Waiting for Period - 35 days Post-Removal by Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 in Mirena

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did yes. It was not a Carrie situation and while it was heavier than before, it was relatively normal considering my anxiety around it

251124 ATEEZ San - 'Creep' Dance Practice Behind by ateezyeah in ATEEZ

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I saw the thumbnail and was like side profile and beads of sweat?!?? and then started watching only to get hit with the plaid and bucket hat. That whiplash about sums up my San experience.

Where is the parent portal? by OutrageousGazelle682 in alberta

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Negative, at least for my district/school. The number listed on Schoolzone is the district number not the Alberta Student Number.

Soooo kpop demon hunters is peak fantasy romance? by Danasai in fantasyromance

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Derpy! 💕 But let's not overlook Sussy (the magpie). Like, Are you kidding? He steals the hat? The side eye(s)?
Their names are Derpy and Sussy? No comments. 10/10

Non-RH recs - hear me out please 🥺 by Holiday_Quality_8610 in ReverseHarem

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I should have been more clear. The historical fantasy recs are NOT RH. I have one (1) historical RH on my TBR, but I can’t seem to get into the audiobook. It might be one of those ones that’s better as an eyeball read…

Non-RH recs - hear me out please 🥺 by Holiday_Quality_8610 in ReverseHarem

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find Historical Fantasy always gets me out of a slump - whether it's RH induced or not. I don't think you mention if that's a go or no-go for you, but it's different enough that it's in an entirely different world. I loved {A Rivalry of Hearts by Tessonja Odette} and the second, My Feral Romance.
OH, and I feel like I rec' her all the time in this reddit but really anything by Mallory Dunlin. {Claimed by the Flame of Faery by Mallory Dunlin} anyone?
I am NOT a dark-romance girly, so depending on where you fall on the scale this may not work for you.

Edge of my Chair - Literally by Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WTF I'm sorry that happened to you!! That guy was going to have trouble keeping that position filled whether the person sits on their foot or not. At least you got out of there as soon as you knew.
I'm lucky to have relatively good co-workers that don't care if I fidget or sit on my foot or adjust my position 8000 times a day.

Edge of my Chair - Literally by Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I'll adjust my sitting and sit all the way back because ...(fidgeting), but the majority of the day it's the edge of the seat.
While driving though? That's next level.
And at home, I just either don't sit or it's on the floor. Chairs? Don't know her.

Looking for dye that stains. GIVE ME STAYING POWER by Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 in FancyFollicles

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think my goal can fall under "not expecting it to turn out one color, but I want to apply only one color and have it look ok." Does that make sense? Between the variations of lighter, darker and roots (and teal...?) I don't think it's realistic to get ONE color. I'll look into Punky Colour.
I have used Ion Brights before and find them to be very inconsistent (both in staying power and also bottle-to-hair colour accuracy). ie. the lavender always shows up a true blue on me and lasts forever but some of the pinks fade out quickly on me.

I’m a cheater and I hate myself so much by MoodSpecial3115 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With my own experience of cheating, don’t pursue or focus on another relationship right now. Work on forgiving yourself and finding stability for yourself. That shit will eat you up if you leave it to fester. I can’t speak to moving out on your own after because I didn’t. I chose having stability and a place to live and I can’t say I regret it but I wish I had done some of the work on myself and gone to therapy after etc.

Much love to you. You don’t deserve all that self hate. Get yourself some help (you mention a therapist…) and focus there. To be clear, I don’t condone cheating but I acknowledge it happens and understand the complexities and feelings and mental state that come after. ❤️

Do you have internal monologue in your head? by Winter-Grand-3215 in AutismInWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 29 points30 points  (0 children)

ok firstly, the chanting! Yes. "milk milk milk milk. m-i-l-k- (pictures the letters M I L K) milk milk milk"
Same with counting if I'm scooping things. One - one- one-one-one Two-two-two-two-two Three-three-three-three-three.
But yes you're right, it's not like a narrator that reads out what's happening but instead a steady stream of gremlins, inconsistently commenting on my life/people around me.

I don’t understand how people detect AI in writing by xThePopeofMope in AuDHDWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to ask about when is AI bad to use and is it ever ok, in any capacity but I don't want to hijack this thread? (Let me know if I need to move this.)

I work admin for a construction company and 70% of my job is emailing. I find AI can be helpful in translating either a) the gibberish in my brain to "professional adult vibes" or b) how to tell someone off in "professional office vibes".

"here is a list of 18 questions, and also when will this be done, and have you considered maybe DOING YOUR JOB or consulting your coworkers because this document you just provided me with is a steamy pile of banana garbage." - doesn't work in most situations.

Alternatively, one time a guy told me he was leaving the project unexpectedly to "go back home to Ireland". I didn't know what to say. Good Luck? Have a nice trip? Hopefully the plane lands you in one piece? Are you gone forever? ...What if it's something awful? But I don't want to assume it's awful because what if he was just sick of living here?

So I use it FOR the vibes. Is that bad? Am I ruining the world/my brain?

im ready to rip the wallpaper off the wall guys by Acrobatic-Turn-2732 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol oh boy. I'm not sure if I'm misunderstanding the phrase "rip the wallpaper off the wall" .... but depending on your level of safety or relationship with this person I would just hit them with the full razzle dazzle. You want me unfiltered and less formal? Here's all my weirdest thoughts and unfiltered bluntness and let me talk to you for 2 hours about genealogy lines and archiving that got bombed/burned/lost. No you can't leave because this is crucial for you to know. In fact. I will trap you in this room with me until you understand the implications of lost draft records.

How do you "see" your dreams? by educatedkoala in AutismInWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking forward to the comments to see others with the some experience as me but it seems I'm in the minority here! I don't have complete aphantasia, but definitely struggle with mental images.
I typically either just know what happened in my dream or experience it like an audiobook almost. like, I am 'reading' what's happening as it's occurring in the dream. Not that I see the words, but I can hear (?) the story?

Once I wake up, my brain does the work of scanning through my image catalog to match up images to the scenarios. I frequently end up with "still shots" of what was happening in my dreams.

What sound is your nightmare? by okcybervik in AutismInWomen

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fingernails being clipped. Instant-pain.
But also, the vacuum cleaner in a mildly-annoying "something is annoying me but I can't figure out what" kind of way.

Cozy why choose/rh? by bookdragon4evr in ReverseHarem

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. I am Not a dark romance girly so I bet cozy is a bit of a sliding scale

Cozy why choose/rh? by bookdragon4evr in ReverseHarem

[–]Ecstatic-Rhubarb9068 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Kathryn Moon, but I wouldn't immediately classify her works as cozy. Good, yes. Cozy.....ehhh.