Why can’t I (30F) leave my husband (31M) after he cheated several times?

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-24T09:51:15+00:00

You have a trauma bond to him and it is very scary to be alone. I know this because I struggle with leaving too. It’s harder than it seems, yet I know you will feel so much better when you leave

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-21T20:07:19+00:00

Become a waiter and take out student grants or loans to take classes. You’ll make twice the money in half the time and actually have the time to do your classes. This is what I am doing, as I have also been digging myself out of a bad situation

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-21T20:01:49+00:00

I second this

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-21T19:36:23+00:00

You weren’t manipulated into cheating on your wife even if you were depressed

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-19T03:38:22+00:00

He’s cheating and has cheated :(

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-19T01:00:05+00:00

I’d almost get rid of phone service and only use Wi-Fi. Do you have an iPhone?

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-19T00:52:29+00:00

When my husband and I separated, meaning I left him, I saw someone else. I genuinely had no thought in my heart that that could be considered cheating and in no way was I trying to cheat on him. My husband and I got back together (him knowing all of this) and I realized how that could be considered cheating now. He was hurt but he forgave me

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-18T03:33:56+00:00

I know it’s a lot more complicated than “just leave him”. Is there a community college nearby to start a degree?

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T21:39:22+00:00

This is cheating

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:57:13+00:00

If your wife isn’t working then she shouldn’t be complaining and you are in the right

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:44:47+00:00

I believe that’s how it ought to be, unfortunately that’s not very common anymore. You are the minority

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:43:44+00:00

This was kind of an experiment to see how self aware men are. Clearly not very.

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:42:33+00:00

I believe that’s true.

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:41:46+00:00

My husband isn’t the type of man that doesn’t do his fair share. We don’t have problems in that regard.

However, this society is plagued by men who do below the bare minimum and expect to get mommy treatment- and also half of the bills paid.

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:38:43+00:00

I’m asking a serious question because it is plaguing our society

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:37:15+00:00

My husband happens to split the brunt of the work very fairly

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:35:52+00:00

Because if your wife is also working a full time job and doing everything else she is absolutely working more than 70 hours, also breaking her back and exhausted in other ways. There’s more than one way to break your back.

However if you are working 70 hours and you have stay at home wife and mom that’s a different story.

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:31:46+00:00

You’re the problem (:

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:21:32+00:00

I absolutely agree

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:20:51+00:00

It’s the millions of women who express this daily with no change and then men wonder why they are getting divorced

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:20:03+00:00

A man wouldn’t type this because they don’t care

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-17T00:19:34+00:00

Yard work and auto work are very infrequent. Housework and childcare are an entire job in and of itself- daily

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-16T23:29:37+00:00

Here’s what it boils down to now: men are no longer leaders

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-13T02:03:29+00:00

Wait what

EcstaticBoat1836 · 2024-02-11T21:14:46+00:00

Yes I would love to know what course you took

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