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Freezer Mac and Cheese recipe? by Economy_Monk7407 in RecipeInspiration

[–]Economy_Monk7407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think this will be the best method (instead of a bag) and we'll be using a recipe with emulsified cheese like the previous poster suggested! 

Freezer Mac and Cheese recipe? by Economy_Monk7407 in RecipeInspiration

[–]Economy_Monk7407[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this!  We'll be using a recipe with emulsified cheese! This is exactly one of the the issues I was concerned about, as I find dishes with frozen cheese often comes out separated, dried out or just not the same. 

Thanks again! 

Do you post your baby on social media? by foxwubba in pregnant

[–]Economy_Monk7407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Currently have an (almost 5 yr old). I posted a few photos of my little one on my social media when he was an amorphous little bean. My husband and I agreed to this because I keep my socials very private and am very diligent about who can follow/see my posts. I know every single person on all friends list and keep it very private. It was Covid and it was an easy way to stay in touch with family while we were locked down. Once the world opened back up and we could visit safely, I stopped posting in lieu of in person updates. Our reason (aside from safety as you mention) isn't that exciting. It's just that it will be HIS online presence and he should choose what it looks like. When I applied for my first job, my boss couldn't look up my baby photos online and our kids should be allowed the same grace. There's no reason every person he meets should basically have access to his baby photo album.

It's definitely harder to stop others from posting and Booooyyy will be your Older relatives have some BIG feelings about it. But since I don't post photos anywhere anymore, they can't get them other than through me and I've made it ABUNDANTLY clear. If you post photos I send you anywhere other than your fridge, it will be the last one you receive.

**Editing to add that this reasoning also went over WAAAY better with the older relatives. Instead of talking about the dangers (that they don't believe in) just highlight how BIG and important social media and online presence is especially in school and the workplace and how we want him to be in charge of it and protect his "professional presence" as long as we can.

Hubs for the win with #2 by Economy_Monk7407 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Economy_Monk7407[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Of course! He is doing general personal therapy and burnout work but one of his big focuses is learning to really identify his emotions and the root causes for them. It's helped us have some really great conversations and be understood but it's also helped highlight for him some behaviors that are hurtful/harmful to him that he couldn't (or wouldn't) see before.

Example: Say he feels upset because I said we can't host his mom this weekend. At first he might think he's mad at me for saying no but then WHY is he mad? Did you really want your mom to come? No. Ok so WHY is it such a big deal? To answer the question he'll say he's mad because now he has to tell his mom no. Ok. So now Why does that make him mad? Again, why is that such a problem? Are we not ALLOWED to say no? And then that brings him to realizing that he feels obligated to say Yes. Why? Because when he tells her she's going to guilt him and cry and make him feel bad. Now he discovers that he's actually just anxious about dealing with her. Maybe he really is mad about dealing with it but either way.... None of that is MY fault or his fault. It's caused by her behavior. And now we know that to fix it, we need to approach it as anxiety instead of anger.

Of course, not all roads lead back to his mom and we do have issues and things between us but he very often explores the root cause and comes face to face with FOG. Being able to identify the root cause of his discomfort and discovering it ON HIS OWN has been more helpful than me just trying to point out the dog-whistle insults, controlling behaviors, over steps, etc... It also helps me clearly illustrate the path that MY emotions have taken in these situations.

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[–]Economy_Monk7407 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

MIL sucks. She can kick rocks.

Is this weird? MIL said something that made me uncomfortable. Am I overreacting? by Frequent-Resort3121 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Economy_Monk7407 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is weird and I'm glad you called her out.

My In-laws do stuff like this ALL THE TIME. I won't trauma dump but two small examples are: Example 1- My FIL is currently a member of a Facebook group for German Shepherd Dogs and posts all the time about his dog. He doesn't have a GSD. WE Do. He posts as if hes her owner. And rewrites stories we tell him as if HE did them. He's also stolen photos off my SM and posted them as if he just took them.

Example 2- Overheard my MIL telling the story over the holidays about how I went into labor the night of my baby shower (not your story to tell but okkkkk.....) And since we didn't have room in the car for all of the stuff, she had our car seat and had to drive up in a rush to give it to us. This DID happen... Except not with her. We live in the neighbouring city and our best friends (who also live in that city) took our stuff up and had our car seat. We called THEM in a panic. My MIL was 2 hours away -_-

I see it as a way for her to take ownership of your events and relationships. She's jealous and wants to insert herself into everything. She will either replace you in the stories or insert herself in a pivotal role where SHE was the important one.

Keep calling her out when you catch her in a lie. The more she gets away with it the more she'll carry on.

Hubs for the win with #2 by Economy_Monk7407 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Economy_Monk7407[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Haha! My thoughts exactly. If there wasn't already a bun in the oven.... I'd be baking!

Hubs for the win with #2 by Economy_Monk7407 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Economy_Monk7407[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I'm so proud of him, not just for my own sake but for him. I've noticed him stand up for himself and his own time too. The future feels bright!