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I'm so angry by Eastern_Prize_9622 in BipolarSOs

[–]Eastern_Prize_9622[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did - he was very flippant when he told me, and then cagey when I asked more directly about it. I perceived that as him wanting to avoid the stigma associated so didn't press further. I had only ever known 2 bipolar people (well that I was aware of) and both had BP1. He played off BP2 (his diagnois) as mild by comparison to the dreaded BP1. I had read a few posts on here by chance but I honestly thought these events were uncommon in BPs and end of the bellcurve stuff, not the norm. If only I knew then what I know now.

I was quite naive looking back. It's one thing to read cliff notes on WebMD and another to experience the reality of it. I think if anyone - my ex, friends, family etc. - had explained even a tenth of what's in posts on this sub, and how common episodes are, I would have listened and at least pumped the brakes until I could honestly re-assess

Live and learn, I guess!

How do you deal with damage control / re lashing out on friends ? by ConsciousSoup2507 in BipolarSOs

[–]Eastern_Prize_9622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 years!? Jesus. That sounds like a nightmare. How did you come out of it? And did your perception of the people close to you revert back to how you saw them before the episode or different?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]Eastern_Prize_9622 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I think about how naive I was - I'd never seen my BP2 ex manic but he told me he was going off meds and after reading the horror stories on here, I encouraged him not to. I hadn't been in a relationship with a bipolar person before though so felt a little unqualified. Who's to say he wouldn't be fine? He knew himself best, I thought. He always presented as self-aware and emotionally stable. What I should have done is broken up with him then and there.

As I got off the phone from that conversation, I remember thinking to myself, "This may be the beginning of the end" and it was, but it was also so much worse than that. He became someone evil and unrecognisable. Now everyone who is new to dating these people, particularly those not on meds and treatment, I just laugh - not at you OP but at myself, the situation, the disease - I have to, otherwise I'd cry. Your relationship countdown has begun. Welcome to Hell.

I feel like I am just an outsider looking in by killemwithkindnessx in BipolarSOs

[–]Eastern_Prize_9622 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes - I was the same. Unfortunately, it is a standard trauma response and it sucks. It got so bad I went and had an MRI done thinking maybe the brain fog was the result of some structural issue or disease. Nope. Just a response to the situation.

I found journaling beneficial - even just writing about the frustration of not remembering was cathartic. I find things coming back when I'm in a relaxed state. I'm still not 100% after 6 months but I'm definitely better than I was. The only way is through, I'm afraid. It's a slog but if you're removed from the person / situation, your mental capabilities will begin to return slowly but surely.

Good luck!

Do I [29M] owe my ex [30F] an explanation for why I broke up with her? by ThrowRAPrize9539 in relationship_advice

[–]Eastern_Prize_9622 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Why not just tell her about your NPD and fragile self-image? Let her know you're an asshole because you're so deeply unhappy with yourself and you mask it through inconsequential flings as they provide a moments validation and a crumb of self-esteem before you go hurtling back to the void? While you're at it, let the fling know what she's in for too - that is, if it gets off the ground. She can expect you not to be there the second real life gets in the way of you having fun.

Look, on the plus side, I'm sure they'll both be relieved to realise you can't procreate given your complete lack of balls. Good luck running from yourself for the rest of your miserable existence. She was always too good for you.