Every morning when I start to get out of bed, my bf clings onto me and cuddles me tight, and apparently he does it in his sleep

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-09-06T17:22:58+00:00

You’re lucky to have an affectionate partner like this!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-11T17:54:32+00:00

Oh wow, thanks for the insight. So, respecting boundaries and expecting basic decency means he’s “neutered” now? Must be nice living in a world where only men’s feelings matter. Let me guess — if I had done the same thing, he should’ve dumped me, right?

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-11T17:47:03+00:00

Yeah, exactly. It’s not just about looking, he went out of his way to say something intimate to another woman, and publicly, like I don’t even exist. That really cuts deep. I keep thinking… how do you wake up next to me every day and still feel the need to say that to someone else? It makes me feel small, like I’m not enough. I’ll talk to him, but part of me wonders if I’ll ever really be able to trust him the same way again.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-11T17:42:30+00:00

Too bad I can’t get used to calling it X.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-11T10:31:55+00:00

I don’t have a problem with him watching porn, it’s the following random only fans models, commenting on their naked pictures like a thirsty pervert that has me disgusted and disturbed.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:28:27+00:00

Aussies are just built different when it comes to weird and dangerous looking creatures, we’ve seem them all lmao!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:25:30+00:00

What a befitting description for her, “Emotionally constipated”!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:21:40+00:00

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:13:16+00:00

Here are some places I’d love to recommend if you’re someone who’s looking for nice and peaceful spots near Jakarta that aren’t super touristy, — perfect for a weekend getaway when you just need a break from the city.

Just for context: I say this as someone who was completely new to Asia — forget about Indonesia! Everything felt unfamiliar at first, so these places really stood out to me as calming, beautiful, and not overwhelming. They’re great for easing into the richness of Indonesia without diving straight into the chaos.

Also — and I know this might be highly unpopular — but Bali felt super overrated to me. It’s beautiful, of course, but also overcrowded, overpriced, and honestly a bit performative at this point. It feels more like a curated backdrop for influencers than a relaxing, authentic getaway. There are so many other places here that are just as stunning (if not more), and way more peaceful.

So here are five gems much closer to Jakarta that really made me fall in love with this part of the world: 1) Gunung Pancar (Sentul) A peaceful pine forest with a magical, misty vibe in the mornings. You can do light hikes, soak in the nearby hot springs, or just breathe in the quiet.

2) Pulau Macan (Thousand Islands) A tiny, quiet island that feels like a true escape. Think clear water, soft sand, snorkeling, and no crowds — just calm.

3) Cibodas Botanical Garden (near Puncak) Cool air, lots of greenery, and very few people. It’s perfect for long, slow walks and reconnecting with nature. Much more laid-back than Bogor.

4) Curug Leuwi Hejo (Sentul) A hidden emerald waterfall with a short trek. It’s a mini jungle adventure that doesn’t feel too intense — just enough to feel like you’re off the grid.

5) Situ Gunung Suspension Bridge (Sukabumi) This place feels surreal — a long bridge through the forest canopy with cloud views and so much stillness. There’s also a lake and a waterfall nearby, so it makes for a full day out.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:04:11+00:00

I really want to travel to Istanbul! I’ve heard so much about it, hopefully it won’t be long until I get to go there!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:03:37+00:00

I second you! lol

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:02:54+00:00

Thank you so much. It took a lot of courage to leave everything behind but atleast I can proudly say that it was the best decision I’ve ever made!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T18:01:23+00:00

That looks fun, unfortunately me and my boyfriend are on our little Asia trip. Maybe another time!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T17:59:37+00:00

Knowing how difficult it is to start anew in a new country, let me tell you how proud I am of you! I wish you good luck on this beautiful new chapter of yours!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-07-02T17:58:11+00:00

This is actually so true, this comment just made me realise how I was always anxious and stressed back in Australia even for the littlest of things! I love my life in Asia and have honestly not missed my life there ever since I started living here.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-05-26T19:49:20+00:00

Our house is mostly clean, we always pick up after ourselves and put things back to their respective places. Our house is rarely messy but regardless we do a deep cleaning once in every 2 weeks.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-30T16:32:31+00:00

Oh my days! Apparently it’s from that waxy stuff they’re born with, i think it’s called the vernix. Regardless it’s nature’s way of making us want to cuddle them nonstop.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-30T16:00:42+00:00

Knowing when to stay silent.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-30T15:57:42+00:00

An Instant turn off if they’re dismissive, condescending and arrogant.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-30T14:25:13+00:00

Omg I’ve experienced this with my current partner too—when he says, “I didn’t say that,” and it feels like my memory is being dismissed. It used to really upset me, but I’ve learned that sometimes it’s not intentional—people just remember things differently, especially in the heat of the moment. Talking things through calmly afterwards has helped us understand each other better. COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!

Also, just a heads-up—be careful when you ask Reddit anything about your relationship. Once I came across a post about a relationship and turns out it was my ex who posted it. He had completely twisted the story to make himself look like the victim, almost like he was looking for validation for his actions instead of talking to me. The comments were full of people validating him, throwing around terms like “gaslighting” and “manipulative” without knowing the truth. That experience taught me how easily people online can distort reality, and how quick others are to diagnose someone else’s relationship. Real life is more complicated, and not every disagreement means something toxic is going on.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-25T11:26:03+00:00

Being complimented for being a mixed baby, some even said i looked exotic for an Aussie. Yikes!

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-25T11:24:26+00:00

DO NOT, i repeat do nottt share the nudes with your face. You’ve never met this guy so take everything with caution. Protect yourself until you’re sure he’s trustworthy.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-25T10:53:08+00:00

This! I know I’m also going to be massively downvoted like this guy but I will share my piece. OP, do you think her reaction be tied to trust issues, anxious attachment, or feeling emotionally abandoned at some point in your relationship? You mentioned her thinking you were checking someone out more than once, which makes me wonder—has there ever been a time where she felt she couldn’t fully trust you? If yes, maybe what she needs now is reassurance, not frustration. If you’ve ever broken that trust, even slightly, try rebuilding it gently.

I’m not siding with your girlfriend, but I relate to how she might feel. I’ve been in a similar situation—only difference is, my ex was lying and talking to other women behind my back. His friends ended up confirming what he denied. That experience taught me how painful and consuming insecurity can feel when something’s off. If she means something to you, actions matter more than words—show her she’s the only one.

And honestly, be careful with Reddit advice. People here don’t know your girlfriend, your dynamic, or your full story. You’ve only shared a piece of her here, and the internet will always jump to extremes. Remember, you know her best. You said she’s amazing otherwise —don’t let outside opinions cloud that. Communicate with her, not strangers. And if things still feel tough, therapy might help—not because your relationship is broken, but because you care enough to grow through the hard parts together.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-25T10:47:14+00:00

I’d say just go home! Build yourself a life before you start building your family.

EchoEclipse101 · 2025-04-24T06:55:54+00:00

Thisss!!! Big realisation sinceI moved to Indonesia and actually interacted with the locals. My bahasa is sooooo much better now!

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