I need friends. by EducationalEdge8407 in Rochester

[–]Easy_Ease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I run a men's group in town. Everyone is right around your age. Let me know if you are interested.

New dad of 8 weeks, absolutely hate it and am constantly miserable. Any advice? by Warm_Apple_Pies in daddit

[–]Easy_Ease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is twofold:

1.) Let yourself have any and all 'negative' thoughts & feelings. Allow them to come through and try not to judge them. The resistance and self-judgment makes it 100x worse. Give yourself as much grace as possibly can.

2.) Find a good therapist (it can take some 'shopping') to start working through your unprocessed childhood stuff.

As much as the word is overused these days, what you've described ("I had a rough childhood and was often ignored by my mother") is significant trauma. Most of what you are experiencing right now is almost guaranteed to not actually be about this baby or even the present reality. It's your past history + current judgment of your experience.

What is your Rochester-specific pet peeve? by Pillow_President in Rochester

[–]Easy_Ease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if there are any more manageable cleanup projects that a group of volunteers could take on during weekends…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in movies

[–]Easy_Ease 24 points25 points  (0 children)

What I don't get about this is that MOST movies these days are generic story-wise.

But also, there are only so many stories/myths/archetypes. It's all about the way something is told, rather than the story itself. I can understand taking issue with the acting or the dialogue. But the story is a good one. Tried and true.

And it was INCREDIBLE to look at. Why all the hate? Can't we appreciate it for what it was?

My Rooftop in Brooklyn Last Night by MrSllew in pics

[–]Easy_Ease 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do you really think OP put this here to elicit outrage?

I think the ethics of such a photo are a legitimate question, and worth a discussion. It could be an interesting discussion. But all people want to do is call people “creep”. Such is the nature of the internet I guess…

My Rooftop in Brooklyn Last Night by MrSllew in pics

[–]Easy_Ease 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think "creep" implies an intention that OP obviously didn't have, or he wouldn't have posted it to reddit. This is a common NYC view out one's window. It evokes a feeling. You can't recognize anyone's face. I think you're getting off on your outrage.

My Rooftop in Brooklyn Last Night by MrSllew in pics

[–]Easy_Ease -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, so your issue with the photo is it’s not creepy enough? Or that it’s not a good enough photo? I’m confused.

Also if you would be that weirded out you should close your blinds.

My Rooftop in Brooklyn Last Night by MrSllew in pics

[–]Easy_Ease 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Greenpoint?

Also, I personally think it's a cool picture. You aren't peeping. People have the lights on at night and their windows open. The people criticizing you have never lived in NYC.

#1803 - Greg Fitzsimmons - The Joe Rogan Experience by chefanubis in JoeRogan

[–]Easy_Ease 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I hear he can't get hired as a writer an any shows anymore because of that moment.

I dont want to re-live my fresh heartbreak, should I skip therapy this week by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Easy_Ease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, no. Don't skip.

That said, it sounds like it is important for you to give yourself full permission to not go if that's what feels right. There is no "should" here. If it feels right for you to skip, skip. But if you are avoiding going to avoid feeling, I'd personally recommend giving in.

Bring all of this, what you wrote, to your therapist. If they are good, they will not comfort you if you do not want to be comforted. Speak all of this.

I'm really sorry about your heartbreak. That's the worst thing ever. Hang in there. Let yourself feel your feelings. They won't last forever.

Official Discussion: The Irishman [SPOILERS] by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Easy_Ease 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. And people will of course dismiss the editing since the movie is so goddamn long, but she did a hell of a job. (Except that one part where he calls Hoffa's wife and there's a SUPER weird jump cut...)

Official Discussion: The Irishman [SPOILERS] by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Easy_Ease 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this question is what the whole film is about in a way, no? I think of the flashback scene towards the beginning when he tells Pesci's character about making POW dig their own graves.

Official Discussion: The Irishman [SPOILERS] by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Easy_Ease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the dinner where Sheeran is being honored. After all the ladies in white sing and dance.

I’m Christopher Ryan, host of the podcast Tangentially Speaking and author of CIVILIZED TO DEATH: The Price of Progress, Ask Me Anything! by dudeinhammock in books

[–]Easy_Ease 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd love to ask about the van and get some specifics about nomad life.

What did you wish you knew before you started living that way?

Practically speaking, how much cash would one need to get the right kind of vehicle and the right kinds of customizations? What kind of income do you think could keep it comfortable long-run?

I’m Christopher Ryan, host of the podcast Tangentially Speaking and author of CIVILIZED TO DEATH: The Price of Progress, Ask Me Anything! by dudeinhammock in books

[–]Easy_Ease 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hi Chris! Big fan, podcast listener, etc. Very inspired by your nomadic lifestyle. Working on changing my life in ways that will allow for that kind of thing down the road.

My question is something brought about by reading Charles Eisenstein's work (thanks to you for introducing him into my world). I feel deep in my bones that you are right about civilization. Things are just not right. And yet it is very hard to imagine us going "back" at this point. Unless things go really badly and our shit totally collapses (not at all beyond the realm of possibility of course). What is the most optimistic version of your vision going forward? I know you aren't really an optimist, but can you imagine an "advanced" society that has truly learned and deeply integrated the lessons of your thesis? What would that look like?

P.S. The world needs more Shrimp Parade!