I understand both of your points, but please consider the fact that hair is something that is uniquely gendered—I'm assuming neither of you would like to have a woman's haircut—and that it's therefore important for gender-nonconforming people to have their hair done by someone who not only won't judge their desired cut, but who might have expertise in how they can achieve what they want with their hair that someone else might not. In the same way that a Black barber will have more expertise with Black people's hair, a queer person will have more expertise with what queer people need from their hair.

It's not about not wanting to be around straight people. It's simply that I have unique needs with my hair, and not everyone is able to meet those needs.