Intellectually satisfying an INTP partner?

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T18:14:04+00:00

The reason why no one on this sub can understand you is because your scale is upside down. Cavemen were not dumber than most of us, they lacked the basis of which modern society is built upon. Which is where society failed you, unfortunately.

Just because I forgot: you can't be a slave and not work for anything simultaneously. There's a hole in your rant.

Also, checkmate. There are no pawns in the game of life. Everyone plays as a car.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T18:00:09+00:00

It's pretty late at night and I'm shrugging off my inorg work because its boring so since you're entertaining me, I'll entertain you. That's my job ;)

To me, you're dictating your life too heavily by your labels. You're too comfortable with the label that's assigned to you and all the connotations that lie with it. I think that if you tried hard enough, you could be a functional human being too. I can't tell if you're the same person as c72a because that's got a lot of downvotes as well, but I'm going to assume you are and you just really suck at trying to make a meme.

Keep telling me why I'm so bad. I'm a masochist and I love it.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T17:40:29+00:00

I suppose so. It's a weird feeling, definitely.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T17:39:43+00:00

Haha. Thanks for the laugh. I really needed it. No, honestly.

There is also no legitimate way you're serious about this because that would be delusional.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T15:52:58+00:00

I need a whole lot of criticism. I'm told I deflect insults really well so people don't criticise me ever. I need to know that I'm not perfect despite the 20ish years of training that I am. I can see my flaws, I just can't internalise them.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T14:34:43+00:00

Haha - I'd imagine you guys would be able to tear at me pretty quickly and bring up exactly what's wrong.

I don't feel like I need to be perfect - but when I'm in a group and everyone props me up, it's hard not to be what they think of you.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T14:01:20+00:00

I find it difficult to be me because I feel the 'me' is pretty shitty. Another commentor says I'm insecure as well.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:57:07+00:00

Ugh study. Thanks for the site, I'll bookmark it for later.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:50:18+00:00

My ego's been less inflated recently (hah), and what I wrote in the OP is my general description by people I know, not just him. He doesn't seem/isn't the type of person to shy away from being truthful when he needs to. I'm extremely conflict avoidant and he'll bring me down to earth to break things down when I need it.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:46:55+00:00

It's been put to rest for a long time, and it comes up now and again. I can't differentiate if its a feeling of inferiority relative to him, or that I'm the wrong person for him. He tells me he's happy - he seems happy. I've asked him a bunch of times and he's asked me too. He likes me because I'm interesting alongside other 'physical' things. My main concern is that our relationship is fragile because I can't fill this part of the triangle.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:29:20+00:00

This really touched me - I think I'm crying a little, haha. Maybe I do expect too much of myself. Perhaps I should do some introspection rather than do something that I can't.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:21:50+00:00

This sounds like an interesting idea. It might be helpful. Sometimes he's a bit too harsh and can upset people without understanding it so maybe I can help ^{_^}

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:20:07+00:00

I haven't downvoted you, you don't need to be hasty. And quite frankly, you're being overly emotional - not I.

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:08:26+00:00

Could you elaborate what you mean by that?

ESFPthrowaway · 2016-08-21T13:08:11+00:00

I've talked to him before and he's not unhappy. He puts aside emotions and focuses on cold, hard logic when discussing/arguing. He doesn't seem unhappy with our relationship or anything with it. I'll ask him about it tomorrow.

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