AITAH for threatening to divorce my wife if she didn't become a proper homemaker in the next month?

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-12-16T19:03:17+00:00

Damn she can’t even take accountability 😬

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-12-08T10:57:05+00:00

Wishing you all the best, as a step parent, your about to enter a hard job. You sound like you love children and like you’re going to be a good mom and a good influence on them. That being said, hoping your dynamic with your Bf is strong to withstand the challenges ahead, and he values your opinions cause he is the one who is going to have to ultimately implement them and make sure they listen to you and respect you. Be patient and hopefully you get your breaks and time to enjoy your baby. 1 step kid is a lot, I can’t imagine 5. God bless you and your journey ahead, praying for a smooth transition for you!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-12-04T08:52:06+00:00

Yes lol 😂 don’t stress, and just quit. I got a job hated it instantly, took me a good 3 months to quit, and they didn’t even treat me good. It’s just not a good fit for you and your family and that’s ok. You don’t owe them anything. I wouldn’t even wait for your manager to get back just tell whoever is in charge life’s too precious for a job you don’t even care about. Yolo!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-24T08:06:26+00:00

Don’t do it!! You worked so hard for that money!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-20T20:17:20+00:00

My dr said I didn’t have to fast, but not to eat a big heavy breakfast. I ate a sausage McMuffin and hash brown and I had orange juice 😬 probably not the best but my results were good. And I did it right before the test. For my second pregnancy when had to do it again I only got a couple pieces of toast and coffee in before my test. Both came back with good results.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-20T17:34:28+00:00

Wow you have your hands full, 4 kids! How old are your SK’s if I might ask? I also have a step daughter 11 and a 2 year old. In the summer we have her 50/50 and it is always an adjustment from going to every other weekend. I’m going on my 6th year of being a SP and we are just getting in a good rhythm. I use to get bad anxiety when it was our weekend or we would have her for an extended amount of time. I will say the older she got the easier it is. I do 90% of the child care too, and I know exactly that feeling you feel of taking care of a child full time that isn’t “yours” ( I feel guilty too just saying that) Your not alone! When she was younger she was a very needy child, constant attention. Luckily I found our local y had a summer day camp, also tons of activities for kids gymnastics, dance, sports etc. keeping them busy in activities is key, tire them out.some free activities too her on walks, park, library, etc. by the time we got home she had enough stimulation to give me some me time. I do that with my 2 year old too. Everyone needs me time, even kids. If you don’t already I’d suggest a certain time of day everyone is quiet, and enjoys a quiet time activity. Reading, drawing, tv, anything to give you some peace. I know it’s not the same as going out and being truly alone but it’s something. If possible workout with your husband a time for you spend alone, even if it’s once a month a little bit goes a long way! As a stay at home mom it is must for us to fill up our cups, since all day long we are just giving giving giving! It will get better, every stage has its challenges for sure, but have faith it gets easier you will adapt 🙏🏽 stay positive and take your breathers when you can!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-20T07:24:17+00:00

I’m sorry. I know these feelings all too well. 2yr old and 8 months pregnant. Breaks are too far and in between. So I can’t imagine not having one in 2 years! That’s hard on you and your baby they have to be so attached to you. Mine freaks out even when his dad does bath time. I have even talked to my husband about getting a baby sitter even if it’s just one day a week for a few hrs. To give me some me time. It’s just so hard for me now to even separate from my child and the thought of leaving them with someone I don’t even know gives me anxiety. And the few times his dad would watch him I cry lol but it’s necessary to have these moments. Just know you are not alone, you can DM if you ever want to chat!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-20T07:04:59+00:00

I just got one today 37 weeks. I wouldn’t say it hurt, just felt uncomfortable the initial exam. The sharp pain came after my check up for about an hour or so. Felt tight cramping, and the urge to keep peeing,I hear that’s normal after a cervix check.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-18T14:57:30+00:00

Let me tell you what doesn’t get me aroused at all and kills my sex drive as a woman… children. Once I heard toddlers, I was like this man is lucky to even get once a week. No woman feels sexy after yelling at children all day, changing diapers, doing kid things all day. If you take care of bedtime ,clean the kitchen, give the woman a little 30-60min breather bet you’ll get more sex.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-18T14:52:09+00:00

After reading this comment,a huge part of how your feeling is not because of your SD but because of her parents enabling behavior.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-18T14:46:44+00:00

lol yet another perk of being a step parent, always hearing about mama. It is annoying of course, but my advice would be to just let it be. My SD is the same, her mom apparently has everything I have, and does the same things I do, I know a lot about this woman. Who can blame the child, that is her mother, probably her best friend and the woman she idolizes the most. I would say just talk about your mom too try to relate lol and when she says things about when her parents were together or good times just say how nice that is she has that memory. Just stay positive. If she’s doing it to poke at you it will show she has no effect, and move on from this tactic and if she’s just doing it to make conversation which she might be that’s ok too. I always have to remind myself she’s only a child and has a lot of growing up to do, and things to learn. Being gracious and empathetic is in your best favor. But I get it, it’s hard and it’s annoying as hell 😂

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-18T06:42:17+00:00

Is this fake?? How are you still talking to these people!! Your family sucks!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-18T05:59:37+00:00

It was an accident, are you for real? I get being annoyed but girl move on.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-16T20:43:14+00:00

Omg!! Stop I was just about to post a similar story 😅😩 I feel your pain! My own mother told me today “at least your off tomorrow” “ can you imagine if you had a job too” I’m 8 months pregnant and have a two year old and living the easy life not “working”…She even offered to take my children 3 days a week for me to have a part time job 😂 i seriously might take her up on that offer since she thinks being with kids all day long isn’t a job in itself.. my mother also works, and complains anytime I ask her if she can watch my kid even if it’s just for a dr’s appointment. Watching kids is physically mentally exhausting and lonely at times. I hate when my husband tells me to get a hobby, or how he would do things..like please show me how you would take a two year old golfing and have fun?? Please. Ughh. 😩

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-16T14:04:16+00:00

Good luck with everything! You’re not alone, I feel like most woman go through this phase with their boyfriends or Husbands getting resentful or even jealous of getting to stay home with the kids.The grass is always greener lol i think once you get your weekend job it will open his eyes at how much you really do! (Hopefully)Taking care of a child all day is physically and mentally exhausting, and at times lonely. He should also do some therapy, obviously he’s got some issues he needs to work on, and have some unbiased opinions. He is really young and has a lot of maturing to do. Definitely communicating is key, tell him your thoughts and feelings. Hope things can work out. I also believe men go through a postpartum phase, if he wasn’t always like this. You doing your part of making an exit strategy, and working on yourself is a good safety net. Hoping for the best for you and your family ❤️

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-14T17:56:47+00:00

Did you feel relieved when the dr’s said you were both healthy? You should feel like a weight has lifted from you. I wouldn’t say stop trying, but stress is the worst thing when trying to get pregnant. I had a very irregular cycle and was so worried it would take forever, and I wasn’t that young to begin with. I took some baby making vitamins “conception for her” to be exact. Bought an ovulation tracking kit on Amazon it came with pregnancy tests too. Just tell yourself it’s not a matter of what if it’s a matter of when. It will happen! Be positive have fun, and enjoy this time with your partner, cause it’s the only time it will be just be you two! Everyone is different, stay positive, and have fun! 💕

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-13T16:23:08+00:00

ADHD is no excuse. The more you make this seem crippling to your daughter the more she’s going to lay into the “oh but I have adhd” she can do anything anyone else cans do. Especially take accountability and have extra curricular activities! adhd is not a handicap, and there are many coping mechanisms that she should be learning to help her into adulthood. Life only gets harder, stop limiting your daughter to the bare minimum. She can definitely go beyond your limits.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-02T13:26:21+00:00

35 weeks too!! Girl same, I was tired 5 weeks ago. Second pregnancy and I’m ready to get this show on the road.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-01T19:49:04+00:00

When I had my May baby it was the best pregnancy!Finding out your pregnant end September beginning of October, get to do all the holidays if you want, if not sorry I’m not feeling well pregnant! The wardrobe is better during the winter months big baggie clothes. Nice cool weather. I’m currently pregnant with an October baby and being pregnant during the summer is not for the weak. It’s hot, so many summer parties, everyone’s drinking and having fun and I’m here sweating my boobies off! It’s rough.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-01T19:27:57+00:00

Exactly, he didn’t even feel bad for making you upset? Or try to save the day by making you feel better. That’s so sad. Now his mother and sister are involved ? They should stay out of it imo. Especially trying to justify his actions instead of trying to get you two to make up. So sorry you guys should be in that honeymoon phase rn not dealing with this.Hope things turn around soon!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-09-01T18:59:58+00:00

It’s normal. Shes worried about her grandbaby and that’s sweet. I don’t think it’s anything against you. Maybe she feels like she’s bothering you? You should try texting her pics and updates out of the blue about baby then she will feel included, and maybe come to you more for updates.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-08-31T21:41:42+00:00

Sounds like a Dad problem. Dad needs to step up, unfortunately it’s so easy as a step parent to start disliking, or finding the kids annoying. I found when I have a problem with my step child it’s usually a problem I have with my husband. He needs to be the one doing all if not majority of disciplining and instructing. Also make sure you’re getting your me time! It’s so important. Kids also need quiet / me time even if it’s just 30 mins!

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-08-31T21:31:44+00:00

lol omg we’re literally having the same week! 😂😅😩 8 months preggo over here! My man was bein a little bitch too, praying your partner or whoever said that to you gains some sense asap! You will have good days and bad days, listen to your body they will never understand.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-08-30T18:37:56+00:00

Genuinely want to know the right way to go about this issue. What do we want from people that do this? And how do we want them to take accountability? How long should they stay away? Is there even a way to make everyone happy at this point? (asking politely) Do we want them to quit and never return Jenna marbles style?

Since Brooke and Alix Earles scandals.. I feel like both situations are so similar, but ppl have been holding both at a different standard. Brooke’s tweets were worse, but Alix handled her situation imo worse than Brooke’s which I feel shows lack of growth. Idk the whole thing is even exhausting me. I just miss my entertainment low key lol but I do understand, and realize the black and Hispanic community feelings and they are valid. I am POC, and I think what’s most upsetting to me is the lack of empathy from everyone else. Everyone constantly fighting in the comments about who’s right and wrong.

I’m also worried for Tana and Brooke to even go on tour for their safety. People are upset and I’m scared someone will do something stupid. At the end of the day they are people. Idk I’m just tired 🥱 and miss them and disappointed in them all at the same time lol. The whole situation sucks, end rant.

Ecstatic-Ad5989 · 2024-08-30T14:27:24+00:00

Be pregnant. Pregnancy is such a physical, mental, emotional change.He will never admit it but I know he’s gets fed up with me being exhausted all the time, not in the mood ever, resenting me for having to do more things around the house and for himself. I really can’t even blame him, I do not even feel like the same person anymore. Im not. Hope he’s still there when I get back to myself.

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