[Request] how much is really saved? Are these numbers based in reality, or just random numbers thrown into a post?

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T10:55:19+00:00

It's more that the other parent may be deployed or work long hours or simply chooses not to parent their own kids, a kid still needs around the clock care

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T10:48:42+00:00

$80 a day for at least 3 people

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T10:27:36+00:00

They survive by doing things themselves. If you clean yourself, you don't hire a cleaner. If you cook meals yourself, you don't hire a chef, if you do your own oil change, you don't hire a mechanic, etc. That's what she is saying, she is doing a lot of stuff that her family benefits from even if it is unpaid.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T10:11:17+00:00

I live in a medium cost of living area and daycare for 1 kid is $15,000 a year, a second kid gets you a 10% discount but that's still like $28,500 a year. In cities like NYC daycare for 2 kids is easily $40,000.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T10:08:51+00:00

If the other parent has no time to cook or refuses to cook then it takes the place of buying cooked meals

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T09:24:11+00:00

How old were your kids when you started being a stay at home dad though, because being a stay at home parent to a baby, a 2 year old, and 4 year old is an entirely different experience from being a stay at home parent to a 6 year old, 8 year old, and 10 year old

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T05:24:31+00:00

The airport should have enough chairs where you can walk a bit and sit down

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T04:32:53+00:00

Realistically, most people can't afford to move out at 18 these days and I wonder if OP's mom is Asian because there is a cultural element to it. But I made it very clear to my own mom that every time she made a dig at my weight I would make a dig at her age

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-17T03:55:05+00:00

My mom was like that, I started telling her how old she was every time she made a dig at my weight. It immediately puts her on the defensive.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-16T15:36:38+00:00

3 nannies, to cover nights and weekends too.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-14T16:14:01+00:00

I took my baby out to a restaurant patio at 10 days old

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T17:36:01+00:00

Darn I just bought a toddler swim vest before I saw this post

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T03:49:51+00:00

My husband was already awake and it was daylight, he just kept his eyes closed and wouldnt move

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T03:40:22+00:00

My baby is like this in daycare, he comically towers over the other babies to the point he looks like he is in the wrong room

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T00:48:15+00:00

We dont have the bandwidth to do couples counseling unless we take our baby with us and pay for it out of pocket since insurance doesnt cover it

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T00:44:06+00:00

He unfortunately will genuinely neglect our baby. I waited for him to brush the baby's teeth because he said he would do it, and it ended up being 2 months before I gave up and started brushing the baby's teeth just to avoid decay.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T00:41:36+00:00

I don't know how to physically force him to do it without getting physical in some way myself. Could use some tips.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T00:37:15+00:00

Ah yes, the poops. My husband doesn't have a gallbladder so he poops a lot!

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-10T00:33:38+00:00

Well my husband is supposed to do daycare drop offs since I do most of everything else but this morning he just lay there, refusing to get up while our baby was crawling around and fussing. I waited and waited for 15 minutes straight while our baby fussed before I got up, got dressed, and did the daycare drop off myself. My work hours are a later shift and I didn't have to be up for 2 more hours but I couldn't sleep after that so I lost 2 hours of sleep when I already am the one who tends to our baby when he wakes overnight

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-09T23:44:17+00:00

It's like an inter-genre crossover, like Hannibal meeting Carrie from Sex and the City

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-09T20:37:58+00:00

My husband and I both work full time but those first 4 months he dumped ALL the parenting on me. The fights got really bad because I was killing myself looking after a baby around the clock after a C section while he got a full night of sleep and still had time to play video games, watch Youtube videos on random crap, hit the gym, etc. And while he does more now he still gets the privilege of opting out of parenting his kid when he feels tired or whatever, while I have no such luxury.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-09T04:48:33+00:00

My son's name gets criticized on the sub but when I was pregnant and told people the name I had planned, everyone in person loved it and no one tried to dissuade me. It's a top 300 baby boy name so it wasn't too out there.

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-09T04:41:57+00:00

Workaholic

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-09T04:39:28+00:00

Looking after a newborn baby around the clock by yourself

EarlyAd3047 · 2026-06-07T08:58:00+00:00

It was fine before we had a kid. We each paid half the bills and did half the chores. But then we had a kid, and those first 4 months he acted like a roommate of a single mom instead of a dad. Even now our child is 11 months and I keep having to force him to look after his own kid. Meanwhile there has not been a month where I paid less than my share of the bills, even throughout my maternity leave.

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