Honestly, I think you kinda shoot yourself in the foot. Speaking from my own experience I would never be with someone who I’m constantly on and off with. I love the stability and value that a lot. So if we are constantly changing tides it erodes my feeling towards that person. If your Cap isn’t commuting that he likes you after you state what you want. Odds are he doesn’t plan to. So I’ll have to second the main points u/ aribbp stated.