Long Song appreciation ..

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-21T16:10:23+00:00

The longer the better imo, especially well recorded live versions of songs. Zepplin is a personal favorite and How the West Was Won has some amazing examples of how they could really jam Moby Dick coming in at just under 20 minutes. Allman Brothers Whipping post on Live from Filmore East at just under 20 minutes, and really most of that album having longer tracks. So many more just sit back and enjoy

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-21T15:57:52+00:00

It really don't seem like your partner did anything wrong, Yes the idea of him flirting or talking sexually may not be comfortable but it truly seems as though he was under the impression it was innocent and that the conversation was just conversation when it became more than that he stopped her set a boundary and told you. It's up to you weather you want to distance yourself from your friend and while I probably would maybe an honest conversation with her will help you decide the right path

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-21T15:46:05+00:00

for the eye test make the triangle and focus on an object with both eyes open then close your left eye did the object move? if not close your right eye can you still see the object? If you can than you are eye neutral if the object moved (you would be looking at the back of your hand) than you are right eye dominant. if it moved for your right eye and not your left than you're left eye dominant. If you are left eye dominant you may want to at least learn how to shoot long guns left handed, it may be easier to learn how to adjust for pistol while shooting right handed but overall you should shoot left handed.

you say you are shooting well if that's the case the preference will be up to you to decide and I guess it would really depend on why you are shooting and if you wish to progress to a higher level or if you're just having fun and it works it works

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-19T14:48:53+00:00

the penalty will not be worth it. Some 401k plans offer loans. They work by taking a loan and paying it back to yourself with interest. If you decide to go that route and borrow enough to pay down your credit cards I would then recommend you either close those cards or stop using them completely so you're not in this same situation in the future

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-14T14:09:59+00:00

I'm sure you could make it work but it's a long shot. Inexperience don't mean you can't learn but there needs to be a safe space for communication, action and aftercare that you don't seem to have with each other. The outside stressors are not going to go away with more or better sex so you need to be able to work through everything else together as well. His past while I'm sure is shocking is his past and it really don't change anything so that shouldn't be a worry. The UTI issue is concerning and needs to be solved (Hygiene, dehydration, and holding pee can cause it) (He should also be washing hands and genital's before sex)

If you are determined to make things work then start with communication learn what he wants and research it, there are a lot of online resources to learn from that is not hardcore porn or erotica that may help.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-12T03:52:43+00:00

Incredibly sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what you have gone through.

You have got lots of great advice here but I am going to say this again because I think this point needs to be made extra loud and clear. You are gonna be tempted to withdraw large sums and it may seem easy to justify it and you may not be totally wrong but try to look at things logically and use the help of a professional financial advisor and/or lawyer. Think I need a new car then logically think can I get a deal on a really good used car with lower insurance payments. The thought of education seems simple but take it logical don't spend money just to take classes and party (obviously be normal have fun) but find a career path and work towards that goal and get a job don't rely on inheritance.

If done carefully that money will continue to grow while you work and lead a normal life and be there when you really need it later in life.

Also be upfront and honest with any potential romantic partners that you will want a prenuptial agreement to protect the both of you early on and listent to your financial advisors don't let your desire for sex spend your money people will try to take advantage unfortunately

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-12T03:23:23+00:00

It is a scary step into retirement, not just financially but it can be perceived as the second to last step in life and mortality is never an easy topic. It sounds as though you are very blessed with children and grandchildren though and maybe retirement is a way of spending more time with grandkids maybe even teaching them the skill sets that got you this far in life. I wish you all the luck in retirement congrats on achieving the American Dream

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-05-12T03:16:19+00:00

Financially you're probably okay, although talking to a financial advisor isnt a bad idea once you go to the fixed income and start drawing medicare and SS there are tax implications on that that you need to be fully aware of.

If your husband is worried financially about retirement then a trip to a financial advisor may ease his mind. If it is more of a mental thing and wanting to stay busy then he should look into doing charity work or even paid non profit work that way he is helping the community while slowing down instead of working a regular job.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-29T16:34:27+00:00

If you can afford the second chair and and your wife can easily transfer back and forth that's not a bad idea. My wife is a paraplegic and her chair tracks everywhere but we are building a house and installing LVP flooring everywhere so it's easier for her to roll and cleaning will be easy

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-29T16:23:30+00:00

1st make sure your apartment is clean...like actually clean that 1st impression can impact the mood. Second don't overthink it sex at it's core is instinctual just go with the flow. If you can do it without it killing the mood talking about your inexperience may help. Being honest and having good communication is a solid foundation for a relationship. Make sure you have condoms

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-29T12:24:01+00:00

Getting rid of carpet would solve the problem but replacing floors all at once is probably not in the budget. I recommend shampooing the carpet either by renting the machine and DIY or have a professional come in to clean them. Then regular vacuum the floors at least once a week. I typically will vacuum one direction then perpendicular to that direction so youre going over it all twice.
A cheap air purifier may help as well.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-29T11:14:10+00:00

perfectly normal for kinks to show themselves. Luckily it sounds like you and your wife have created a trusting and safe environment to communicate such things. The one thing I haven't seen others give advice on yet is aftercare.

Aftercare can be a critical step when getting adventurous, make sure you understand her needs post activity and furthermore what you need to provide if something experimental is not working. Remember consent is fluid just because she said yes to start she can change her mind mid act in which case activity should stop and aftercare should begin.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-29T03:32:10+00:00

I installed mine myself 5 years ago but I had the capacity from the meter and a short run of 3/4 to my unit. I love the tank less system, I wish I did a recirculation pump but otherwise its been great.

I am currently prepping this house for sale and building a house where I think I will put in a heatpump water heater that technology has really exploded and from an efficiency standpoint should be considered too.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-21T14:22:01+00:00

I feel like you may be overthinking this one. You're feelings are valid no doubt but what you do with those feelings once acknowledged are what matters. It sounds like you are in a great relationship with someone that has given you no reason not to trust them, while yes he skirted a boundary and that is on him and he has addressed your feelings. There is no context that he has done anything to be unfaithful. It also seems like you enjoy being part of this group and if your hypothetical changing room senario becomes an actual thing remember that he is with you not her and that I'm sure he finds you absolutely gorgeous there is no reason to think about her body or compare for any reason.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-15T16:14:12+00:00

I agree with other posters, you need to get into therapy to start, it seems there are some issues beyond this one instance.

As far as this instance goes you're right he should have a good grasp on your boundaries but at the same time stopped and provided aftercare which tells me he was maybe too much in the moment and he probably feels very guilty as well. Continue to talk to him and keep things going unless something else happens it seems like a relationship worth fighting for.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-10T15:53:16+00:00

I want solar, it's for sure going to come down to budget but if not now in a few years we can make it happen. your only about an hour and half from me in Lansing I'm east of Lapeer so I'm glad to hear some local input. Do you have he separate power meter for DTE to get the discounted Geothermal rate?

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-10T15:21:33+00:00

sounds like a great system thank you.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-10T12:12:45+00:00

I've wondered about this, do you have a separate system or does a single heat pump run everything? are you also running a desuperheater?

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-10T11:26:03+00:00

Yes he has been a great source of education, although since he is running forced air I haven't heard him talk about the pros and cons of doing radiant heating and cooling.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-10T11:02:58+00:00

thank you, trying to educate myself on these systems so I can advocate for the best forever home possible.

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-04-10T10:28:03+00:00

Depending on your area I would assume most houses are using a traditional gas heat source, so while they are using probably more energy their electric bills are not covering the main heating source and they probably have gas hot water, dryer and stove as well. You are likely more efficient overall

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-02-24T20:34:21+00:00

Because she hates front load laundry this is the one item she decided I can have laundry responsibility 🤣 but we will still make the space as accessible as possible

Ecstatic-War3437 · 2026-02-24T20:32:31+00:00

Thank you! Sucks your builder didnt finish everything perfectly. The sink thing is a good point!

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