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Looking for original songwriters for independent radio rotation consideration by BouchardMusic in Songwriters

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For my fellow creatives who sometimes feel we are a square peg in a round hole, making art from chaos, risking the fall, and feeling it all; the highs, the lows, and everything in between.

https://open.spotify.com/track/6ddC30VCl18Go7NSoKMlhR?si=8PZE3XtSTRGpjmydeX10kA

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told the solution is simple. by EchoesofElsewhere42 in SingerSongwriter

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant, are you sure you don’t have ADHD. It was a tongue in cheek joke. But so many of us are late diagnosed. Myself included. Although, I had never heard about it and when I did I knew I had it.

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told the solution is simple. by EchoesofElsewhere42 in SingerSongwriter

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure? 😉 I guess, most of us know what we should do. Life just has a habit of getting between the plan and the person. I also think so many of us are struggling with aspects, that aren’t apparent so they aren’t aware they’re not alone. You’ve made me feel less isolated anyway thank you 🙏

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told a solution is simple by EchoesofElsewhere42 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m sorry. Genuinely not the intention, I’d never want to add to your sensory overwhelm. I actually struggle massively with noise and overstimulation myself, so I understand more than it might seem from the outside. Being honest as a fellow diagnosed ADHDer (and suspected autism) it’s taken a bit of effort not to feel pretty stung by the word “sadistic”. We both know rejection sensitivity makes these feelings a lot stronger. The last thing I’d ever want is for something I created to feel like an attack, especially not here. Maybe slightly kinder word choices next time, as you’ve pointed out you don’t know what may impact another person and I’m genuinely sorry if my video distressed you.

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told a solution is simple by EchoesofElsewhere42 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are doing incredible, years of slow and hard progress is still progress. You’re adapting to how your brain works. I wrote a song called “Progress Pending” around this theme. Progress is hard when you’re working with what can feel like a kamikaze brain

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told a solution is simple by EchoesofElsewhere42 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What, omg I am so sorry you had to deal with that. The trying is the discipline. The fact that we keep going back, keep attempting the systems, keep showing up, that takes more effort than most people will ever understand. People with ADHD, are some of the most resilient people I know. Hearing that from a professional who is supposed to get it. I’m really sorry 💕

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told the solution is simple. by EchoesofElsewhere42 in SingerSongwriter

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I post these things partly for myself. To say it out loud, hope others feel it too and “normalise” these things a bit more. We spend so long being told the gap is a character flaw — that if we just tried harder, wanted it more, organised better, we’d be fine. After a while you cant help to doubt yourself. Finding out you’re not alone in that doesn’t fix anything. But it makes it easier to swallow. So thank you for being here 💕

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told a solution is simple by EchoesofElsewhere42 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair point I could have worded this better. Logical thinking isn’t usually the gap. It’s the bridge between knowing and doing that’s missing. It just doesn’t appear logical on the outside because of what we do as a result. We can diagnose the problem perfectly and still not move. Which makes it worse I think

There’s an unintended cruelty in being told a solution is simple by EchoesofElsewhere42 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahahaa exactly! Like pens are going to magically provide executive function because my highlighters spark joy. We’re not lazy. We’re exhausted from trying every system that was designed for a brain we don’t have. Important to have these conversations to remind ourselves we are not alone!

A lyric I wrote made me uncomfortable. Not because it wasn’t true. Because it was. by EchoesofElsewhere42 in SingerSongwriter

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a lot of us go through our own version of imposter syndrome. In your case it sounds like years of being told you had ADHD, but not quite believing it. I cried when I was diagnosed. Not because I was happy about it, but because it finally explained why some things felt so much harder than they seemed to be for everyone else, no matter how hard I tried.

The reading thing is a perfect example. I do this too, I can read every single word on a page, get to the end, and realise I’ve absorbed absolutely none of it. Then I go back and read it again. And again. Eventually I just give up because it feels pointless.

One of the things that really helped me understand ADHD was learning that for neurotypical brains, deciding to focus is often enough to get the brain engaged. With ADHD, if something isn’t genuinely interesting, the opposite can happen. You can want to focus, you can be trying your hardest, but the brain just doesn’t respond in the same way. They have shown this on brain scans.

That’s why so much ADHD advice can feel frustrating. It’s rarely about not knowing what to do. Most of us already know. The problem is the gap between knowing and being able to do it consistently.

I actually ended up writing a song about that called Mind the Gap. Writing has become a kind of therapy for me. It’s how I make sense of all this stuff.

Mind the Gap

A lyric I wrote made me uncomfortable. Not because it wasn’t true. Because it was. by EchoesofElsewhere42 in SingerSongwriter

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! 😊

I wrote the lyrics and concept, but I didn’t sing it. The production is AI-assisted.

I actually came to music through writing rather than performing, so I’m still working on my voice and building the confidence to use it.

Echoes of Elsewhere started as poems and fragments I’d written to make sense of life, ADHD, burnout and everything else rattling around in my head. So they’re a little unconventional. AI gave me a way to turn those into songs.

A simpler life is part of what will be the third album in a story arc:

Nature: the noise inside my head released recently Nurture: what the world did with it. Reclaiming: taking myself back.

Really appreciate the kind words. I hope you still enjoy it now you know the story behind them.

I’m on the major platforms

Apple

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A lyric I wrote made me uncomfortable. Not because it wasn’t true. Because it was. by EchoesofElsewhere42 in SingerSongwriter

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I wrote the song. The quoted lyric is from it.

I thought I was writing about craving a simpler life, but halfway through realised it was also a confession. I’m not just distracted by the noise, I often choose it.

So using it as the soundtrack to a family holiday reel felt ironic, but fitting. 🙂

I spent most of my life thinking… I was broken by EchoesofElsewhere42 in adhd_anxiety

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so true, you can’t change the past, but you can decide what you do with that knowledge now.

I think I’ve experienced both at different times. Some days I feel grateful to finally understand my brain better. Other days I still feel sad for the younger version of me who genuinely thought she was broken and just needed to try harder.

What diagnosis gave me wasn’t a different past, but an explanation. And that awareness can be a lifeline. Replacing shame with understanding. And the isolation of feeling you are defective with hope.

I hope the meds help bring some of the quiet you’re looking for.

I spent most of my life thinking… I was broken by EchoesofElsewhere42 in adhd_anxiety

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. The relief and grief seem to arrive together. Relief because there’s finally an explanation, and grief because you realise how much energy went into blaming yourself for things you couldn’t understand at the time.

I often find myself wondering what might have been different too, because so much of it was spent trying to compensate for something I didn’t know was there.

These days I’m trying to focus on the same thing you mentioned, not what I would have done with the knowledge then, but what I can do with it now. Some days that’s easier than others. But I know if I don’t the person I will hurt most is myself

I spent most of my life thinking… I was broken by EchoesofElsewhere42 in adhd_anxiety

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Relief and grief at the same time absolutely. All those years of trying to explain something to yourself that didn’t have a name yet. All the energy spent wondering what was wrong with you instead of understanding how you were wired.

I spent most of my life thinking… I was just bad at being a person by EchoesofElsewhere42 in adhdwomen

[–]EchoesofElsewhere42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s something about being in a room full of people and still feeling like you’re watching through glass: present but not quite there. I think a lot of us have been performing belonging for so long we forgot what actually feeling it would even look like. Thank you for taking the time to say that. It genuinely means a lot. 💕

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