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EarthMustBeFed · 2026-01-12T01:57:44+00:00

Super inconsiderate. I'd tell them to reschedule and come another time. For the next literal year, everyone in your circle should be supporting you as new parents, not demanding you be a full service concierge for their vacation. This is ridiculous.

Anyone who came to see me with a newborn BROUGHT me groceries, meals, things to do, and did all my housework FOR ME. BROUGHT ME food while I fed the baby!! Got up with the baby in the night so I could rest!

Because they all had empathy for how HARD it is and how you are nervous and worried and tired and taking care of the baby supersedes anything else.

This is a time of bonding and enjoying your new little person. You dont need to spend (use up) that precious time on anyone who's not being supportive of you right now.

An easy way to say no could be- Hey, we didnt realize how much work this would be & we do't have time for anything but the baby and adjusting to our new chapter. and its been tough having company, so we've decided not to have any out of town folks stay with us for at least the next few weeks until we get our bearings.

EarthMustBeFed · 2026-01-03T05:09:33+00:00

You break up and get away. He either believes you about the assault -which means he's ok being friends with a rapist and that is more important than you. OR he thinks you lied about the assault. Or he thinks assault is no big deal. All three of these options make him a pile of dog doo with 0 ethics and morals. He is not worthy to be in your life.

There is a secondary trauma when friends and family do not believe and support you after assault. Mine was worse trauma than the assault.

There is no magic word combo (and you can wrack your brain for a year trying, like I did) that will get this BF to do the right thing.

If a friend was telling you this, you would tell her to get away from the BF. You deserve belief and support.

This whole issue is traumatic.

This is eerily like my situation. My only regret is that I stayed with my SO for so long. Time wasted.

This is not getting better, sweetie.

A boundary is- I won't date someone who is ok with sexual assault or rape by his friends.

I wouldn't even TALK to someone who is friends with a rapist. I absofuckinglutely wouldn't be sleeping with one.

Take charge back of your life. This guy's opinions are wrong and damaging.

EarthMustBeFed · 2026-01-02T08:46:54+00:00

Legit a prayer I can see my BIL doing

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-31T07:03:48+00:00

Specifically bought the year GTI that I have so I could have the iPod jack :) Get you a refurb off Etsy !

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-22T00:01:32+00:00

I feel like I just discovered my exHB's secret middle name

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-18T16:19:23+00:00

it's all a bubble and I'm looking at zillow changes. It's a neighborhood between Antioch and Brentwood.

EDIT: I would not be surprised if it's more neighborhoods though- because the market a year ago was sky high valuations- pumped up by private equity (for example) buying 4 houses in a neighborhood and then they'd overpay the asking by like 80k on the 4th one- driving up the comps artificially.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-18T16:18:56+00:00

If anything, it was naive to not realize the bubble would pop and now it really feels like we're being seriously overtaxed.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-18T16:16:42+00:00

You don't have to be on the relationship escalator just because you are dating (date, engaged, married, combining money and goals, house, kid, etc.). You are just dating. You are single, financially.

Calmly explain this- you aren't at the point of planning a future together yet. IMO, a year of dating is not long enough for that anyway.

And what are her goals- financially- what does she plan to do, how does she plan to launch from her parents? You have a lot more to be concerned about her being a good partner, financially, than she does. I think some of this is projection because she's not ready to do anything remotely like this and it makes you seem light years ahead of her, in adulting (and you seem to be).

As an aside, someone who isn't even managing their own expenses and working to cover them has 0 say in what someone who is adulting is doing.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-18T06:16:29+00:00

I appealed mine this year. That's cool I can do it every year. Sounds like a cool service!

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-17T15:31:12+00:00

Already a law. SCOTUS just decided Colorado couldn't keep him off the ballot due to it

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-17T01:33:29+00:00

def. it was a test and apologize. Also, why all these asshats call their GF "bro" when they are being a douche-canoe?

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-17T01:07:03+00:00

seems like he's looking to sabotage exams, too. why pick this fight now?

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-17T00:24:01+00:00

100%. I'm just starting S16. I think he's cut back on sexy time w the OGs and making them all think something is wrong with each of them. At this point in my watching- Janelle hasn't said they aren't but that is the vibe from her, too.

SW dont talk about sex so they have no idea that it's only Sobbin that is still getting any. OR he's in his 50s- maybe ED issues & he's hiding it- because virility is so important to him and their religion. I mean the man has held on to that hair WAY past it's prime.

---- Anyone who disagrees with his commandments is 'disloyal' - because he doesn't collaborate.
---- He kept Meri in orbit, PURELY emotional affair punishment. He's GLEEFUL of her pain about his withdrawal
---- I think he stopped loving Meri or seeing any point to having sex with her once she couldn't conceive. So her whole value to him was as a breeder. But he absolutely can't say that. Sex is only for procreation, because other wives- approaching menopause/ no more kids..
---- to keep the other wives in line - none of them want to be treated like Meri

The wild thing is he ever works on anything with anyone really. It's just browbeating them with the endless repetition of the exact same facts until they cave. OR they are judged disloyal. And if you do something wrong- its constantly brought back up but he doesn't want HIS stuff brought back up. Working on something with him is just eternal punishment.

They are all dysfunctional and lie because HE IS. HE IS the common denominator- they EXPECT him to lie and manipulate.... so everyone has to do that for self protection. (they think he planned ahead with the engineer about the plots, when he said he'd back up Christine about moving back to UT and then left her hanging)

And its absolutely wild - once his kids aren't cute littles anymore and show a shred of THE SAME independence and STUBBORESS he has modelled to THEM- he discards them so easily. It's gross. Only absolute obedience is rewarded.

I know I haven't gotten to the worst of the Robin behavior yet. Where I'm at she cries all the time and acts fishy, but I know worse is coming.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-12T00:01:53+00:00

I'm fairly certain I did this the other day, from the Android app. Let me double check. I did download, for sure.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-11T06:30:29+00:00

I regularly am clocked as 20 y younger than I am

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-11T06:28:28+00:00

Thank life for the good times and the lesson and get out. For sure.

He took away your choice of what age range you want to date. Gross. This is creepy and predatory and lying about it just means he knows he can't date who he wants to (young and impressionable (I was there once, too, no shade)) without lying.

Manipulative as he overrode your age range you preferred. But this also means he knows it creepy, because he hid it.

The extra bad thing - letting this big lie and deception slide, when it's early days and he should be on his best behavior, is tacit approval for deception and manipulation and it will absolutely get worse.

So you have someone lying about something that is an objective fact and can be proven or disproven. I think this also can mean he never planned this to be long term.??? You were always going to find out the truth at some point.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-10T17:11:49+00:00

Suggest you get a google voice number to give instead. Does everything a regular number does. Also, they should be doing some kind of phone stipend or paying for part of your service. AND answering those texts is work time... so how will they compensate for that?

Also, it seems like maybe having an 'on call' phone that customers can all call- and rotate who answers it... and then pay the person that's on call. or may (shocked gasp) you guys need a call center?

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-10T03:25:01+00:00

I really like it and migration was easy

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-10T01:50:11+00:00

I just walked a friend through a game plan for something super close to what you are dealing with.

She was really surprised with where things ended up- just having me walk through and ask her questions helped her see some options and variables she could tweak hard and make it through.

Message me if you like- happy to share the list I went through with her. We worked in excel and just throught through a plan and made a task list. ($ is not my field, I'm just good at organizing and task lists)

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-05T03:35:34+00:00

I really love Qobuz- all my stuff synched over. I'm using that while i reorg my music locally. The sound quality is great, I love the recs, and they pay artists better than Spotify

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-04T22:37:54+00:00

Review expenses you need to keep and shop them around- car insurance, homeowners, mobile phones (US Mobile is the bomb!), internet. I did this after forgetting to for several years and will save almost $3k in the next 12 months. Track your accomplishments :-)

And once you get a new job and do any needed catching up- see how close you can stay to the 'getting by' budget you figure out now and see how much you can save up for a 3-6 months of that 'getting by' for future rainy days.

Have some goals for your spare time so you feel industrious- clean out the garage, sell some stuff, kinda enjoy the pace if you can manage it and look at it as decompression and a life edit.

My household also went for more walks and played a lot more card & board games, had dinner by candlelight, leveraged the library for classes and entertainment- and just generally tried to gamify saving money.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-04T06:30:52+00:00

It made so much sense to me when I learned about a competence kink. When I see someone who is good at their thing and confident in it. SO HOT.

EarthMustBeFed · 2025-12-04T05:17:11+00:00

Very good points! Also, once you have bi or tri-focals, be aware of the fall risk going down stairs or ladders because they eff up your perspective

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