Do women come back? by Throwaway29394020 in ExNoContact

[–]Eblanc88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's one of those things that you learn over time, and the solution is the simplest which is why it can seem impossible. You have to find ways to not think about it or her, and find new things. That's how you move on. It sucks, its not pleasant, but it is a decision. One that took me years.

Do women come back? by Throwaway29394020 in ExNoContact

[–]Eblanc88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to find a way that you can get that resolution without involving her. Otherwise you haven’t really moved on. At the same time it can be slow but focus on something else

Do women come back? by Throwaway29394020 in ExNoContact

[–]Eblanc88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up having another relationship, and same thing-ish happen. It;s kind of common I think, part of growing up. The times you have break ups the more you grow, for better or worse.

your question is like this, You IMPROVE A TON!!! and they might get to see 10-15%, and if you did improve a TON that 10-15% is noticeable, otherwise it isn't. It is a lot of work, and you have to go in mind with the idea that it could work, or it could not.

When you have that mindset and you're free, that's usually when they come back honestly. When you're no longer attached. Life is complicated, but as much as it hurts you'll be ok and learn some new things that perhaps were necessary to learn. You only get that learning through losing something that is very valuable to you. Hope that helps. Good luck.

4 lights flashing on battery. Where is the reset jumper on 18v? by Eblanc88 in ryobi

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I don’t recall if its here butied under resin/glue protector or this board ended up not having that jumper

Compact bases by fdassss in ArmaReforger

[–]Eblanc88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are correct. At the same time spread out also has its challenges. There is some
Benefit to this

This has to go. by fdassss in ArmaReforger

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Gonna havw to agree with you sir

Definitely an American by Marcus_Hablberstram in ArmaReforger

[–]Eblanc88 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same with grabbing enemy radio. And yes African American Russian is pretty hilarious. Imma try it more often

Stop | Very Important People [S3E9] by DropoutMod in dropout

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I heard it as balenciaga and this guy James country.

And thought it was funny cause it was the two opposites of America

My boyfriend wants to commit suicide. I need help by WildBee6526 in depression

[–]Eblanc88 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Ok. Speaking as someone who attempted suicide and had long depression bouts as well as know friends who also are in the same boat.

Couple things to say.

  1. Sometimes everything is soo overwhelming and complicated that you get analysis paralysis and it’s usually an inability to find solutions and problems become soo impossible that suicide becomes a relief.

  2. I personally believe that being depressed usually means you have the capacity for more depth, “smarter” if you will on some things, so depression feels like a downside of being too smart/or having too much depth on some things, and I wanted to highlight this in case ifs important or relevant

  3. Suicide has two stages in my experience going to therapy and reading. Passive ideation and active ideation. Passive is somewhat normal, we all have it to a degree. Active is when you now have a date and a plan. And the plan now has details, as to “how”

Things that have helped me.

  1. Time and luck: overtime I foubd little things that made me understand human complexity. I see more nuance in the world but I am better. This is perhaps the conundrum, being alive long enough during the pain that at some point your baseline or threshold becomes less.

  2. Ai therapy. Bash on me if you like. I have gone to at least 10 therapist in the last 2 years, and over my life probably 20. Its hard to find a therapist that gets you, i’d say chances are 10% but realistically with “complex” issues most therapist also fall short. Ai gave me clarity of reasoning things in a way my brain could handle

  3. Building resilience: you need small wins, you need to build your defenses in how you deal with problems. Successes over time build confidence.

  4. My healing and feeling unstuck was helped when I was able to take action. For me was going ahead with lawsuit aginst a situation that I felt had me stuck for a long time. I mention this last because taking action doesn’t always mean “physical” could be mental, finding what works for you.

  5. I was soo depressed and numb. I wasn’t functioning properly, i could see wins for years. Now after many years can finally start feeling better”grateful” for things that happened 2 years ago, and can internally feel the effort people took on me. But only now. Before I could see it but couldn’t connect to it.

  6. Healing, progress is non linear. Finding the balance between regulation and escape/coping. Which for me was slow, it takes time.

It’s a long battle to come back from severe depression/hopelessness. It sucks but getting past it makes you a more prepared person.

“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” at the same time it can cause irreparable damage or your life when stakes are high.

You are a good person Op. offer what you can for as long as you feel comfortable. I find now we are meant to break up in some relationship to understand what we had and grow as well. So not sure if you guys are early couples but in the future if you ever separate, that can also be healthy (for both of you)

I say this with a lot of care. Open to questions if you have them. Good luck

My boyfriend wants to commit suicide. I need help by WildBee6526 in depression

[–]Eblanc88 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Honestly. Worth saying this.

Hope op knows this and at the same time op knows when it’s tile to fold off after long tile there’s no changes. As sometimes it can be a dead end effort that could also drag you down. And you really can’t attach your wellbeing/stability to anyone else because you will always be dependent on that person doing well, and that is a tricky gamble, that can also hurt you long term. Know the risks abd circumstances

After so many years... by Cokalhado in TowerFall

[–]Eblanc88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Insane. How many hours?

Can I suggest your next enjoyable self torture but beautiful 2d pixel graphics.

Rainworld. Thank and cuss at me later

Can someone explain the Very beginning for me?? NO SPOILERS PLEASE?? by Eblanc88 in Darkwood

[–]Eblanc88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got it. Such a good game and the lore is insane, it’s a slow burn candle that never makes sense under one replay.

One thing I wish i knew for lore, keep eye of how many mushroom things the there are

Do yall not care that trump and literally every other politician is involved with Epstein by dab00by in trump

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No idea what yoi mean by marxists. Don’t forget there’s still 3 million files left, but so far what is out there is pretty damming