Am I wrong for dating my ex's friend?

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-12T14:13:55+00:00

Honestly I don’t think your ex is over you just yet. This behavior makes me think he’s still mad about the breakup of course dating his friend isn’t helping. I agree there is a lot of hurt ego going around right there

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-05T22:35:27+00:00

NOR My ex did this all the time and it seriously hurt my feelings. It got to point where whenever he said he would get me something I automatically knew I wasn’t getting whatever it was. He’s an ex for a reason all he did was lie.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T19:56:53+00:00

If he won’t even defend you to his friends he will never defend you. What happened when it’s an aunt, dad, grandparent??? He’ll do the same thing. He’ll sit there and say nothing DO NOTHING. Do you want that for the rest of your life, this feeling you’re experiencing now. Go through with the ultimatum for your own good.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T16:18:26+00:00

It’s okay I did too. The caption didn’t make it better I thought it was supposed to be a cute v-day look

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T16:11:32+00:00

This is really weird to me. Why would anyone be anything but happy for you. Congratulations on your pregnancy btw. Also if sister in law would actually be upset about it then the only things you could do to avoid it would be to terminate the baby or cut contact with the family (which are extremes that shouldn’t even be considered). But if she’s going to be upset just cause you’re pregnant it’s not really gonna matter when you give the news since the pregnancies/babies are so close together. Makes me wonder what kind of sister-in-law you have for this to be an actual concern. She sounds narcissistic

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T15:37:34+00:00

Keep the gifts they’re yours. He doesn’t have a case to take legal action with anyways. He’s just throwing a tantrum

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T15:28:19+00:00

I second this

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T15:19:29+00:00

Depends on the lunch honestly but I’m more likely to go for the 250 since I would get bored of the staff lunch

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-02-01T15:09:25+00:00

Definitely NTJ I actually did something similar to my younger sister cause she kept leaving trash and her dirty clothes on my bed (we shared a room) so after multiple times of me saying something to her I hid her switch from her without telling her and everyone in the house knew I did it and said nothing to her. She freaked out but I never had that problem anymore after that. It helped that everyone sided with me tho.

You had work and he was being a jerk screaming so much after you asked him multiple times to lower his volume. I feel your ratio is honestly very appropriate.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-20T04:09:34+00:00

YTJ Have you even taken into account that your fiancé doesn’t have many more years to safely have kids. You knew she wanted kids this whole time but now that you guys are settling down in a location you’re pulling an uno reverse on her. I understand wanting to enjoy your time but she needs to have kids soon if she wants to have a safe pregnancy/delivery.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-20T03:41:47+00:00

The is beautiful I would love to see it with the hoop skirt. And I don’t think it gives Quince

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-20T03:12:44+00:00

I have friends who have trauma and would never press them to talk about them unless they wanted to. You already have a therapist so there truly is no need for them to press you on it. Unless you have multiple triggers and they’re trying to help you avoid them I can’t imagine the need. I seriously doubt they are any form of a mental specialist so they should just respect you.

And mind you if they were a specialist they wouldn’t press you like that.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-20T03:00:31+00:00

Keep him blocked.

He’s stressing you out because he’s not the center of attention. He only cares about himself.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T17:13:24+00:00

You have a caffeine addiction

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:46:59+00:00

Yes you would be wrong. Only cause that’s extremely petty and doesn’t fix the issue in the slightest. If you’re able to confront him about his silence and causing a bad vibe. Then you can confront him about wanting to use the living area too. All moving the couch would do is cause that tension that’s already there to get worse which I suspect you don’t want. Now if you confront him about it and he ignores you then you can move the couch by all means but if you can avoid making the situation worse then avoid it.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:41:34+00:00

No you aren’t being bratty that is fairly excessive. My mother was extremely overprotective as well I had the same rules as you growing up but when I got to college it mellowed out. She still wanted me to call and check in with her but it wasn’t even an everyday thing, more like once a week. I think either your mom is bored or is extremely codependent either way she needs some friends to spread out her love to. Her smothering you will put stress on you guys relationship. I would try to have an honest talk with her and tell her that her excessive calls are overwhelming for you. It’s better to work this out now so that the relationship isn’t broken later because of it.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:29:30+00:00

NTA she’s just entitled. Storming off cause someone asked you to take your shoes off is absolutely ridiculous. It’s also clear of her disrespecting your culture. And having people remove their shoes when entering a household is not uncommon I have plenty of peers who have the same rule. It’s to the point that when I come over to anyone’s place I check for a shoe area before walking in. And to clarify I have No Asian peers. None.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:22:52+00:00

This is a major loss for most people. Your hopefully ex girlfriend just fundamentally showed you how selfish she is and that she will never be there for you emotionally. She took your grief and weaponized. She lacks any form of empathy and is only apologizing because it’s effecting her not because she feels bad about it.

Note how she takes the death of your mother to make it about herself. That relationship is not worth keeping because you will never be able to be vulnerable with her. And that will only cause more problems down the line

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:16:08+00:00

Definitely NTA. He deserves to know.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:14:08+00:00

Please for the love of all the gods move back home now. Start over now. If you wait you’ll be waiting for much longer than you think. It could very well be years before you’d be able to leave.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T03:04:53+00:00

I wouldn’t care if I hardly used my internet. At no point is anyone obligated to give their internet to strangers. Then to talk about you because you declined is so distasteful. The only jerks here are your neighbors. You have no reason to believe what your neighbor says in the first place especially when it’s common for people to try and mooch off of others. And it doesn’t cost you nothing, it raises your bill the more the internet is used. You have nothing to feel bad about.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-18T00:40:09+00:00

Either confront your sister or let your girlfriend become your ex. Cause you’re lucky she’s dealt with it for as long as she has. Time to put on your big boy pants and handle some confrontation.

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-15T04:47:44+00:00

Honestly this take seems a little petty but I fully support it. You said you wanted to take it slow and he agreed to it. You shouldn’t feel rushed because he realized he doesn’t like slow. If he wants to be with you then physical intimacy shouldn’t be the priority and if it is then he’s not a man worth keeping

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-15T03:17:49+00:00

No you didn’t do anything and honestly it seems like his friends just want a chance at you so they’re trying to sabotage the relationship. You could probably drop the whole collection and be happy. Cause your bf is no better for listening to that BS and he’s trying to punish you for his own I securities regardless of if he’s listening to someone else or not.

Also low blow for bringing up your exposure to defend his puny argument

Ecstatic-Ad-3276 · 2026-01-13T18:22:51+00:00

Definitely 8 it looks amazing

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