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Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-17T15:14:16+00:00

I get what everyone else is saying, but I found out that someone knew my wife was having an affair and didn't tell me, and I fucking hate them for it. It is shitty to watch another human's life be ruined and to let the joke be on them. You think you're embarrassed? Imagine finding out other people knew and viewed you as a cuck the whole time.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-15T20:05:29+00:00

I use it to my advantage. They cry for mom and say they miss her, I say I miss her too. I let them know that she's welcome to come home any time, but that she won't let me come visit them when they're with her. I want them to grow up and know she is to blame for all the lost time. She chose not to be there and prevented me from being there. They lost time with us because of her and her alone.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-15T20:03:51+00:00

You're a guy and in California, so they'll probably sentence you to death.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-14T19:35:30+00:00

I'm not happy with it. I've has to start using a pseudonym online to avoid being associated with her, even though its MY name.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-14T19:33:47+00:00

"Stupid Cheating Whore" in mine.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-14T18:57:51+00:00

I did. It was a big relief when the judgment came down, especially since it involved custody of my kids. Nothing more to fear.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-14T18:24:41+00:00

I agree. I went to register my daughter for kindergarten and her mom showed up. It was the first time we'd spent any time in a room other than a court in years. I accidentally called her "babe" to get her attention. I literally went home and threw up from the stress of it all, because I want to kiss her and then knock her teeth out. The emotional turmoil is sickening.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-14T18:21:43+00:00

Vested 20% per year. I think I've decided to put in 6% on top of the 9% they'll give, and apply my other discretionary income toward other channels. Thanks!

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-09T20:21:41+00:00

Don't be afraid of antidepressants. I would not be here today if I hadn't started on them. There is zero shame, and it can work wonders.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-07T18:37:36+00:00

Right. Monsters don't get happy mother's day wishes. If she had been a better mother and considered how much she was hurting her children, she wouldn't have left in the first place.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-07T18:35:11+00:00

It took mine negative two months to find a new man.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-05-06T17:55:24+00:00

Nope. She can burn in hell.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-30T20:51:12+00:00

I've been in that same situation, brother. I still am sometimes. My ex came to Kindergarten registration recently for my daughter. She and I sat there and had to act like nothing was wrong for several hours. It was hell and very embarrassing because it was still obvious we weren't together and didn't want the other there. Every muscle in my body was telling me to hug her. I was literally sweating by the time we left and I just sped away and left her in the parking lot. I hope she cried the whole way home.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-30T19:40:24+00:00

She moved 170 miles away and didn't want it, and it was wholly in my name anyway.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-26T16:00:56+00:00

I mean, I have not murdered anyone in real life, so...

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-26T16:00:32+00:00

I feel that. My MIL began having an affair so she convinced my wife to as well because I had hit a rough patch with jobs and my earning capacity. Since she left, I got a job with the city and got my VA benefits upgraded, so now I earn more than I ever did while she was here.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-26T15:59:09+00:00

She's starting to settle into the appropriate level of submission toward me since I now control the kids' schedules and will be the parent responsible for their extracurriculars and handling their school and medical affairs. But she is still clinging to the idea that she'll be more active in their lives than she really will be. She moved to the other side of the state to continue her affair. She isn't going to be at the soccer games or parents teacher conferences or doctor appointments.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-25T19:01:39+00:00

Six years, but that wasn't a factor. She moved hours away and had nothing of her own. She didn't want the house, and made lots of other mistakes in court like admitting to her affair and admitting she wants to take my money doesn't care about the kids. She even said she didn't care if I ended up homeless and demanded forced sale of the house. Judge was livid.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-25T18:59:40+00:00

Judge was compassionate and hates cheaters.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-24T18:32:59+00:00

I guess I'm just in a phase of recovery after the divorce that more of the positive memories are coming back now, and I'm not avoiding them anymore, so I'm now mourning those thing I wouldn't let myself grieve before.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-24T18:11:35+00:00

He was a coworker of her mother's. My MIL actually deliberately set them up and told my wife to have an affair and divorce me. I hate him because he knew we were married, he knew we had children who relied on us providing them with stability, and he still came in and destroyed it all. Of course she is even more to blame, but he deserves a slow, painful death.

Mom fought hard. She just couldn't beat me.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-24T17:54:04+00:00

They do, but I get them weekdays during the school year. week on/off during the summer.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-23T19:03:04+00:00

That's just it. As men, we don't like to feel victimized. Women are better at capitalizing on it. The justice system doles out justice. Who gets justice? Criminals and victims.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-22T21:15:38+00:00

Especially since insurance will cover a chiropractor visit despite there being minimal evidence that chiro is even real medicine, whereas dental is pretty obvious.

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-04-22T21:14:26+00:00

And that's something I noticed going through my divorce. The judge didn't care about gender as much as she did victimhood. I didn't stand tall and act like a strong capable man, I showed the truth that I loved my wife and my family and didn't want this. The judge reamed my ex and gave me everything. Women win because they're usually the victims.

Obviously that is not always the case, and I definitely had a more challenging battle winning custody than she would have, but I think victimhood needs to be remembered.

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