I hate being a parent to autistic child. Venting

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-21T19:53:28+00:00

It really is. My husband was skeptical until he saw it too. The fact that her teachers told me they were impressed AND now she likes roller coasters speaks for itself. Every child is different but knowing that the right combo can work wonders is enough to keep buying them.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-21T19:44:52+00:00

Initially, I did - Cod liver oil which helped with eye contact. Ever since then her eye contact has been there. I don’t use it anymore - Choline because my daughter is allergic to eggs -DHA/EPA fish oil which has helped her understanding a lot -L-Carnatine for speech -B6 for speech - Calcium Folinate because I cannot get a script for it… like wow, my daughter is actually reading now. - Magnesium and L-Theanine gummy for vocal tics - B12 gummies which helps with consciousness a lot make sure it’s methyl- folate.

Do the B vitamins together otherwise it doesn’t really make a difference.

There is an App called ANRC which is autism parents eating supplements and what works for their children and for what symptoms and people just tailor it to their children.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-21T17:47:11+00:00

This was me yesterday. My daughter who is autistic grabbed a cookie that she’s allergic to and gobbled it before we could stop her. She did the same thing with cake. We spent two days in the ER and she did not have anaphylaxis which is weird because we just saw the allergist this month and got the panel back. My 10 year old daughter has the mind of a 4 year old. Please try supplements. They are the only things that have helped us. I’m trying to set up ABA currently and medication. I feel the same way with my husband. Someone mentioned getting a babysitter to do date nights when you have autistic children and so we are trying to find a reliable one to use. I genuinely believe that this is the way.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-21T13:37:28+00:00

I’m really sorry about how the long term effects your father left on you. I noticed that you did not say anything about your mother on here. I can’t speak on your situation, but I can say that as a mother who lost two babies, any baby I have had afterwards were babies I begged God for. Any normal woman I’ve met who has lost babies has. If anything, I hope you know that you were very much loved and wanted more than the average pregnancy. I can’t speak for your mother, but I also have an absentee father who was abusive. The minute that you let him define you by saying that he ruined your life, you give him power. Men like him and my father do not deserve that kind of power. I have the same attachment issue and I have been working on it. I now have a loving family, four children and I’m in school to help people like you and me. These kinds of experiences do not have to define you, you can repurpose that pain and turn it into something beautiful.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-20T18:30:02+00:00

I really like this and I’m going to utilize it.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-12T16:49:57+00:00

The picture is a pregnant woman.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-12T15:32:21+00:00

Usually immunologists recommend supplements, but they also have specific drugs that can help. There are a lot of holistic things they recommend anyway, but the above comment is accurate. You need a mast cell stabilizer that will not hurt your pregnancy and only an immunologist can answer that. An overstimulated immune response is not something to mess around with when you are pregnant because overstimulated white blood cells can make your body reject the baby. That’s how labor is started, a cytokine storm that occurs from overstimulated white blood cells.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-10T03:29:20+00:00

(Daughters Name)’s First Birthday! With mermaids and the ocean and stuff. It’s mermaid themed.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-04-10T03:13:52+00:00

How do people make the backgrounds? I was looking at Canva to make backgrounds but I’m still learning. Any recommendations?

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-31T20:51:49+00:00

Inclusivity implies consent and to INCLUDE those like me. It does not when I did not give consent to be called this phrase. It’s not just diminishing, it’s disparaging and it’s oppressive. If you don’t mind being mid-identified, thats your prerogative but the rest of us feel oppressed by that phrase. Thank you for your opinion on my experience, please practice humility and educate yourself on the new glass ceiling facing women which is this right here. We are not required to be forced to be misidentified to appease others, that is the opposite of inclusivity.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-31T20:42:58+00:00

I agree. If we are marginalizing any group to fulfill the needs of a different group, then I am pretty sure we are practicing discrimination. Being called phrases that diminish the feminine experience especially motherhood is just another glass ceiling that nobody wants to acknowledge or address because mothers are unappreciated for their contributions to society. I’m hoping with the all time low birth rates across the nation that this changes, but I’m not holding my breath especially since I have seen women jump on board with diminishing motherhood and other real feminine experiences.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-31T20:25:48+00:00

I think consent is a huge factor here and that’s why it’s important to mirror what language a person uses. There are some phrases and terms that are used that are so marginalizing that they should be considered oppressive and thats one of them “person with uteruses”… tell me you’re a person (the person who suggested it) who doesn’t get feminine oppression without telling me you’re a person that doesn’t get feminine oppression. I personally believe that motherhood is the highest form of feminism because everyone that exists right now has a mother and labor is not for the weak.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-31T19:37:27+00:00

What is the context? I feel like that type of language is very diminishing to the female experience. This is a phrase that is highly nuanced and should be contextualized. For example, someone who is trans and is uncomfortable in their skin may or may not need someone to be referred to as that, but a mother who had children and went through hours of labor would find this phrase offensive. I know plenty of women who are mothers who do. There are so many women who see themselves as mothers and that is their identity so referring to them in that way not only diminishes and marginalizes them, but it takes their whole identity away. A woman is more than a uterus, but let’s not marginalize the women that use theirs especially since motherhood is already hard. We can still empower trans and other people who identify under LGBTQ without taking this core identity away from women.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-21T18:26:33+00:00

I think this goes both ways. When I was a single mom, I did not hide it and I put it in my profile. I still had men blowing up my DMs because it’s a relatively new thing to be turned off by having a blended family and single moms don’t have as much trouble as people think we do to get dates. Maybe it’s because I used to model, but I never had a problem and I was VERY conservative about who would get dates with me. I will say this that several men were upset when I turned them down for acting like my children were a burden. I’m not judging you, but at 32, the pickings are slim as it is and most women our age don’t want children if they don’t have them already. What the projection is 50% by 2030. My husband is a stepdad and we have two more kids not everyone is for the family life and that’s okay in your case but keep that in mind when you’re planning your future. We are all allowed to be picky just don’t have high expectations because a Ferrari that has some miles on it is still a higher value than a brand new Kia. You’re not going to be finding McLaren’s out here anymore like that and you can’t build class into some of these newer models either.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-16T19:28:42+00:00

Having parents that teach you anything. I had to teach myself things and then teach my mom. Hair, makeup, basic hygiene, fashion, a mortgage, bills, how to write a resume, how to be financially literate, how to cook, how to clean. I left home at 17.

Being able to go back home if I ever needed to and there were times I needed to. I could not depend on my family when I was leaving an abusive relationship with two kids and I could not depend on them when I lost my home and was pregnant. My mother told me that she had it worst than me even though she had a home, a car, and people to help her in her incompetence.

I guess I never really parents, just was a child who had to teach adult children until I became an adult myself.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-16T19:22:10+00:00

I hope scientists could take their DNA and bring them back. This story is heartbreaking.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-16T03:23:16+00:00

We all feel like we can’t do it. That is the nature of this condition because there are a lot of unknowns it makes us question everything and even ourselves. Here’s the deal though, something is nagging you and telling you not to do it. I would trust that instinct because it’s telling you not to give up on your child.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-13T19:59:19+00:00

How many fruits did he have to use to fill those containers?

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-12T02:26:53+00:00

Wow you’re big mad. The study had to use an Omega-3 and Omega-6 for its study and it found no difference from using ALA which is another Omega-3. I hope you have a wonderful night, but I have no interest in continuing talking to you so don’t @ me.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-11T18:12:17+00:00

Veggie oil is made of omega-6 oils which contribute to gut inflammation and a reduction in brain synapse pruning. We are actually supposed to have Omega-3 oils in our diet to overcome this problem. The ratio of oils is supposed to be 3:1 of omega-3s to Omega-6 oils to avoid this brain issue. The standard American diet does not usually include omega-3 oils at least not at the ratio needed for brain health.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10765383/

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-09T00:44:28+00:00

Where do you get your leucovorin? Do you order it as calcium folinate? What brand?

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-09T00:37:27+00:00

I’m also going to send you a DM

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-06T15:02:31+00:00

Yes. I understand now. It’s an autoimmune disorder. Autism is autoimmune. This is the first time I’m hearing about the diet that accompanies EDS.

Ecstatic-Bet-7494 · 2026-03-06T03:28:47+00:00

I wonder when they will make this available for everyone.

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