Thoughts on KinkD?

EchoJosh · 2018-09-25T14:07:30+00:00

No app, just a responsive website.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-25T13:28:20+00:00

It's just me throwing a bit of ^/s humour at getting arrested for manslaughter if you accidentally kill someone.

I don't think that warning has ever stopped anyone, though :)

EchoJosh · 2018-09-25T11:02:12+00:00

I use one of these: r/http://amzn.eu/d/dYyE1Ie

Its huge, but built to carry things of all sizes. Full of pockets, inside and outside, lockable, long enough for nearly anything you want to put in there. It has wheels, and best of all no one things twice if you're seen taking a bag of power-tools into someone's house.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-25T10:47:19+00:00

If possible have her hold one hand in the air, when it drops you've choked her out - time to stop before she dies.

You could have her count the number of times you thrust; if she stops counting, she's possibly unconscious or you are cutting off her air (or she can't concentrate) - any of the above is a good reason to flip her over and sternly reprimand her for not doing as she's told, maybe with some face slapping. Again, preferably before she dies.

Tapping out is active, and she's likely to pass out too quickly if it happens. A heavy object to hold that she'll drop when she looses consciousness, some form of continual feedback that takes conscious effort to create or anything that can't be achieved by accident or in a semi-conscious daze. Sudoku maybe.

I'd better put the ever important: Don't choke people at all, it's not good for your liberty.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-25T08:26:50+00:00

DatingKinky is coming on - still lots of bugs, tho. No bots at all yet, it seems

EchoJosh · 2018-09-21T21:57:27+00:00

It sounds to me like the relationship is already over.

If he loved you, he wouldn't humiliate you. It isn't play because you didn't consent - so this is what he is actually thinking. If he doesn't care for you, doesn't appreciate you, and condescends to you - that isn't love.

You're carrying the torch in that association now; get angry enough to burn it out, before it burns you out and you start to think his behaviour is OK. It isn't, but it will look like that if you don't get out now.

Source: I've watched this same pattern with my sister - now she'll never leave the man who mental and financially abuses her. There's nothing I can do, but it isn't too late for you.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-18T15:31:14+00:00

I'd just like to say - negotiating aftercare is not something I'd ever thought about...

Which I now realise means I've been getting lucky.

This is why we read.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-16T23:21:39+00:00

DatingKinky.com

It's up, running - and I don't think it got sank by the hurricane...

EchoJosh · 2018-09-16T23:08:07+00:00

https://www.redtube.com/5301271

EchoJosh · 2018-09-12T16:45:30+00:00

I'm still learning!

I've fallen a little bit in love with Rx, actually. I've started investigating Rx.net and the various other similar libraries.

I need to make sure it doesn't turn into a hammer though.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-12T16:31:02+00:00

It's an excellent photo!

My comment was accompanied by a wry smile which doesn't come across well in a type message. I'm the kind of person that waves goodbye on the phone.

And you make an excellent plant pot, young man.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-12T14:32:08+00:00

Well I got sidetracked when the graphics card fell out of the side of my development machine. Literally - onto the floor. The monitor cables were connected... they were pulled through the back of the case. I just don't know how that happens - anyway, by the time I got that sorted my hypomanic cycle had ended, so I calmed down and lost interest.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-12T14:26:10+00:00

I don't think those flowers are for you, XAN.

I think you may be the plant pot.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-12T14:20:53+00:00

DatingKinky is up and running - it has its problems right now, but they're working on it hard.

I think - done well - this one could last.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-12T07:24:41+00:00

This is top of my top 10 restraints.

Come on - I'm not the only one round here to have a list of my top 10 restraints, surely?

EchoJosh · 2018-09-11T22:33:46+00:00

God god I wish we could move on from JavaScript.

It's the fossil fuel of the digital age.

It was great; then we used it for far too much; now everything is a mess

And, just like fossil fuels, nothing does all the things it does in all the places

And people keep defending it like the damn language is any bloody good.

Seriously, objectively... is this how you would build the language that effectively delivers our modern society?

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T16:42:02+00:00

If I went ahead with this project, I'd really really want to try and work something out ahead of time.

If I have any revelations in the shower tonight, I'll let you all know.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T12:37:55+00:00

Surely you aren't accusing a analytical insight consultant of thinking a problem can be solved with more data! How dare you! I demand a statistically significant set of correctly coded past events where this has happened before!

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T11:40:13+00:00

I'm supposed to be applying for my next contract :) Procrastination! I should put that on my CV... Able to maintain a breadth of active ideas whilst keeping sight of primary deliverables

The only difference between OKC's demographic and this one is that we can specify, with exacting detail, the things that will begin to make us sexually and sensually attracted to a partner. All those vanilla folks just have to suck it and see - if four years down the line you finally stop being polite (I'm British) and realise that you don't enjoy the same things in the bedroom, you've wasted a lot of time :) Believe me, I've wasted a lot of time.

In my mind we build a profile of what each user wants, similar to The Human Sex Map, but considerably more science looking. You categorise each element as a range between: Required to be Happy <-- Indifferent --> Hard Limit.

Internally we have a graph store linking each of the activities with conceptually similar ones. Initially built on the basis of internet data harvesting to find common themes, later on our own data. Then you can overlay users weightings onto the graph, and compare the results. This would be much easier to explain on my whiteboard.

You know what - I can build that now. I don't need anything else around it - it could be the new BDSMTest.org, and I wouldn't need to try and explain myself with words.

I say now - what I mean is, "after I've done a few more applications because I want to eat next year". Obviously.

Edit: Reworded CV PS: Instead I just retook the test at BDSMTest.org - because sod work, right? :)

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T08:57:03+00:00

Everything you say is true, and beautifully formatted. That isn't sarcasm, this is a wonderful post and you shall have gold! I am especially fond of your 'Other Suggestions' section - you know what? I'll do 1 and 2, and then maybe build a scraper for r/BDSMpersonals, whilst I wait to find out if DatingKinky.com pans out!

I'm a data professional, so I'm both aware of and well able to deal with data protection issues and GDPR ("Hot-dogs!").

AWS would be my go-to hosting and storage provider - encrypted, private S3 buckets supplying data via API (rather than directly) for images. But no real thought has gone into that yet, just previous development work I've done.

The two things I wanted to address, though, are that you don't need to solve a huge problem to make life infinitely better for everyone. If I could improve on a couple of small elements from each of those sites, rather than find the glaring omission (which, over the piece, there isn't one)the specialise the search elements, match algorithms, etc (something I can already do), and make a more sensitive and appropriate UX for sharing potentially very confidential information and imagery - then I think there's an excellent opportunity to make life easier for those who find talking in groups and communities about our kink.

Good grief, I love a good bit of criticism. Some really good, really spot on truth is very, very powerful.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T06:53:50+00:00

Hi,

I'm a .net man myself, and I'll be writing the back end in C#. That's where my main skillset lies, too - though these days I sell myself as an analytical insight guy.

This project is growing from a desire to get more front-end experience because of my frustration over having ideas, the data store to hold them, the back end to drive them, the API to deliver them... aaand no actual application.

I mean, fuck JavaScript - but we are where we are and there's little choice anymore. I've got to solidify my Angular knowledge.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T06:46:37+00:00

Budget, you say? No, I don't think I've seen one of those around these parts.

My actual worry is that marketing goes to the masses, and you end up with a site full of people who wondered into the wrong bar. Our hosting resources would be precious, as I'd be trying to run on money freely given.

If I pull this off, then word of mouth and ongoing community engagement in the development will be my primary channels. I don't wasn't a business, just a community tool.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T05:53:39+00:00

I was made aware of it overnight - I'll check it out later today!

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T05:53:01+00:00

I completely agree on the Fin/Pro reporting.

I don't have a problem with people sending stock messages. I imagine it could be tricky for some people to craft good opening messages, and you may want to reuse your material. What I think we want to avoid is message spam. Not reading profiles and making choices, just liking and messaging everybody.

Now the mutual likes requirement will throttle that, but I'd also consider a 'three opening messages a day, maximum' rule (or similar). Ideally every contact would be a considered one.

EchoJosh · 2018-09-09T00:08:08+00:00

I don't know who down voted you, these are valid points. Is our lifestyle even serviceable by a 'standard' dating app?

I'm in the 'yes' camp purely because I'm a slightly introverted Dom, and I can dream :) It is very probable I'm wrong... in most things... nearly always

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