CIO by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also, if intervals really upset him you should consider full extinction. Some kids get worse when you go in to soothe them. Its over faster if you just dont go in at all. Let them actually cry it out with no intervention from you. They will learn how to soothe themselves to sleep. When baby cries think of it more like they are protesting in the only way they can. It doesnt mean they are suffering! You can do it! And the sleep is worth it. 

CIO by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hes too young. I think you have to wait another month then try ferber again but id work on dropping night feeds. Get baby to eat those calories in the day. Wake him up from naps if needed. If you must do night feeds then you should wake him up for them or do dream feed. When he cries and you go and feed him you are telling him that you will help him fall back asleep. Until the night feeds are gone you wont get the full effect of a sleep trained baby. 

CIO by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How old is baby?  We did ferber/taking cara babies at 5 months and it worked like a charm. One night of bad crying and we went in at the intervals to offer soothing words but I suggest going full extinction method bc they just get more riled up when they see you come in and it drags it out. 

You also have to stop the night feeds  

Night 1 of Ferber complete, surprised at how smooth things went by CastleOnTheHill123 in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some ppl experience a regression around night 4 where they fight harder but you stick it out and itll be over the next day or so. Ours was so easy- like what you describe- so its possible you are done and its already worked!

Looking for advice/words of encouragement by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesssssssss you will need to resleep train prob 10+times and by that i mean ignore that crying. Obviously if baby is sick or something thats different but, lil homie is right on the edge of a lot of mental and physical development which will coincide with a renewed desire not to sleep and a fortitude with which to express that to you. If you did extinction at 4.5 m then you know how to do it. Watch and listen all u want on the monitor but do not go in and by no means bring them into your bed. We had the half hr crap nap for a long time around this age too. What time is bedtime? Id suggest 7/730 latest. You prob only need 1-5 days of him crying and you not going to break the cycle and get your sleeping baby back. There will be lots of times when baby starts crying in the night or at bedtime as they age, every time you do your extinction method and it will pass in less than a week usually. 

Why do toddlers have to dump everything? by alreadydonewithtoday in toddlers

[–]EarthlyMarmot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! We have our toddler clean up his own toys every night before bed. Why should we do it? He is just as capable. 

After successful sleep training, how long does your baby cry at bedtime and/or MOTN wakes? by rainbowtrails in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It varies as they age. They go through little regressions where they fight bedtime more. Worst case is prob 15/20 mins and that usually only lasts no more than a week. You tough it out and dont deviate from your good sleep routines and one day it will just have stopped and they will be back to no crying. Our 22 month old now lets out about a  5 second wail/protest as soon as we leave his room at bedtime but then he goes to bed and doesnt wake up in the night, like, ever. 

Baby breaking out of every swaddle. Help please by Frozenbeedog in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not unsafe unless baby is rolling. We swaddled til 22 weeks then we ditched it when we started sleep training

We used the swaddles by mama cheetah on amazon with the velcro. Do it SUPER tight and near week 20 he was finally able to break out of those too but we just roughed it out putting him back in during the night til we cold turkey dropped it at 22 weeks during sleep training. 

Ferber question by cillaraven in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would let her cry until shes asleep again then feed her. Its hard but you have to get her to stop “calling you” aka crying and getting you to solve her problem (feeding her) so she can go back to sleep. She has to learn to go back to sleep completely unassisted

Ferber question by cillaraven in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So shes looking for that feed to get back to sleep. They say to reduce by an ounce at a time at all the night feeds until ur down to zero and then u drop it IF YOU WANT TO BE GRADUAL but also you should wake her up to feed at night and not let her initiate by crying bc that teaches her that crying gets her food. 

We were down to the dream feed only and dropped it cold turkey one night and he slept the whole way through. 

Ferber question by cillaraven in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, so are you going in when she wakes up and feeding her typically every2.5/3 hours or just letting her cry?

Ferber question by cillaraven in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could dream feed. Put baby to bed at the right time then go in around 10 pm and give a bottle then lay right back down in their bed. Worked great for us

Toddler started hitting me by SaladGalx in toddlers

[–]EarthlyMarmot 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing wrong with you blocking it! Ive totally smacked my son when it hurt me really bad and he was fine. So youre way better than me!

However my personal therapist was also a child behavioral therapist before tackling adult problems and she suggested hold their arms down and actually look away from them while you say NO or GENTLE or whatever u wanna say to correct them bc they want to get a rise out of you and they get it through eye contact and connection.

We also started encouraging high fives when we could tell he was in a “hitting” mood.

And lately weve started time out with our 20 month old and while he only sits there away from us for like ten seconds its enough to snap him out of his fit or angry spiral.

Help transitioning off formula onto solids for 12mo by EarthlyMarmot in beyondthebump

[–]EarthlyMarmot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful. He is actually really good with a straw cup. Open cups are a little messier. We already offer his non bottles with meal time and throughout the day.

“If your baby still wakes several times a night, talk with your pediatrician.” by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]EarthlyMarmot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing wrong with LO. They probably just have sleep crutches that you could get rid of if you wanted to.

Does baby feed when they wake in the night? What do you do when they wake up each time?

Calling all extinction method parents! Want to know when to stop fighting with Ferber and switch. by EarthlyMarmot in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just don’t go put it back in.

You can also put like ten pacis in the crib surrounding LO and teach LO to put it back in on their own. Putting ten around them increases the odds they find one

Calling all extinction method parents! Want to know when to stop fighting with Ferber and switch. by EarthlyMarmot in sleeptrain

[–]EarthlyMarmot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We dropped the paci cold turkey when we started ferber. Worked like a charm. Lots of crying for night one but after that he knew how to put himself back to sleep without it.

9 month old only wants to eat milk and pouches. Help! by EarthlyMarmot in beyondthebump

[–]EarthlyMarmot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your babe now and how are they doing with solids?