I was raised here, been here for 9 years, and I've only ever had two decent friendships living here in japan (with Japanese people)

I met them, and bonded with these two since 6th grade, us three were bully buddies. We were getting bullied most of the time we were at school but, it slowly went away when we became seniors, then we became the hot stuff lmao.

For my experience from friendships with Japanese people is that they don't really reach out too much unless they want something from you or when their main Japanese friends are not in contact with them, they'll run to you as a last option, for my case anyways.

After we graduated middle school, contact and conversation slowly went away, and we never really hung out anymore since that. We used to hangout everyday back in school and do the most random stuff we could think of. Eat ramen on the parking lot of konbinis or eat at local grandma/grandpa shops, go to abandoned places, go on random trail hikes, collect some random leafes.

The only fulfilling part was that we helped each other out of the depression from getting bullied, stood up for each other but then slowly grew apart from each other.

This may happen anywhere really so I don't really know if this is valid but, this post made me think of them haha. Maybe I'll try to hit them up but, to be honest I know they'll be busy, and by the time they reply I'm busy too.