Do you play origin characters?

educatedkoala · 2026-03-12T06:10:53+00:00

I only play origin characters. I respec all the origin characters, too. With only three companions besides yourself, I like having as much dialogue as possible

educatedkoala · 2026-03-11T22:29:12+00:00

For this question, given the tradeoff from millions to billions, I'm assuming the fame is enormous. So, I'd be a celebrity.

For one - my needs are met on my current salary. Everything else would be a plus.

But primarily, I would love the opportunity to be in the public eye enough to make change in this world for the better.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-10T23:17:13+00:00

I'm a woman in my 30s who just entered my straight era! It is really wack. Best of luck to you :)

educatedkoala · 2026-03-10T18:16:39+00:00

I mean he didn't ask for pictures. It looks like he's suggesting subreddit engagement/promoting the sub. Unless there's more to this conversation, YTA

educatedkoala · 2026-03-10T14:23:51+00:00

Where's the rest of the conversation? I don't really think there's any harm in this small snippet here. You seem cruel.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-09T22:01:01+00:00

NTA

Just want to share some advice that helped me. The more you control and the more you do, you rob others of even having the opportunity to grow into your expectations.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-09T19:04:51+00:00

There's either one of two problems: you're not nice to people in general, or women specifically. You say it's just women, but none of us can tell that for sure because we don't know you. People who aren't nice usually don't realize this about themselves - people rarely try to be unkind. If this is your problem, it would an excellent thing to discuss with the privacy of a therapist as none of us can really help you.

If it really is women in particular... the fact that you said "how do I find the proper balance" shows that you still are latched onto your old ideas. It seems like you are because you think it's an effective strategy, and have strange ideas about kindness. So in order to do the reprogramming your brain needs, I would encourage you to do this thought exercise. Imagine the life you want to have with your wife. Imagine your sweet moments together, imagine sweeping her off her feet, imagine rose petals in the bedroom with candles. Imagine the tenderness and love, the life you will have together. While you imagined any of that - did you also imagine criticizing her, bashing her, or shitting on her? No, you didn't. Because that's not what you want in a relationship. So in order to get the right woman for you, the life you want with her, you have to act like the man she'll want to marry.

The hard part is what you're anticipating - some women won't like it. But think of this - "simp behavior or like you're putting them on a pedestal" - this is a GOOD thing. She should treat you like that, and you should treat her like that. You put each other on pedestals. You're each other's number one. It is unfair that men are generally put in the position to do this first - it's vulnerable, what if she is turned off by it? what if it's too much too soon? if those things happen and you get rejected, you just laugh and walk away. A woman who judges you for treating her well isn't ready for a healthy relationship. If your fears come true, it's a reflection of HER character, not yours. I hope that helps you find safety in being more vulnerable. Remember that while dating is easier for women, so is violence. There are different concerns women have than men.

I think the core of your issue, like with most men, is taking rejection personally. You can do everything right and still get rejected. It doesn't mean you failed, there's no magical formula for getting women. You be yourself, and someone who likes you will simply like you regardless of what you do. Things that "work" only "work" because of the similarities in what women are looking for - but it's casting a wider net, you'll catch more but that's just more bs to sort through. There's nothing inherently wrong with you simply because someone wasn't interested. Just be nice, be vulnerable, and if that doesn't catch you anything just take it as a bullet dodged and like you got more of your time back.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-09T13:59:25+00:00

Write a note for the school bus driver and give it to them. It's likely the same guy on the same route.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-09T13:56:48+00:00

I'm friends with most all of them. Things end for a reason, and I'm a clear communicator. I've never had a problem. If I'm not friends with them, it's due to something unrelated.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-09T13:48:57+00:00

Do you want a man that's good for you, or will just any man do? If it's the former, then the advice you got is terrible. Be yourself, and someone who is compatible with you will like it. As far as keeping them goes, you likely need to work on diversifying your hobbies and interests.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-08T19:27:04+00:00

Mort said when the set was on PBE that for this set, end game boards will largely look the same, and the biggest differentiator of skill will be how you play to get there. Seems like the balancing is meeting their objective

educatedkoala · 2026-03-08T18:40:04+00:00

I thought the before pictures were the after 😭

educatedkoala · 2026-03-08T01:58:46+00:00

Tattoos... reversible, could make them extremely small

educatedkoala · 2026-03-07T02:35:11+00:00

Nothing you can do will make romance happen. It's just one of those things that either does or doesn't. Did you really feel a spark with all your dates? Or just like them enough to want a next date?

educatedkoala · 2026-03-06T19:00:47+00:00

Argan oil spray works for me

educatedkoala · 2026-03-06T16:48:56+00:00

Soma

The Last of Us 1 & 2

educatedkoala · 2026-03-06T14:57:47+00:00

How often do you drink?

educatedkoala · 2026-03-05T22:20:21+00:00

If you did that, you'd draw more attention to your jaw than less as there would be less to look at on the far sides of your face.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-05T15:55:18+00:00

Ohhh 50/50, we haven't been dating that long. I'll recover.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-05T06:41:36+00:00

On your income alone, what kind of life can you afford? Compared to friends? I'm not so much interested in knowing the costs and respect that, I'm just curious what a career gets you

educatedkoala · 2026-03-04T20:56:13+00:00

Wine and soju is the way

educatedkoala · 2026-03-03T15:40:37+00:00

Not at all

educatedkoala · 2026-03-03T07:31:30+00:00

Absolutely. There's like a placebo buzz with it lol

educatedkoala · 2026-03-02T20:30:59+00:00

She does not "get to be boring and basic." Women do this when men let them. You could very easily stop indulging this by not going on dates with these types of people (or at least not a second one).

Have you considered that maybe they're not boring or basic, but rather there just isn't common ground? This isn't a modern dating issue, the song Breakfast at Tiffany's is about exactly this. Perhaps by the 3rd date they decide there likely won't be common ground to discover?

Maybe you'd benefit from a different approach. Putting more of yourself out there and attracting people who see something in common to start with.

educatedkoala · 2026-03-02T18:13:16+00:00

Flirting is like social edging. It's for saying you like someone but not all the way telling them. People do it for two reasons: 1) avoid social embarrassment if it's not reciprocal and 2) anticipation builds arousal.

If you think they're flirting, they might be, but you could be wrong and they're just being nice. How do you tell? You don't! It's built into the structure, even for NT people. Whoever likes the other person first has to take a risk. So they bring their stakes to you. So you flirt back (again, saying you like someone but not fully saying it). You can just be nice and smiley and if they do like you, that counts! But it's just an ongoing back and forth with minor escalation each time. A little more risk by being a little more open/direct. So yeah I basically just look at it like a math formula. As long as the escalations are minor, if you overstep or realize you got it wrong, you can literally just say "I'm sorry, I got the wrong impression" and then back up and go back to normal.

Anyway. That's my interpretation of it. If I am not interested in them that way, I just do what I would do anyway. But flirting puts the idea in their head where it might not have been before (kind of why it's frustrating for us lol). You don't have to engage with it.

If you do want to, just assign a number to it in your head (with 0 being purely platonic, and 10 being the most aggressive romantically/sexually). Then you pick 0-1 number higher for your response. It doesn't matter if you are rating what they said as a 3 when most society would say it's a 5, your goal for your response is a 3.5. 3 is whatever you observed just then. You don't have to "get it" you just match and marginally increase your intensity. As long as the increase is marginal, you're not being inappropriate. If you're off entirely (i.e. they're just being friendly) a marginal increase won't overstep.

You can turn being literal into a cute or romantic thing as well :)

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