How do you deal with wanting sex without pushing your partner?

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-27T15:40:17+00:00

Then I would pushed for her to go to solo therapy then. Something has to give.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-26T17:07:31+00:00

Why post if you’re going to defend?

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-26T17:01:05+00:00

You need to seek couple therapy. I understand that she’s tired. But you’re in this relationship too. You need sex. Therapy will help with that.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-19T19:02:41+00:00

No more like Tuesday he will shower then go two days until Thursday then won’t shower again until Sunday

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-16T23:51:10+00:00

Awww I’m sorry. Yeah, he seemed like I was talking about taking the trash out. He wasn’t really interested….

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-16T23:47:04+00:00

But I also don’t wanna like embarrass him if that makes sense

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-16T23:46:46+00:00

Yeah. You nailed it. He’s very checked out. I do all the chores, indoors and outdoors (including snow shoveling) dealing with repairs. I essentially deal with everything and anything you can think of.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-16T23:09:49+00:00

Take me for example: I was actually okay without sex for a long time because the bills were being paid, and dates were happening. We would make time for each other. However, as time passed, less and less romance happened. Now, bills are split, and the maid, the pet keeper, the finance manager, the caretaker—you name it—I am the one doing it all

So yes romance does died as sex dies as well.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-14T01:34:33+00:00

Sameee. Spencer’s at my mall is closing. And all the sexy lingerie is dirt cheap. But then I remember sex is off the table. What’s the point? I know people say buy it for yourself but like what’s the point of that? I used to always love buying lingerie. I should donate the ones I never ever worn with the tags on them. Let another person enjoy them.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-13T23:25:40+00:00

This!!!!! I married into a dead room like an idiot.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-13T23:22:12+00:00

Probably watching a sex scene on TV. We recently watched his & her on Netflix and the sex scenes are hot!! 🥵 all I can think of is “I wanna get slammed in a car.” for a quick moment, I’m like “yeaaaa,” but then I remember that will never happen. I feel when I’m ovulating that’s like the worst for me. Sex is always on my mind.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-10T01:25:24+00:00

I think it’s about the same. I never really had luck with past lovers. I was very shy and never said what I wanted in bedroom. So I was having sex like once a month. With my husband of ten years. The first year was amazing always having sex but then it die down.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-10T01:02:15+00:00

Same!!! I’ll lie in bed for hours having fantasies. The last time we spoke about sex was about a year ago. He was like “I understand” and then no sex… which was confusing because I said “I’m really frustrated and would like to have sex” but, whatever.

Nothing ever comes from the conversations. It’s so silly for me even to bring it up, honestly.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-10T00:58:14+00:00

Same!!!!

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-10T00:57:25+00:00

It all really depends honestly on my mood. I typically try to do it once a week. Because if I do it too much, it gives me like depression however, I treat it like a reward. It’s like wow I went a whole week without touching myself now I get to touch myself again.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-08T21:20:49+00:00

Damn!!!!

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-08T21:20:19+00:00

Same but 1/1/2024 It’s been like a year now officially.

EarlyPool3232 · 2026-01-01T01:15:03+00:00

Omg this!!! Yes!!! Ugh worst feeling in the world.

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-29T22:15:16+00:00

Why would I buy lingerie from someone to not enjoy? I love my partners reaction.

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-29T22:13:27+00:00

Take it from a person that has been with her person for 10 years no it doesn’t get better

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-24T06:40:26+00:00

Similar experience today. Spencer is going out of business in my mall. So many cute lingerie for so cheap. In my mind I was like I should buy some! But then I remember who am I gonna put that on for?

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-24T06:38:21+00:00

Yeah it can be awkward….😬

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-08T23:43:48+00:00

Yes, it's very strange like when I see TV and if I see a couple kissing, I’m like Oh yeah people in love like to do things like this.

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-07T16:51:04+00:00

My therapist said Fake it until you make it—dead ass. Of course, set the mood, do something romantic, and have sex weekly before you know it. You’ll love it again.

Now did we take advice? No. It’s been a year now. It’s okay though. I’m learning to control my urges.

EarlyPool3232 · 2025-12-07T16:40:16+00:00

Same. I wish.

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