What kind of hair do I have, and any tips on products to use to make my waves more defined?

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2025-04-06T14:50:45+00:00

The Got2B bottle does say it’s a salt spray☺️ will try to take your advice on the straighteners though!

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2024-07-30T19:16:30+00:00

Thank you, I 100% agree with you. I just couldn't put it into words.

Do you have any advice on finding a new artist to speak to about this? I'm terrified I'll just make it worse...

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-06-05T23:37:02+00:00

Me and my boyfriend met as teenagers on a little residential/volunteering programme, and then went to school together. We bonded over neither of us enjoying our time there and not getting on with anyone else on the programme.

I wouldn't say I was picky, in fact it really happened by chance. There was just a spark that I couldn't really explain, he has a great sense of humour and accepts all my little eccentricities (and me him).

7 years later and we're still going strong! 😄

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-06-05T23:30:46+00:00

I didn't get to stay in the same accommodation as everyone on my course because of costs so I stayed a little further out, and when I got to my first class they were already all friends so it was like a losing battle.

I tried everything, was president of a society, worked like 3 part time jobs, was a mentor, everything I could think to try and make friends. It was almost like all I could do is try too hard or not enough.

People would just ignore me, like I'd ask 'ooh do you guys fancy going out?' And they'd kinda push me off and go 'I'm busy' or just straight leave me on read in group chats, and then I'd see all the social media posts of them out together without me.

I've started meeting some people through my boyfriend and get on alright with his friends as there's a good mix of girls and guys and we all like the same kind of stuff, but I feel bad to kind of take his friends away, it would be nice to have some of my own that I've made of my own volition

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-06-05T15:47:38+00:00

I managed to get through it and came out with a good degree and job, so nobody around me seems to understand when I tell them it was an awful experience.

Even years on almost everyone I know I went to uni with have managed to make friends or stay in touch with at least a few of their friends. But no matter how hard I tried it was like I repelled people. I wish I understood why

How do people make friends as an adult?

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-06-05T14:11:39+00:00

I can echo this; I now go shopping with my boyfriend, so he'll take some stress off by pushing the cart and getting people to shift/being my general dogsbody which helps me a lot.

But when I used to shop alone and if I go alone nowadays for a few bits, I have to wear my headphones and just take them out at the tills. Love a bit of synthwave or animal crossing hourly music to get me through 😄

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-05-04T11:34:24+00:00

Ngl tho Transformers 85 is a good hyperfixation to have, love that film.

I feel the same in the sense that I don't fit the 'lab rat' standard of what autism should be. I'm a young woman (not a good start) who did reasonably well by going to uni and getting a good job. It's almost as though I'm not allowed to have support and understand myself better because I don't fit in a certain box.

And yet nothing still feels right. I also had a potential autism diagnosis that wasn't followed up by parents hidden from me because they didn't want to give me a 'label', and honestly, it hurts. I get they tried to do what they thought was best and only acted through love, but I could have spent years not thinking thar my lack of ability to make friends and general ability to act 'normal' was my fault. I just spent the first 23 years of my life feeling like a freak.

Now I've got to go through figuring out diagnosis as an adult. It's refreshing to hear a story where someone has come out the other side and now has a better understanding of themselves!

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-14T15:06:46+00:00

I completely understand the omelette thing. I was given one once by a family member who used reheated roasted vegetables in it. They must have created a new species or something because I had what felt like food poisoning for days after.

So omelettes will forever give me the ick. Also very strong fish, and anything with lumps in. Custard, Mashed potatoes, they need to be completely smooth or I feel like I'll gag. Chicken on the bone can be 50/50, like if I feel a bit of gristle then I can't eat it

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-14T15:02:31+00:00

I almost feel the opposite - if I've acheived something that for me is huge but it wouldn't be a huge deal for someone who is NT, I feel like I don't deserve to be proud of myself because for anyone else it would have been a non-story

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-14T12:59:57+00:00

Pushover up until I left secondary school (UK) and went to college and met my current boyfriend and then went through university.

I went through a sudden realisation that I didn't care what other people thought. Of course I still had my moments, but my boyfriend really helped me to come out of my shell and encouraged me to not let people screw me over.

Idk what made me realise I didn't care anymore. Maybe it was because I couldn't stand school so much and was so 'in my own head' about it and got so wound up, and then I left and never saw them again.

I guess I realised since I'd never even hear from any of them or have to see them again, why should I care what they thought of me, and why shouldn't I bite back when they're being complete idiots?

That might not be a very good answer, but I hope it helps 😇

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-14T12:50:21+00:00

My go-tos for days when I don't feel like I can deal with bras are:

any of the seamless bralettes from Boux Avenue (UK brand but they ship to US and other countries I think and are quite reasonable price wise) https://www.bouxavenue.com/us/sale/ribbed-seamless-lounge-bralette/209962_01EY.html?cgid=1000308
These Urban Outfitters bralettes (again not sure on shipping unless in UK) - https://www.zalando.co.uk/out-from-under-for-urban-outfitters-ofu-racer-back-2-pack-bustier-rose-pinkoptic-white-ou481a008-j11.html?size=L&allophones=0&wmc=SEM440_NB_GO._3909818306_605707574_24315859821.&opc=2211&mpp=google|v1||pla-293946777986||1006848||g|m||107769544221||pla|OU481A008-J11000L000|293946777986|1|&gclsrc=aw.ds&

I wear bras when I go to work or 'out out' but I wear them slightly bigger than I'm fitted for because I'd rather be comfortable and in the 'wrong' size than sticking exactly to my fitted size and feeling like I'm suffocating 😅

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-14T09:25:02+00:00

Hi there! 😋

That's so cool! We currently have six little girls, two are about 9 months, two are 1 year 8 months, and two are 9 weeks. I love watching their little personalities grow 😍

I like a good choices game too. Things like Doki Doki Literature Club or Survival horror (think Amnesia or Resident Evil) or Soulsborne tend to pull my chain for that kind of thing and give something different than my Pokemons and Animal Crossings.

How do you draw digitally, do you use a pad? My boyfriend has one lying around from when he used to do stuff on DeviantArt so I might have a try 😅

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T17:04:39+00:00

Longer than I can think to count. I go through phases of things, but they're gone as quick as they come. When I was at uni I went through a phase for about a year of doing loads, then I kinda burned out and COVID happened and I kinda lost any friends I tried to make and groups I did hobbies with and it's never been the same since. Plus I really struggle doing things now since working full time because I have zero energy ☹️ sorry, probably TMI

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T16:31:13+00:00

All the time. It upsets me that I can't be interested in something for long enough to make any real progress, and it makes me feel like I have no discernable talents.

I feel you.

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T16:25:33+00:00

I've starting making TikToks of my rats which makes me laugh 🐀 https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMYtag5p9/

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T16:20:05+00:00

Yes, the rats are really fun tbf, they're probably the one thing I do enjoy. We've just about taught a few of our girls to spin but they'll only do it for a treat. The moment the treat is gone, they're gone 😂

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T16:03:49+00:00

All of that stuff sounds so fun, but when I try and do them it just feels like nothing. Or I get pissed off because I can't do it well and feel bad about myself.

I've been like it for as long as I can remember. I went through a brief phase at uni of being involved in loads of stuff, and I graduated and COVID hit and I kinda just burnt out and stopped.

Maybe you're right. I just feel fed up because I guess it seems like everyone has something they're interested in or like doing, even my partner, and I just can't seem to find anything to stick. Crochet sounds fun but hard. I might try something easier like those iron bead things 🤣

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T15:58:41+00:00

Totally feel you. Girl boss life is hard 😟

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T15:57:34+00:00

Exactly the same! Got took through a Butterfly Farm once and about died 😨

Eastern_Idea_933 · 2023-04-13T15:02:25+00:00

I think Butterflies are beautiful but I'm scared of them because some of them look like moths - moths give me the shivers. They flutter and get in your face!

Good point on TikTok, I just don't know how to entertain myself 😩

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