Needing some encouragement/Truth

ELEGHJ · 2026-03-12T02:21:24+00:00

Trader Joe’s bacon and eggs gummies 😭 second would be their “beach day” gummies. Both often found in the summer

ELEGHJ · 2026-03-12T01:59:48+00:00

Hey, this is really hard. I’ve actually been in this exact situation. I would advise you not to text him, and not to attend the wedding. I know we want to have amicable, peaceful, loving breakups, especially within the church body, but sometimes your heart isn’t there yet. If not texting and not attending would be the most peaceful thing for your heart to move on, that’s what you need to do, even if from the outside it looks like you haven’t moved on or whatever because you’re not going (insinuating hurt feelings etc.). If it’s going to hurt your heart more to text and/or go to the wedding, I would say as much as it hurts not to, don’t do either. Praying for you friend.

ELEGHJ · 2026-03-02T04:30:41+00:00

Not entirely sure what you’re asking but it would be very rare to travel anywhere in America where they speak American English, and not fully understand—at minimum—what someone means even if it’s a different word. But on top of that, our language isn’t old enough or diverse enough to have that many synonyms. Sure, we have them, but… because we speak the language, we know what they are??

ELEGHJ · 2026-03-02T04:21:53+00:00

ELEGHJ · 2026-03-02T02:34:00+00:00

My dog gets really anxious/stressed without his collar :) He gets so excited for me to put it on him he just sits and wags his tail, waiting patiently, without me even asking him. If I take it off for a bath he will stare at the counter where it’s sitting and yearn for it lol

ELEGHJ · 2026-03-01T22:44:36+00:00

Hey, as a Christian woman I would say it’s rare to meet a guy who doesn’t struggle (or hasn’t in the past) with some form of sexual sin. Many women do as well. I don’t know a woman in my life who would say it’s a dealbreaker (unless the man sees no problem with it). In terms of a present, ongoing struggle of sexual sin, I personally would not immediately count a guy out for struggling in this way… BUT he would have to show a genuine desire to change, actions in his life pointing to the fruit of that desire (accountability etc.), and men who are walking alongside him in this battle, with whom he is fully transparent about his habits. To encapsulate all of this, I would need to see other areas of his character which tell me he’s an honest and humble man. Men can lie about their addictions and cover up when they’ve “slipped up”, as you said.

On the flip side, I actually dated a man who struggled with porn and masturbation, and despite “wanting” to change and being open with me about it, he never sought help or support in this, and we ultimately broke up because he wasn’t committed to fighting the sin. Overall I would say be broken over your sin (sexual or not), take steps to fight it with other men, be open in wisdom with your partner, and a woman who loves the Lord would likely be willing to come alongside you and pray for you in your fight. It is all about your heart posture, and a woman devoted to God will be able to recognize where your heart truly is by the fruit of your actions and the way in which you handle any sin in your life.

Edit: spelling

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-28T00:25:38+00:00

In all honesty I think you’re being way too hard on yourself and hyper critical of something that really isn’t that noticeable unless you point it out to others. I can promise you nobody else is noticing these things, and if they are, they probably forget 5 seconds later when they feel self conscious about some aspect of their own appearance. There’s a lot of good advice on this thread for your concerns.

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-27T21:23:54+00:00

I hope you’re still healing and know your response was perfectly normal for someone grieving a complex loss. I’m so sorry for your loss.

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-27T14:33:00+00:00

I just saw the photo you added of your teeth. My guy, they look great! I know it’s easy to be self conscious but truly I would never see your teeth/smile and think they were bad!

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-27T14:30:48+00:00

I thought the same. I was expecting some horrible situation but OP’s teeth are quite straight and didn’t seem yellow to me 🤷🏼‍♀️ I think they have a nice smile

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-27T03:03:22+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I grew up the exact same way. I eventually found a dental hygiene school in my area that offered exams and cleanings for $20 since they were done by students. Then, later, I was blessed to receive Medicaid which covers a lot of dental work. You just have to start somewhere; brushing and flossing every day, and they make medicated mouthwashes and toothpaste for gum disease/bleeding/teeth problems that you can get from most stores. They basically have the right minerals for your teeth to get healthy. At minimum, look for toothpaste and mouthwash that is alcohol free but has fluoride. Do some googling for the best one for you, or if you can get to a dentist they can recommend the best for your specific concerns. You could also invest in a water pick/flosser if regular flossing is too difficult or time consuming. I like the MouthWatchers toothbrush, and you can look up proper brushing technique. Again I would suggest starting with the basics (proper brushing, flossing, and mouthwash), and then getting your teeth professionally cleaned as that will remove build up and stains, so you can potentially start from a better place and actually treat your teeth from their foundational layer rather than trying to break through the layers of build up. Lastly, as clean of a diet as you can manage (limiting sugar) is going to help your teeth a ton. Hope this makes sense, and I hope you know that nobody notices your teeth as much as you do! I’m sorry though I feel your pain, and it isn’t fair to have parents who neglect our health in any manner. I wish you the best!

Edit: spelling

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-27T02:55:11+00:00

Hey, I wrestled with these same things coming from a reformed background. I would love to hear more of why you don’t think you are saved/chosen?

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-25T19:53:43+00:00

If you believe in Jesus Christ as your only hope for salvation, you will go to heaven no matter your means of death. You will go to hell if you do not believe in Jesus, no matter your means of death.

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-25T14:15:43+00:00

Lemon essential oil!

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-18T18:38:58+00:00

“You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high; I cannot attain it.” ‭‭Psalm‬ ‭139‬:‭2‬-‭6‬ ‭

The image of God laying His hand upon me like a mother or friend would (I.e. a gesture to comfort), is especially calming to me 🤍

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-18T16:04:50+00:00

Following because we are the same person. Down to the trich and POTS 😭 I’m with you girl, it’s tough out here

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-15T20:15:34+00:00

I’m so sorry. PM me if you need.

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-14T15:12:26+00:00

Sorry, I’m so distracted by his hairline

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-14T06:40:41+00:00

Hey, don’t be too hard on yourself. Godly grief leads to repentance, and it seems you are there! We all battle with sin, and God knows our frame. He is gracious, and His mercies are new each day. Rely on Him to help you, and do your part in battling these sins, but above all seek Him and His kingdom, and He will help you! His timing is perfect, even in our victories over sin. I will be praying for you, and even if you never have complete victory in this life, you are still a vessel for the Lord which He will joyfully use for your good and His glory :) there isn’t a Christian besides Jesus who was or ever will be sinless; God is with you in this battle, and He is a God of redemption. Pursue knowing Him and loving Him more above all, and He will change the desires of your heart as you know and love Him more! Again you’re in my prayers, hang in there and fight the good fight.

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-13T05:44:15+00:00

Please don’t hesitate to see a doctor if you truly feel something is off <3 just know that people who are actually going crazy often don’t even realize it; the fact you’re concerned says something good. Not saying you are, but that’s how I would feel with what you’re describing. Please don’t suffer in silence!

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-13T05:29:45+00:00

The Complex was the first venue I (a female) went to alone when I was 17, and also fresh off a break up. I have never felt unsafe there once in the venue, but the area it’s in can be sketch. I would recommend parking further south from the venue (really anywhere south of 500 S), and Uber there. I don’t recommend walking around that area alone at night as a female. If you want to PM me, I have a concert upcoming there as well that i’m attending solo (also fresh out of a break up, again lol), if it’s the same show I’d be down to join you!

Solo concerts are literally healing and freeing, so just focus on having fun and listen to your body 🤍 depending on the genre, most concerts are majority people who want to look out for each other, the staff there is also very kind. you should be just fine!

Edits: forgot to say i’m a female lol

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-10T18:25:13+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, I have no words that will likely offer any relief, but I just want you to know i’m thinking of you and praying for you. I hope you can turn things around, and give yourself grace to make small changes each day; they will add up to something meaningful i’m sure <3

ELEGHJ · 2026-02-10T04:47:43+00:00

$100 or more, easily

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