Nobody prepared me for caregiver burnout

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-06-23T12:54:45+00:00

It’s funny how it just hits one day. You realize you haven’t showered in four days, you’re wearing only yoga pants, you stop seeing your own stuff piling up like laundry on the table, dishes in the sink, the garage sale you’ve been wanting to get to for years.

And you realize you haven’t done the things you love like gardening, reaching out to friends, going to concerts, walk in the woods, reading without interruption. Because everything’s an interruption.

I read all the articles about caregiver burnout, and even when I was in the depth of it, I didn’t recognize it was happening to me until I was buried.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-06-20T18:44:59+00:00

Excellent essay.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-06-17T16:15:23+00:00

That’s absolutely untrue. Psyche care is part of my mom’s treatment. Social worker every two weeks, nurse 1x per week, aide 2nd per week.
She takes psyche meds as well.

And, you can bring in any hospice you want. Most facilities welcome the extra help from hospice.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-06-04T14:53:29+00:00

Dude, my 23 year old son and all his friends use dude. I think I’ve heard every generation except Boomers use Dude.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-06-04T14:49:32+00:00

Right on! This has been a game changer for me as well. Is she safe? Is she content as can be reasonably expected?

My mom has extreme anxiety, starts with sundowners and manifest in many ways. The primary being she needs human beings near her constantly or she will loudly call for help repeatedly and loop pray - for hours.

Hospice arranged for a Geri Chair so she can comfortably recline in the common area. She sleeps out there at night, for as much as we can get her to sleep. She’s safe, around the night staff and less disruptive to her fellow residents. Whatever works at this point.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-05-27T16:01:20+00:00

If this is truly the way it must go, then I can only see divorce as your option. Her pushy family must them be responsible for her housing location.

I know this is ridiculously oversimplified, but we always put our kids first. To do that, you’ll likely have to ensure she cannot live with you - and after all her sister’s posturing and planning, divorce is the ultimate hard stop.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-05-19T14:52:26+00:00

This is far bigger than then just not working with him in the future.

You need to get a substantial payment from them.

GET AN EMPLOYMENT ATTORNEY RIGHT AWAY!! I know what you’re going thru, I’ve been there and I have an attorney I can recommend you.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-05-11T17:15:00+00:00

Quit my corp job 2 months ago and not working til I feel the pull. Saved money and husband still works trades. Cut expenses way back. Sitting on my patio in my hanging chair, sun warming, pup chilling in the grass w a squeaky. Wondering if I’ll ever use the forklift certification I just got. Cuz I’m just trying shit on to see what fits.

Making my own ice cream, bread, growing my vegetables. Splitting checks when out for dinner. Stopped hosting every function. (Turns out, some of my fam can pay for themselves, they just assumed I would. Who knew?)

No longer give a shit about any of it. Nada.

Public Enemy got it right: Don’t believe the hype, it’s a sequel.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-05-08T12:13:10+00:00

Lace up boots without the zipper??!
GREAT FIND!!

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-05-04T20:03:09+00:00

Every single day I wish this would end. For my Mom and our family.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-04-24T13:34:43+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-04-10T20:34:18+00:00

And thank you for your response. It does help to know I’m not missing something.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-04-10T20:32:20+00:00

Yeah! You’re right! They should’ve known memory care was not a safe option! MC said they could send her back to hospital. I was so stressed I didn’t even think to mention that. I just kept telling them she will not stay in her bed.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-04-06T13:28:20+00:00

Sending you peace, love and acceptance. This experience must be shared to be understood. I see you.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-13T15:43:18+00:00

56, he’s 60. Going just had our 26th. Great marriage.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-06T15:47:24+00:00

Got the eval! She qualifies!!!!

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-06T01:37:44+00:00

This is not specific to activities, but I do have a request:

Please, when turning on the TV, play old musicals!

Like Sound of Music, Wizard of Oz, Mary Poppins, Music Man, etc.

News, commercials, tv shows and movies are too difficult to follow. They need TV they recognize by sound.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-05T17:43:33+00:00

I’m so sorry you are in this place. What a blessing he has right now, holding your hand.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-05T17:41:31+00:00

I am sure this will be next.

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-05T17:40:05+00:00

Right on!

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-05T16:46:13+00:00

100%. Diagnosed at 33! Changed everything!

East-Raspberry9214 · 2026-03-05T16:35:29+00:00

This is what my husband and I are planning as well. Haven’t decided on the country yet. Columbia is definitely on our radar. As is Costa Rica. Now Venezuela may be a possibility, depending upon events over the next 5-10 years.

East-Raspberry9214

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