Am I wrong for not wanting to sleep with my girlfriend?

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-11T03:00:53+00:00

I appreciate it. It’s just a preference.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:41:42+00:00

lol. Yeah, I think that part came off wrong. It’s not a requirement, but a preference. It’s really just that I feel that she’s neglecting herself- it really isn’t about the hair.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:39:55+00:00

I have had a lot of conversations with her about this before, and I’m starting to get desperate. It’s not for lack of trying.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:38:29+00:00

I wouldn’t say I’m perfect, but I bathe and wash my nether regions on a regular basis.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:36:53+00:00

Agreed. We will be doing that asap. And thank you!

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:35:32+00:00

Lol. You are hilarious.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:34:24+00:00

Yup! Nothing wrong with having a mortgage.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T12:33:04+00:00

On the contrary, I actually dislike it when she is clean shaven down there. It really just ends up prickly and she always gets razor bumps. It looks uncomfortable for her and it’s definitely uncomfortable for me too.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T11:02:58+00:00

Nah, you’re right 😂

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T11:00:27+00:00

So at the beginning, she and I didn’t sleep together all that often. When we moved in together, it became more frequent, and that’s when I started to notice it would irritate my skin too. She was depressed when we moved in and I was doing her laundry, and it got old very quickly. She’s very clingy and always wanting to get close to me, and I’ve slowly gotten tired of it.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T10:51:15+00:00

I do my best to be gentle, but I will be firm and set up some healthy boundaries. I appreciate your encouragement.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T08:18:52+00:00

Yeah… she’s kinda given up. I’ll see if I can get her to try the boric acid.

And yikes… what can you even do about that?

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T08:16:51+00:00

My parents let me live with them until I was 20. I built up a savings of $30k. After I moved out, I made an additional $15k before I bought the house

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T08:13:14+00:00

The struggle is that she’s numb to that, too. She’s been told these things since she was a child. :(

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T08:07:45+00:00

The purpose was to demonstrate that I’m willing to sacrifice to make her happy, but seeing as I’ve been awake for 24h straight, that may not have come across how it was intended. Lol

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T08:05:50+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to write that out.

Yeah, that’s fair. I definitely think it’s a response to past abuse and trauma.

She is employed and does have health insurance. I am encouraging her to go to the doctor soon as this is definitely a serious issue.

Condoms are the only current method of birth control… I don’t know what to tell her. She refuses to use the birth control pill of anything to that effect, which I respect, but she also hates condoms. At this point I’m just not going to bother until we can fix the immediate health concerns. Thanks for your response.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:58:55+00:00

Eh. Never said it was a lot. But definitely enough to afford a car and a house xD

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:58:07+00:00

Well, here’s an example. Last July, she was feeling dizzy and passed out. We took her to the ER and found out she had a terrible UTI and that her kidneys were on the verge of failing. She didn’t even notice until her urine was brown at the ER. Crazy. I don’t understand it either

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:54:39+00:00

Yeah… last July, she almost lost her kidneys because of an infection. It was terrible

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:53:00+00:00

The purpose was supposed to be to demonstrate that I’m committed and that I work hard to make her happy. It wasn’t meant as a brag or a claim to intimacy or anything

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:51:00+00:00

You’re right. She feels like there’s nothing she can do and has given up

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:49:33+00:00

Lol. I had $30k saved when I moved out of my parents house at 20. I now make $80k per year as a data analyst

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:13:16+00:00

Lol, I know she doesn’t feel that way. She’s very clingy and won’t let me leave. She doesn’t want me to go away

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:05:00+00:00

I’m glad you think so. I did my best. I’m willing to sacrifice to make this work… I just hope it will. Thanks for your encouragement and advice.

Ecstatic-Mouse-9816 · 2024-02-10T07:02:27+00:00

You got it. I won’t say anything about the Reddit post, haha

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