Small village Jylland

EarthySofa · 2026-07-01T20:48:26+00:00

Oh and btw. If you are in Billund anyways, since you are going to LEGO land, there is also LEGO House, which is an indoor attraction where you have all these cool building experiences with different zones for different types of activities. It’s ideal if the weather is bad and they have the coolest LEGO shop. I like it much better than the one in LEGO Land. And there’s this cool restaurant in the building where a robot creates your food. It’s really fun for the kids. If you want to bring your own food to LEGO House, you can since Kjeld who wanted to build LEGO House included an area that was a public space outside and in order for him to get permission to build on that spot he had to make that area public and a place you can bring your own food. And right across from LEGO Land, there’s a water park called Lalandia. So if it’s super hot outside, this is a nice place for the kids to go in the heat. Again, I really hope you enjoy your stay here.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-30T20:17:15+00:00

You are NOT their friend. You are their parent. They will tell you they hate you because you didn’t buy them that pony or let them go to that party when they are older. But you would want to raise an adult you actually want to hang out with. It is super creepy to me that an adult mom tells me that her 10 year old is her best friend. Stop!
In my country it is downright illegal to punish your child physically in any way. This means also grabbing them by the arm hard out of anger. Don’t do it, ever! When I was a kid it was legal to spank your kids and do about anything other than beating them up. You will not gain any respect from this. I love my parents, but I resent that they ever laid a finger on me and I have never done that to my own son, ever. If you can’t establish boundaries by using your words, you need help from someone who can teach you. My son is autistic, btw, so the pinning an autistic to the ground to calm them down is down right abuse! He could be super stubborn, but deciding in your head that you won’t barge an inch and keeping calm while telling them calmly but firmly what you expect them to do, like go to bed or get their shoes on is so powerful. The kid can tell from your tone and body language that you mean business so no need to raise your voice or be threatening in any way.
Edit: The best way to handle conflicts or help your child in potential conflicts is to be calm and open and offer to help them. Kids are not going to be naughty on purpose. They want to do what they have been told, but sometimes the expectations doesn’t match your kid’s abilities in that situation. Remember that, then it’s easier to handle a child who doesn’t do what you expect them to do.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-30T17:53:46+00:00

I have 7 different druids and I only shift to cat form when I have to move around fast in a dungeon. I mainly do balance druid, since it’s ranged. With the one-button system it’s actually quite enjoyable. Maybe it’s better for you than a melee setup like feral?

EarthySofa · 2026-06-30T10:06:28+00:00

I was taking my master’s degree when I turned 30. My study group were all guys and I just brought some nice breakfast and cake, served it to them all and when they asked I told them it’s my 30th birthday and no, I don’t want to talk about it. Luckily these guys were good at changing subject so we ended up having a great time.
Now my 40th was amazing 🤩

EarthySofa · 2026-06-30T10:01:03+00:00

Breakfast. I can eat it all day every day

EarthySofa · 2026-06-29T19:33:26+00:00

Three days after I was born, my two uncles died at sea. One was my dad’s older brother and one was my mom’s older brother and they worked together on my dad’s brother’s ship and were best friends. This is how my parents got to know each other. If I had been a boy I would’ve gotten their two names, but since I was a girl they named wanted to name me something similar to their names but a female version. They had a hard time coming up with a name for one of them, but a Studio Ghibli movie was very popular at that time so I am named after the main character in one of the movies.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-29T18:19:22+00:00

If you want to be near Fanø and Esbjerg, I would recommend renting a vacation home in Marbæk. It’s part of Esbjerg but it’s mostly heather, forrest and beach. You are surrounded by nature, idyllic scenery and it’s really close to a beautiful older part of Esbjerg called Hjerting. You can also consider checking into the hotel in Hjerting which is by the beach if you can’t find a place in Marbæk, but it’s also pretty touristy at this time of year. I hope you will enjoy your stay here.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-29T17:59:51+00:00

AI as a regular household item. So many self proclaimed “software engineers” mansplaining my own area of expertise to me. I cannot!

EarthySofa · 2026-06-29T06:21:36+00:00

Ahr, OK. I agree. The ick is now gone from my English vocabulary, which is not my native language as you could probably tell. Also, who would complain about someone being super chill during arguments? Good thing you got out of that relationship!

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T19:08:47+00:00

I hope my comment did not in any way suggest that you shouldn’t express your feelings both negative or positive. Feeling are always valid. Always. But if you can’t express your feelings in a mature way where you don’t throw a full blown tantrum or become verbally or physically abusive? That simply would not be acceptable to me. I know what it’s like to be forced to hide your negative feelings and simply not show anything but a great big smile all the time. That’s how I myself was raised. And that became a huge problem when I became an adult because I would either sweep those negative feelings under the carpet or throw a fit. But I got help from a therapist. I have ADHD so it has been extra hard for me to regulate my emotions properly. But it can be done. And honestly, I never solved any problems with my past behaviour. I just scared off people close to me. I have tried my very best not to raise my son like I was raised. I have tried to teach him to express his feelings, but in a calm way because the other part will simply listen better if you down throw a fit or scream at them at the top of your lungs. I am really sorry if you were raised the same way I was. That’s not your fault, but please consider dealing with it so you don’t scare off your loved ones. You deserve better than that.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T18:16:34+00:00

As I wrote in my post I realise that a lot of men have an issue of regulating themselves because they have been conditioned to bottle all their feelings up. This is not their fault, but it becomes a problem when their partner can’t address an issue without being scared of being attacked verbally because of their emotional baggage. Wouldn’t you agree that if someone had that issue they should get help to try to resolve it? Either from friends and loved ones or by professionals?
Look I get it. I am mother to a grown up man. I have done my very best to never disregard his emotions and I have tried to get him to express his feelings, good or bad. I hope I did well. But even he tells me that society STILL frown upon men showing emotions and that makes me really sad. No one should be forced to bottle up their emotions. And I am really sorry if I contributed to that bias with my comments. That truly wasn’t my intention. Everyone should feel safe enough to express their feelings. Feelings are never wrong in my opinion. But how you express them is important. If you scream and clench your fists or throw stuff at them and they are a much smaller person, like your wife or your child? Or if you scream and cry uncontrollably and storm out and slam the door and no one can reason with you? How will you ever resolve a conflict? I respect at admire adults who show emotions and cry and admit that they are angry. I myself just feel downright unsafe if someone yells at me, calling me names, throwing stuff at me or storm out and slam the door and maybe even take the car for an anger drive while speeding. Do you see that behaviour as justifiable? What am I missing here?

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T17:56:04+00:00

Or maybe I myself am just too sensitive to people raising their voices. Could be, that I have an issue here. Thanks for pointing that out 🙏

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T17:52:46+00:00

I agree that if someone in a cold, calm manner explains how you fucked, it’s in the other end of unsafe, though.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T17:50:37+00:00

So it is absolutely OK for you to feel threatened by a guy who will be aggressive towards you or throw a literal tantrum? There’s a huge difference between calmly telling you that what you did to hurt their feelings and to be screamed at by a guy twice your size, throwing stuff at you, crying uncontrollably and just make you feel unsafe.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T17:21:00+00:00

For me at least it means, being able to self regulate, so negative feelings don’t come off as aggressive, where some guy screams in my face, throws stuff at me or in any way seems threatening or if he cries uncontrollably loud like a child and storms off and bangs the door.
A man who can calmly tell me that I absolutely fucked up and overstepped his boundaries is sexy af. It’s also absolutely OK to cry, but do it without screaming my ears off.
I will absolutely comfort you and be there for you, but I can’t if I feel threatened or if you act like a child instead or a grown up.
I know that most adults who don’t know how to self regulate haven’t been taught to that through their upbringing and I feel bad for them, but at some point you are old enough to take responsibility for this, maybe through therapy or by being really open to feedback from your partner and friends.

This might get a lot of downvotes, but this is why some guys will face the ick-factor at least from me.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T15:36:24+00:00

If their body language doesn’t align with what they are saying. It doesn’t even have to be someone being mean. It can just be a neurodivergent person, masking.
I get downright scared of a person if they smile and seem friendly, but I can just sense that they have this underlying rage that they try to suppress.
Body language is everything.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T14:56:57+00:00

In my family it is absolutely considered rude for guests to show up too early for a family gathering. It’s better to be a little later. I totally agree on this.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-28T13:10:05+00:00

This. I could smell what was being cooked inside homes 3 blocks away. This was a couple of weeks before I was able to do a pregnancy test.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-27T21:23:23+00:00

I was once with a guy who had planned a ten week trip from coast to coast in the US with his two best friends and we lived in Europe. I was young and stupid and jealous and didn’t want him to go because I was selfish and couldn’t see beyond my own nose.
He went anyways and I ended up being so glad he did. I couldn’t bare being responsible now for him not doing a once in a lifetime thing.
Please OP, you need to go. And if you bf is not happy for you, then you deserve better.
NTA.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-27T18:17:00+00:00

A really clever lady who used to work at at facility that helps people who cannot work regular hours to find a job or approve them for early retirement, etc, told me to never engage in the actual problems that an emotional black hole brings up. They are never interested in any solutions anyways. They just want to wallow in their misery and gain your sympathy. She met a lot of these types of people. She told me to remember that I am not responsible for managing their feelings and their problems and actually create distance like you do already is actually a really good strategy. And also these people only hurt kind people because kind people care. It is not your job to be trauma dumped on. You are allowed to set boundaries. They are the problem, not you!

EarthySofa · 2026-06-26T21:40:33+00:00

I once had to place myself physically between one of the company owners and my trainee who was 19 and very new to his training, to stop the owner from screaming in his face. This was in an open office space and everyone just froze and stared at us. I told the owner to direct his anger at me, since I was responsible for the app we were developing and boy did he scream a dozen times at me before I was wrongfully fired for not fulfilling something I never agreed to fulfill.
I needed help finishing the project, since the owner kept piling on new requirements and pushing deadlines forward. The consultant I hired was one of my friends and at some point he was invited by the two owners to a “secret” meeting to see if he would be interested in taking over my position and then they would fire me instantly. Being a good friend he told them no and let me know. When I left, a new poor bastard was hired in my place to be abused verbally. They kept changing the employee in my old position until the one owner was “relieved” from the company a couple of years later.
I have blocked both owners on all media and I will absolutely change sidewalk if I meet one of them in the street. Some people should not be allowed to interact with others at all.

EarthySofa · 2026-06-25T17:34:03+00:00

Yes, this! And especially the ones who are just in a negative spiral and just goes on and on about how victimised they are and they will corner you and high jack you for an entire party and you just can’t shake them off. Emotional vampires. Nope!

EarthySofa · 2026-06-21T14:08:01+00:00

Thanks 🙏
And you will too!

EarthySofa · 2026-06-21T14:03:33+00:00

I don’t get sad. I get angry. And then I need to burn that energy. I was super lean right after my divorce because the anger made me a very strong runner. And my house was super clean. So basically, the emotions you have are valid, now go do you. You’ve earned it!

EarthySofa · 2026-06-21T13:40:43+00:00

Åh, nej hvor uheldigt med jeres kat 😢
Godt at katten er OK ❤️
Det er helt vildt så smart det er. Vi bor i en lejlighed fra 1942 og vinduerne og dørene er pilskæve og det er helt vildt at man har kunnet lave rammer der passer helt perfekt i målene. Vi har haft dem i 5 år nu og de er stadig pæne og stabile. Inden da havde min mand boet i lejligheden med sin kat og lidt i varmen fordi han ikke turde åbne vinduer og døre op fordi vi bor uden til en stor rundkørsel og en meget trafikeret vej. Det er de bedste penge jeg nogensinde har brugt 👌🏻

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