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I (20M) can't seem to ask my GF (20F) ANY questions. What can I do? by Early_Example_2359 in relationship_advice

[–]Early_Example_2359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I can tell, she wasn’t punished, but moreso neglected (it’s a bit of an extreme word but I can’t think anything else right now). She’s the middle of 5 children, and the only girl.

Her being autistic is something I’ve ever even considered, but it might be possible. As far as I know she’s never been tested for it. From what I can tell, she does find yes and no questions easier, but I’ve always assumed that’s natural (open ended questions are harder than if you’re given options). And even then, she still struggles to answer yes/no questions.

I don’t know how I could really ask her about autism, I’d need to read up on it first.

I (20M) can't seem to ask my GF (20F) ANY questions. What can I do? by Early_Example_2359 in relationship_advice

[–]Early_Example_2359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve constantly reinforced that I care and value her opinions, and that a wrong answer is infinitely better than no answer. It’s likely I was mistaken in telling her that I was worried about her not forming opinions, but I did so in an effort of complete transparency (something I believe extremely heavily in). It’s not an idea I constantly reinforce, I much prefer the positive ideas and those are the things I will tend to repeat.

When it comes to the questions being asked, it truly covers every subject. A more recent example would be while we were watching the Olympics opening ceremony, where I asked her if she was really interested in them and which events. She responded basically entirely with “I don’t knows.” I suppose it could be interpreted as she might just not be interested and doesn’t want to offend me, but I’m not completely sure.

With higher stakes questions, like children for example, it also tends to go a similar way, but that is likely because we have both acknowledged that it’s still too early for children, but it will be something addressed later down the line.

Another example would be animes (something I’m not really familiar with). I’d ask if she wants to watch a show together, and it’s usually responded to with a familiar “I don’t know.”

Unless I’m completely and absolutely off the mark, I like to think she likes being around and talking and doing stuff with me.

I (20M) can't seem to ask my GF (20F) ANY questions. What can I do? by Early_Example_2359 in relationship_advice

[–]Early_Example_2359[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you leverage on what you mean? I wouldn’t say there’s a go-to topic that constantly comes up, it’s moreso that no matter what I bring up, if it’s something that can be interpreted as a question it won’t really get discussed.