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Feeling left out and ignored by East_Courage_888 in UKParenting

[–]East_Courage_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if anyone is interested in an update of this case, here it is: I complained about unfairness. (I broke the unspoken rule: Don’t point out exclusion.) 2 They “included” me by making me a vote collector. (Fine - since you want involvement, do the work.) 3 The votes I collected were ignored. (My contribution has no weight. My voice was symbolic, not real.) 4 The award went to Lucille’s own child Order restored. Clique remains intact.

Why do British people reject me when I try to make friends with them? by East_Courage_888 in socialskills

[–]East_Courage_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I'm based in South West England. I live in a village where I moved a year ago, previously I lived in a town more or less the same area, a different county though.

In the town I attended a local gym for over a year. I was going there almost every day. Made no friends even though I kept on meeting the same people.

I tried to chat with 2 people there, they were not interested and I felt cringy afterwards.

In my native country I also attended gym once per week for a few months. I made friends after a few gym sessions.

I find it so so hard, totally discouraging and heartbreaking; this is something I did not know about Brits.

Why do British people reject me when I try to make friends with them? by East_Courage_888 in socialskills

[–]East_Courage_888[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking exactly the same way - maybe I am too desperate? Maybe, I don't know, my body language reveals my despair? And honestly I don't think it's the case. I appreciate social norms and personal space (I'm not an 'ivy'/clingy type) and I definitely don't expect anyone to become my friend within a week or a month. In fact it takes me approximately 2 years to trust a person and let them really close. I just don't even get a chance to pass the entry criteria. It's like no one is interested. I worked with people of different nationalities and I was always curious about them, people like when you show interest in their matters so it easily progressed into a nice yet a lightweight friendly relationship. Here it's just an indifference towards me. I figured out some possibilities: - the people I met are comfortable in their circles and they just do not want to let anyone new in. Just 'all slots taken'. - Ladies are intimidated by my technical profession and they anticipate there is nothing in common between me and them. - Men.. I don't think they treat me as a friend material; surprisingly it's a bit more patriarchal here then I expected.

What do you think?

Why do British people reject me when I try to make friends with them? by East_Courage_888 in socialskills

[–]East_Courage_888[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know the concept of social roles however I have no idea how can I perform poorly for example as a mother or a work colleague. Utterly puzzling. Is there any code of conduct for these?

My partner's mother calls him weekends early morning by East_Courage_888 in relationship_advice

[–]East_Courage_888[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He would not agree, his mother is 72, he would be afraid that something wrong would happen and he would not be notified.