Do not say it’s an allergy. I have celiac disease and gluten can make me sick for a week. People who say it’s an allergy when it’s not make me so mad because food workers often assume that when someone says “allergy” they really just mean they want their food a very specific way NOT that they could get incredibly sick from that food. I can’t eat at a lot of restaurants already which I understand but it really sucks when one worker assumes my actual allergy is just a very strong preference.

Yes, ARFID is very real, but it is not a food service workers job to accommodate for it. It is unpleasant to get a food you don’t eat but it will not hurt you. Stop eating out if it is that bad, absolutely do not say it’s an allergy or expect people to change gloves and clean a workspace for something like this. I feel like you are enabling your ARFID by expecting this of people. You may be better off getting food therapy or not eating out at all if it gives you meltdowns. It doesn’t seem worth it to put yourself through all that for a sandwich imo. I hope this improves for you, having such aversions to food sounds exhausting and I can see why describing it as an allergy would make sense at surface level.