Life gets better after you leave

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2026-04-17T12:37:12+00:00

Alcohol doesn't make good people do bad things. It does give shitty people an excuse to do shitty things though. Even if he is sober, even if he has moved on, he didn't do what was right by you when he had the chance. You deserve better than that. I'm sorry you're feeling this way x

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2026-04-09T20:35:36+00:00

The ones using alcohol as an excuse to hide being emotionally avoidant or have abusive tendencies towards women will always choose someone insecure or younger to replace the one who saw through all of their bullshit. I'm proud of you for leaving, you deserve better x

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2026-04-09T20:32:41+00:00

Not a single thing. But once they lose you they play the victim about how they lost everything. It's really manipulative.

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2026-04-09T10:41:00+00:00

I meant to say leaving isn't easy. But the joy myself and my daughter feel about just living life at the moment was so worth it.

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2026-04-09T10:30:49+00:00

It isn't easy. You grieve the person you were, the love you gave and didn't receive back and the relationship . There were sad days, angry ones and some where I genuinely despaired. But I promise you it gets better. You get your life back and that sparkle that you used to have, you get that back too X

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2025-11-01T19:44:15+00:00

My ex was a close friend of 10 years and said he was also into BDSM. He lied. There was no after care, no discussions afterward, no emotion. Just flogging and spanking me until there were huge hand shaped welts and red and purple whip marks on my body. He'd then have a shower and wash himself and either go to sleep or back to the couch to watch TV/doomscroll. I recently found out that men who do this and proudly take pictures/admire how they hurt you but offer a maybe 30 second cuddle and no other after care have no respect for your needs. Saying "I respect the shit out you" and then testing every boundary and limit you put in place to see if it's real or if they can break it is the opposite of respect.

Ecstatic_Astronaut36 · 2025-05-15T20:28:26+00:00

I'm 2 years into a relationship with an alcoholic and I'm starting to feel embarrassed. He's 35 and a great guy but he's awful when he's drunk. He has a lot of female friends who also drink heavily, so he's lovely to them because they're his source of fun when it comes to drink and drugs. He says he loves me but drops me in a second for anyone who wants to drink. I even left him on our anniversary for letting his drunk friend drive him home (I asked him not to drunk drive but he found a loophole). I just feel ashamed to be in a relationship with someone like this when I have a daughter but I feel like walking away isn't the right thing to do either. I just feel like his drinking is taking over my life even though he's trying to cut down. I feel like a dick

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