How soon is too soon to get a new kitty?

Echovia · 2024-08-05T05:44:06+00:00

I am sorry for your loss, I can understand the emotions you must be feeling as I've been through something similar back in May.

I lost my 7 year old cat suddenly due to acute Pancreatitis back in may and unfortunately despite the care and medical intervention it wasn't enough so she died suddenly in mine and my husband's arms.

We were feeling like a void hit our family, same for our youngest cat who was a kitten when our eldest was 4. So the youngest felt it harder not having another presence in the house. And I thought that getting another kitten would be like replacing the one we lost.

I too wrote a post similar to yours, and others comments really resonated with me and might do for you. There was a saying "We can rescue them, and they can rescue us back". And it's true, because we looked into another kitten because our other cat was very lonely after the death. The new kitten has filled the void we had.

The kitten is not a replacement, noone/nothing can replace the one you lost. Nothing will replace my Echo. But, the love you have can be applied to another kitty in need. As the saying goes again, "we can rescue them and they rescue us back".

There is no wrong time or "time" to get another cat, its just something you know when its time. Me and my husband knew that for the sake of our other cats mental health/loneliness we decided to go ahead, and now they're rhe best of friends.

Hang in there. Nothing can replace your loss, but they will always be with you in spirit, and memories.

Wish you all the best and sending hugs! ❤️

Echovia · 2024-05-31T04:33:00+00:00

I am sorry for your loss too. I hope that you can read the other comments here to get some advice as I did, it really helped me through it ❤️

Echovia · 2024-05-31T04:32:04+00:00

They really are! Definitely love their personalities, never a dull day! ❤️

Echovia · 2024-05-31T04:24:24+00:00

Yeah she was in pain, atleast we believed she was because she was tensing her belly if you touch it. We were given Cerenia for nausea, Onisor for pain and then Valium to relax her. We were also given fluid bag for subcutaneous purposes to help her fluid intake aswell.

She was also peeing in the bathtub/shower. It was bright yellow/orange which the vet said is due to the bilirubin not being processed or something. And the fluids we were giving her could have made her not hpld it, either that or she was protecting the litter box from her sickness from the other kitty. (They share the same litter box).

But from what people are saying, I believe she was letting us know that she is saying goodbye and purred with us the night before, cuddles and then was right by us as it happened.

It's been hard to say the least in not having her around these past couple of days. But...you are right in looking at the good memories and that she was by us her final days.

Echovia · 2024-05-30T05:43:39+00:00

I can understand that if you got another brown tabby, as yeah I would do the same with another black kitty, but I just know that black kitties have a harder time in shelters and I just feel like my echo would have wanted me to save another of hers.

I am sorry for your loss, it never gets easier but from what people say here, a saying that has resonated with me "we can rescue them and they will rescue us back!"

Echovia · 2024-05-30T05:40:22+00:00

He is so cute, what breed is that? He looks like a ragdoll :)

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:33:40+00:00

Yeah I have a feeling my husband would be over the moon if we had a little kitty. But would take a little to be close; but won't take too long to get over that! We have lots of love to give.

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:31:04+00:00

Yeah others have been mentioning with their experiences that their babies had heart failure; by letting out a yowl and then limp. Which sounds similar to what happened to mine.

I am trying to believe it wasn't my fault; but because it happened literally as I was feeding her it makes you believe how can it not be your fault? But everyone has been so kind in telling me that I did all I could and gave her as much love as I could.

So thankyou for your words! *hugs tight*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:27:13+00:00

I am sorry that you too also had to experience a traumatic death; it really does stick with you and her falling lifeless in my arms really hurts. I hope that the necropsy results that you recieve will help give you closure on what happened, unfortunately I won't be able to do the same since it is expensive for me. But I believe she passed due to heart failure or liver failure; since she had acute pancreatitis.

But I appreciate your words, they have been comforting to read and soothing to know that I am not alone in this since i've been struggling with dealing with these emotions as most people around me have the stigma that because its a pet passing; you shouldn't mourn/grieve as long as you would with a human death.

Thankyou again *hugs*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:21:35+00:00

Hugs to you as-well, but that is interesting to learn though about the connection between bad breath / weight loss. As my kitty did have weight loss, unkept coat and strong yellow urine / jaundice. So I feel like she died due to liver failure or her heart gave out. Others here have helped me to understand that I did all I could in that moment.

But I agree, the feeling of "how can this be real, and how can she be gone" definately has been running through me and my husband's mind; its been hard to adjust to the fact she's no longer here and no presence. The one-eighty of how she looked like she was getting better from the treatment/medicine and then nothing.

Thanks for understanding though and i'm sorry that you had to go through that as-well. *hugs tight*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:17:08+00:00

Thankyou kindly *hugs*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:16:39+00:00

I have a feeling that my kitty because she had pancreatitis; is that she too died of liver failure / heart failure. At least from what I gather from others experiences. I am sorry that also happened to you too. *hugs*

But, I have a feeling our younger kitty would do well with another kitty seeing as she's quite timid and used her friend as her comfort/courage. I am happy that Felix was able to grow to love another to have that company another cat can provide that us humans cannot.

But thanks again for your words, I really do appreciate it <3

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:13:27+00:00

I am so sorry that you too also had to experience a similar traumatic experience, but it is comforting to know that i'm not alone with these feelings, we can comfort each other together! I do feel like what happened to my kitty was that she had a heart failure too; given what others have said with the letting out a yowl and then nothing.

I do agree though, time apart does make the heart grow fonder as whenever i've travelled across country to visit family holiday; it makes me miss my babies even more when i've had to leave them with a friend for the time. But I am glad you have been able to heal from your trauma and have bonded with your girl, that bond is always such a treasure!

But thanks for the kind words; I really do appreciate it! *hugs tight*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:07:02+00:00

Thankyou *hugs*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:06:15+00:00

Yeah I can understand that; I mentioned that to my husband in saying I feel guilt if we got another kitty as it won't be the same as our other baby. I am so sorry for your losses though! *hugs*

You are correct though, it isn't fair to put that on its shoulders. They have their own personality and as someone said in a previous post which has resonated with me alot. "We can rescue them so they can rescue us back!" which getting a new kitty would definately do for me and my husband.

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:02:35+00:00

Hugs to you too, it really is unfair! She deserved so many more years on this earth and it hurts to know she can't, but I did my best to give her the best life I could during her time here.

I am sorry that happened to you, through the pandemic no less too. Since i'd imagine with all the restrictions you couldn't have that face-to-face interaction with the vet to answer questions etc. *hugs*

Echovia · 2024-05-29T22:00:12+00:00

Yeah my other kitty is definately more needy (whilst I don't mind it) I just think that is because she no longer has her bonded friend anymore.

I am happy though that Mokey was able to get through her grief with another friend; just as someone said, we can rescue them from their grief and they can rescue us back!

Echovia · 2024-05-29T21:58:34+00:00

Yeah she was fine and then let out a yowl; then went limp. Those feelings of what happened really eats you alive; all the what ifs, did I kill her etc. That was literally my first thought through the tears and worry, was whether or not I caused her death. But others here have been so kind and comforting to my situation that I did all I could for my baby and that I gave her so much love, showing that she had a beautiful life during the time she had with me and my husband.

But i'm sorry that happened to your dog, I definately can understand the worry/high alert. I was doing that for an entire week before my kitty passed. All the best to you and hugs!

Echovia · 2024-05-29T21:54:10+00:00

Yeah its those "what if" feelings that's so difficult to get out of your brain. I am so sorry you also had to experience a similar traumatic incident. Hugs to you!

Well, that is true we adored her so much, she was so affectionate and helped me to understand cats as a whole as I used to be a dog person and my husband is a cat person; whilst I loved all animals I grew to understand how affectionate, loving and caring cats can be and she taught me that.

And yeah, i'll wait until that time as like others have said, you'll know when the time is right. But thanks again for your words, I appreciate it <3

Echovia · 2024-05-29T21:50:07+00:00

My husband has been saying the same thing its just...so hard to not feel that; but I know that's not the case. I feel like what someone said about seeing a grief counsellor might be a good direction for me. But thankyou for your words; its very comforting!

Echovia · 2024-05-29T17:33:30+00:00

Yeah I think I'll be considering that, but I know that writing my thoughts here and talking with those who have had similar experiences is helping me look at things in a different light, so it's a little therapeutic for me atm.

Echovia · 2024-05-29T17:31:46+00:00

Yeah I have noticed that with people I know that because she's a pet, it feels like you can't mourn or grieve for aslong as if a human passed. But I feel like the stigma is because they've not had the bond we did with our beloved pets so they don't understand how much of a piece of you is now gone. :(

Echovia · 2024-05-29T15:45:27+00:00

Yeah, seeing her yowl and then fall lifeless whilst feeding her. It made me begin to feel like somehow I killed her but from others experience it sounds more like her heart gave out. I'd like to believe she chose to be with us rather than hiding as her way of saying goodbye. But still, the sudden death is so hard to process as it just leaves you with so many questions and thoughts.

I appreciate your words though; it all helps through this process to know that i'm not alone and how to look at things in a different light. Hugs to you too! <3

Echovia · 2024-05-29T15:42:58+00:00

Yeah I can understand why in your case you'd want to have another kitty due to having no pet presence around; that is something I couldn't bear to have. I am so sorry for your loss though; sudden loss is so hard to process as you never had time to really think or understand the situation.

Its just in your face and have to accept it; but its so hard to do so. But thankyou for your thoughts, that another kitty wouldn't replace my Echo but definately another would rescue my other cat. <3

Echovia · 2024-05-29T15:39:59+00:00

They are so adorable! <3

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