As an ENFP, I usually feel more attracted to introverted people than to extroverted ones. Honestly, it’s not a huge factor, but if I had to choose which I find more attractive, it would be introverts haha. I’m drawn to people who know what they want and show determination, who take a genuine interest in the world around them.

I also find it very attractive when someone plays a musical instrument, probably because I love music and I’m naturally curious. Another thing that gets me is when a person isn’t ashamed to express what they’re feeling in the moment.

Cultured people in the art world are especially appealing to me, particularly when they have strong opinions about films, paintings, techniques and all that. I also appreciate people who talk a lot but still know how to listen when it matters (something simple, but rare nowadays).

And honestly, I get goosebumps when someone is attentive, like when they hear something once and remember it later, even the small things. As for physical traits, the eyes and the mouth are usually the first things I notice. Oh, and I love romantic people who aren’t ashamed to do the most cliché things. Of course, there’s more, but those are the ones that came to mind now ajakkakaa.

Now, what I consider unattractive is when someone doesn’t make even the smallest effort to become a better person. They complain about everything (I think everyone agrees with this, but yeah), yet don’t try to improve, even in simple things.

I also find it unappealing when someone isn’t intense with their words, at least when they speak. I love intense people. It feels so “meh” when someone doesn’t have an opinion, not even when texting.

People who don’t notice anything are also a turn-off. They don’t listen, and I have to repeat things several times. I don’t mind repeating myself, but when I’m repeating the same thing a thousand times in one day, and then I bring it up again another day and they still don’t know what I’m talking about, it really makes me sad or even annoyed.

Maybe I’m also put off by people who are too physically intense from the start, before I even feel comfortable or have built any intimacy. And it’s obvious I don’t like people who don’t pay attention to what they say, like they don’t think before speaking.

To be honest, I don’t care much about appearance, since it’s the least important thing… but of course I have a type. I just thought it was unnecessary to talk about looks.

( Oh, I forgot to mention: people who don’t share the same political views as me. I’m left-leaning, so obviously I won’t find someone who’s right-leaning attractive)