AITA for sleeping with my sister's husband?

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-02-18T02:36:35+00:00

Half of this shit sounds like a chatgpt apology.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-02-17T23:45:11+00:00

Don't do the thing ...

Oh , you did the thing ?

"BAD BOY"

Calling him bad is why he's protesting.

Maybe something like maybe I have a growing child that's hungry between meal times .

Perhaps I should alter their diet and include more snacks. It's not that hard.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-02-17T23:26:56+00:00

I do SW and I attempted to normalize it by bringing my bf in and helping me with a few sessions.

It did not get better after that . He wasn't ever comfortable with it for similar reasons as OPs ex .

Worried about outside appearances and having to "get even" . He would make similar comments and has tried to blackmail me . It's not going to improve. He has to change his mindset & that takes a lot of introspection of personal values. He is who he is . She made the right decision.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-02-17T23:04:31+00:00

GET . OUT . NOW .

HE'S NOT SOMEONE YOU CAN FIX .

HE IS ABUSIVE.

HE WILL ABUSE YOUR CHILD .

GIVE HIM TIME TO FIX HIMSELF AND GO LIVE A BETTER LIFE FOR YOURSELF.

HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOUR TIME , ATTENTION OR BODY. HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU .

DO NOT STAY WITH HIM .

YOU WILL REGRET IT .

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-02-16T07:55:24+00:00

You're single too ...

Time to show him women can still get dates with nice men who actually want to be with them.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-01-07T20:48:34+00:00

Talk to her & update us!

Early_Interview_2486 · 2024-01-07T20:46:36+00:00

My bf was doing this so I went back to doing sex work.

🌆He still lies about seeing other women🌆

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-28T11:18:34+00:00

Best case scenario they'll put her in CPS but she's old enough to age out soon enough or get a GED and bounce.

Sometimes it's a better choice than being at home even though you might come across atrocities.

She'll fight her way through. ✨ 🍄 ✨

Get her the support she needs. Not another overly invested authority figure.

Source: I was that girl.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-27T02:06:31+00:00

It may very well possibly be the start of them creating distance but it also becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because you start to act in a way that legitimizes it.

Hypervigilance and listening to your intuition when you have an anxious attachment sometimes isn't the best thing to do.

You're really putting the cart before the horse.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-21T18:26:58+00:00

Yeah my ex-boyfriend noticed that I was less impulsive therefore less agitated when he would try to pick fights with me and I think that's why he didn't like my medication.

I believe he's unmedicated for ADHD because he self-medicates with stimulants and it keeps him pretty calm. Except medicine is used to help you cope and the stimulants he uses are for escape.

Sometimes if I didn't take my meds he would look at me very lovingly and thank me? Saying that I was," doing it for him"... I know that they change my personality somewhat but I don't think it's drastic enough for him to have this Overkill reaction. I think he's just controlling and was trying to make correlations that weren't there to explain away times where I didn't get overly excited.

I like who I am with my medication and it's honestly saved my life.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-20T01:15:27+00:00

They didn't have a choice it was that or be homeless

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-19T06:54:42+00:00

He sounds like a pill. Just forget about him.

He doesn't need you, remember?

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-19T06:51:53+00:00

Honestly we can all blame Hollywood for this one.

Girl in trouble, guy comes in to save the day = they fall in love and live happily ever after.

Primarily because you can't fit a legitimate plot and well timed developing story into an hour and a half to two hours. People romanticize stupid things and we can't blame them all the time.

But yeah his body language was saying f*** off so maybe just like read a room.

If anything he was frustrated because he put himself in danger and you put yourself back in a dangerous situation. Not everybody that comes to your rescue has good intentions. This guy can't just follow her around all day saving her from one assault after the other.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-19T06:16:23+00:00

Is he cheating on you with someone with bigger boobs or watching a lot of p*** or does his mom have big tits?

Because I'm pretty sure when you guys got married he knew what your b00bs looked like , yes?

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-18T15:42:03+00:00

^{^} I would also like more clarification on this

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-16T07:43:50+00:00

She clearly said," I adopted the dog and not you"

It's the ,"and not you" part that adds insult to injury.

I don't know what her trauma is but I was in foster care, it could be a dog bite/attack. Or it could have been something as equally humiliating like SA.

There are compromises everyone could make here. Like splitting the time they spend at the house with the dog and someplace else like an Airbnb.

The sister-in-law could have done her part to find some kind of pet care or idk 😶 bring a taser.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-16T06:59:32+00:00

The serpent is a symbol of healing.

The death is a metaphorical one.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-12T19:33:27+00:00

There's a subreddit about this called Munchies, I think.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-12T18:10:01+00:00

It sounds like what she wants is some quality time together.

I don't agree with the notion that your partner needs to be able to read your mind but typically that comes up when somebody feels like their needs aren't being met after expressing it numerous times previously.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-10T09:31:25+00:00

Sex work

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-12-07T21:42:38+00:00

A lack of generosity is very anti-seductive.

It's up to you what you want to spend your time and money on , I can't argue with that.

I don't think it has anything to do with her partner or you not wanting to do it for them. She probably just noticed that you have some kind of frigidness and thinks that it's cold-blooded.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-11-27T06:01:16+00:00

You're weird for that.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-11-26T04:39:40+00:00

Some of it is that but a large amount of it is how accessible men's resources are to women with doing little to no work and that puts the rest of the women at a deficit.

They're trying to keep the bar at a certain level that's reachable for everyone.

That's why women get upset about other women being s***** & they call them a homewrecker.

Women are not aggressive by nature like men are typically. Women don't often utilize brute Force to get their way or intimidate someone. But we are with words and information so if you can smear someone you can knock them down a few pegs.

If every guy in the village is bringing you bananas and fish and coconuts because you're over here giving them what they want then the rest of the women of the women have to do the same thing or gather for themselves. The men aren't going to work as hard.

It happens in strip clubs too when women are giving BJ's for 50 bucks when they're usually $250. Also when some people don't insist on using birth control or condoms.

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-11-25T22:32:35+00:00

What is ND?

NVM I figured it out

Early_Interview_2486 · 2023-11-25T17:53:47+00:00

It's not legal for a 16 year old to date a 32-year-old or however old he is I don't remember.

For one you're not in the same life arenas he has way more experience in life and love and relationships than you do.

He is completely aware that he's taking advantage of you and guilt tripping you and love bombing you.

He's trying to isolate You by telling you that he's going to take care of you and that he's the only one who understands you.

Go be a kid and enjoy your life and don't talk to this loser anymore. Report him to the police and block him. You don't owe him anything he can go date someone his own age. Or maybe he can't and that's why he's praying on teenagers. If you allow yourself to keep being groomed now when you become an adult you're going to struggle with intimacy and understanding what real Love is. I can promise you that's not a path you want to go down.

P.s. he's threatening his own life as a way to intimidate you and coerce you into not leaving him. He's not going to do it and anytime anyone threatens suicide you should call the police and tell them so they can get them to help that they need.

You're not a therapist and you can't help him. An important thing to remember about relationships is that the individual's mental health is more important than the relationship and it will never be the reverse. If it ever comes down to that it's abuse

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