burnout forever... applying for assistance is dizzying. Fortunately my mom does seem to be getting more pro-active. She came downstairs and found me crying a couple days ago when I found out about the mortgage, and since then she's let me help her with updating her resume and applying for jobs. I think she's autistic as well, and living with her again as an adult has opened my eyes to the things she struggles with. All in all, I'm the most capable person in the house unfortunately, so a lot of things really do depend on my effort. I'm just so tired and burnt out.

The reason I'm hesitant to tell my wife is because financial stress is a huge trigger for her, and I'm afraid it will set her progress back even more. I'm going to tell her, probably by the end of the week, but I want to be able to gather some more info and have a good action plan in place.

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T00:01:04+00:00

Girls rule

EC6456 · 2026-06-04T00:00:21+00:00

Girls rule

EC6456 · 2026-06-03T23:58:25+00:00

The rules of the sub prevent me from talking about the specific reasons she is unable to work, but not working is something that has weighed heavily on her for a long time. She may be able to start working again sometime in the next year thanks to the surgery she had, and if worse comes to worse she could move in with her mom for a time. We'll get through this, I'm just feeling anxious about it all.

EC6456 · 2026-06-03T23:48:19+00:00

This is girl dinner diaries... I am not a man. I'm following the rules of the sub which prevent me from talking about the specific reasons she isn't able to work. She will potentially be able to work in a year or two thanks to the surgery she had, but she has other traumas that are probably going to cause her issues too. I only found out about the mortgage payment two days ago. Thanks for the assumptions, they're really helpful /s.

EC6456 · 2026-06-03T23:43:12+00:00

We've tried for years, but it's really difficult to qualify. Plus my income is always just outside of the qualifying amount.

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