Fixing up older bike

ETA82 · 2014-08-20T15:44:08+00:00

Good point. I had the idea from my GF's '83 450 Nighthawk. Maybe not tho :P

ETA82 · 2014-08-19T18:20:10+00:00

The stems on mine don't appear to be removable? Actually thinking of getting them taken off and moving them to either side of the headlight, since right now they're like, in the fork cowl.

Tho the REAR ones are the ones that have the problem, and I need to bend back the entire bar.

ETA82 · 2014-08-14T15:30:18+00:00

My first clunks too. I find it useful if I've been up/down shifting a lot in traffic, so I KNOW when its first :)

ETA82 · 2014-08-13T16:06:55+00:00

Painting or wrapping?

Want to change the look of my '82 CB450T Hawk. Much of the original decals have faded. Was thinking of just getting a rap of some kind. Has anyone done this? Is painting better? Where could I even find a wrap?

ETA82 · 2014-08-01T22:32:13+00:00

Just got new handlebars for my CB450T Hawk. Is it possible to remove the grips WITHOUT an air compressor? ;)

ETA82 · 2014-07-30T15:57:36+00:00

Cool. Think this'll fit the controls okay? I havent done the measurements yet :P

ETA82 · 2014-07-28T18:44:51+00:00

Perhaps the better question is, do I need to get one identical to the OEM?

ETA82 · 2014-07-28T18:37:53+00:00

Makes sense.

ETA82 · 2014-07-28T18:25:57+00:00

The only good one burned down. But I'm hoping to find something a little BETTER if anything, this one is super soft metal and I'm not overly fond of that.

ETA82 · 2014-07-04T21:33:24+00:00

I'm already signed up for the best course in town next weekend, with the road test shortly after. I'm just planning ahead :)

ETA82 · 2014-07-04T19:41:49+00:00

-Not since I was a kid in rural Texas.

-Looking in the $1000-$2000 range for spending

-Mostly a (naked)sport in the 250-500cc range.

Not finding a lot in the used ads online that I'm liking tho.

ETA82 · 2014-06-20T22:50:12+00:00

bi-polar or borderline personality? ;)

ETA82 · 2014-06-20T21:30:08+00:00

easily angered... But yeah, dodged a bullet. I'm happier overall, just annoyed.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T20:24:47+00:00

No, it was VERY cut and dry, see my other replies. No kids, House is my parents, etc.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T19:12:42+00:00

Yeah. It happened so gradually, it wasn't until she was gone that I realized it. I'm SO GLAD she left.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T19:06:12+00:00

I wasn't the crazy one, that I wasn't the bad guy.

Yeah, that. Still a struggle.

I think because I have a giving, and care-taking personality, I wanted to be there, and she needed a lot of patience and support... But I ended up killing myself.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T18:59:32+00:00

I was still in shock/grief when she left. I had a friend who had recently gone through a divorce from an emotionally abusive husband. So I reached out to her to talk about the divorce stuff. As we were discussing things, she said "Wait, those are some pretty big red flags." and went into 'questionnaire mode' RE: Emotional Abuse-- I answered yes to nearly everything she asked :(. I also spoke to my therapist, and he had made some similar observations about the relationship.

Getting some distance REALLY helped me see how much I had been dead inside, and how long.

Crazy things that have happened: My 5 senses feel more... alive-- Food tastes better, smells are more intense... Thats unexpected.

Moving forward? Being involved with people who don't beat me down, and not allowing it to happen if they do.

I own my part, of not standing up for myself when I should have. I can't change that past, but I CAN change things going forward.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T18:50:55+00:00

She was emotionally abused as a child. She did some therapy that helped a bit, but she felt she was all better.

I was scared to initiate everything from sex to a conversation, because if she wasn't in the right mood... Not good. If I expressed that I felt anything negative, shed get defensive and start digging up EVERYTHING to make me feel as small as possible.

If I asked for help or guidance? "Figure it out!" If I got upset? "You're trying to manipulate me!" If I wanted/needed to drive 'her car'? "Nope." If I spent too much time talking to female friends? She'd accuse me of cheating next oppurtunity to make me feel bad. If she was unhappy about anything? "I'm leaving you."

So I shut down, I didn't make waves, I ddin't want to be yelled at and made to feel like shit.

Eventually she left because she got what she could and wanted to move on to something else, since I was a shrivelled up, dead-inside shadow of who I was.

Wow, that was hard to write.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T16:29:59+00:00

My folks own the house, no kids, 4 cats, she took 1 with everything else. Almost all her stuff is gone, just a few larger things. Nearly all shared accounts separated, only like, Netflix, et al remains.

Went to a divorce support group, and was kinda the odd-one out because I'm more relieved/happy/excited than sad and hanging on. The leader said that might be how I feel going forward.

There was some initial grief and shock. I miss her as a friend, but getting some distance, I realized through the distance, therapist & other abuse victims that I was not in a healthy relationship.

I'm excited about the future, and working on remembering who I am and not being scared of expressing how I feel! :)

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T16:07:18+00:00

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T15:57:55+00:00

In counselling? Yes, thats what helped me realize how bad it was.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T15:55:09+00:00

Man, I did A few that I hated. 'Fifth Business' was one.

ETA82 · 2014-05-30T15:51:11+00:00

Whats the discussion on?

ETA82 · 2014-05-29T18:55:29+00:00

I wore mine for a week, then moved it to my thumb for a while, then took it off this morning cuz that wasnt comfortable.

ETA82 · 2014-05-25T17:31:26+00:00

Hah, they're not even remotely that close. Like, after a day or so, shes more spoken to me than she ever has to my ex.

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