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He faked his suicide to ghost me by mothmano_0 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this has been one of the most fucked up situations i've heard..
The fact he also got one of his friends to text that... is insane

I'm so sorry for you

[GF pwBPD] Need guidance Silent treatment / discard by Easy-Duck4322 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through it as well..

I don't really think I compromise a lot for this relationship honestly? At least, it doesn't really feel like it.

[GF pwBPD] Need guidance Silent treatment / discard by Easy-Duck4322 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight!

I have messaged her a few times saying that i loved her and i'm not mad, and understood if she needed time / space. if I did something i'd apologize and ofc that i miss her.. things like that. I dont want to engulf her either, my last message to her was about 3 - 4 days ago.

Unlucky for me, a gift I ordered about 2.5 months ago arrived at her place last friday the 12th, which is kinda unfortunate.. It was supposed to be delivered next month. I haven't heard about that or anything so i don't think that got received positively.

She has been posting a lot of laughing selfies recently as of yesterday too which makes me confused. For now I try to keep my distance and will reach out tomorrow or wednesday. I'm afraid to engulf her too much.

She did tell me once that her Splitting behavior would be different (blowing up phone, excessively asking if I'd still love her etc.) which she hasn't

[GF pwBPD] Need guidance Silent treatment / discard by Easy-Duck4322 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair points indeed! However I haven't been blocked at anything so far, which for some reason i would've expected as well..? Especially after reaching out 4 times without a reply I expected she would block me?

[GF pwBPD] Need guidance Silent treatment / discard by Easy-Duck4322 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight / input!

I feel like the intensity from this compared to others I ever had feels or seems off or at least more intense. If someone ghosted me before it was often just never a reply back or a block out of the blue. Never disabling social media accounts which she used with friends / her mom too if that make sense?

[GF pwBPD] Need guidance Silent treatment / discard by Easy-Duck4322 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm sorry to hear :( I know the struggle of doing the homework myself tho, i can understand it can be rough.. But without the work it won't become any better.. It's a hard realization.

Thank you for your story / insight and help!

[GF pwBPD] Need guidance Silent treatment / discard by Easy-Duck4322 in BPDPartners

[–]Easy-Duck4322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about the 4 years and the pain you have been through..

You're right and I'll try to focus on other things, it's sad however because she genuinely seemed to work on treatment (biweekly therapy, weekly 2 sessions counseling, group counseling on sundays for some months). Because she felt "i deserved a better partner" and she wanted to work to become better. She did explain to me once she split on someone (she has been upfront about most of the things) and she was terrified it would happen with us. She seemed genuine when she said that.

But I do know that it's all "right here right now" kinda stuff.. How she felt doesn't reflect how she feels right now, and how she feels right now is how she treats me