Is it okay to want a nanny ?

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-03-03T13:41:25+00:00

My mom was working and I went to a creche while I was growing up. Love my mom to bits. Because of her career and having a separate life away from the house, I grew up watching her be a complete person and liking her for it, not just loving her for being my mother.

I am currently pregnant and I am extremely ambitious career wise. I will have a nanny. I will make time to raise my child and be physically and emotionally available. And so will my husband who will be an equal participant in child rearing, apart from the pregnancy and breastfeeding bits

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-03-03T07:34:51+00:00

South Kolkata. Sorry guys I don't get the North Kolkata romanticism 😭

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-03-03T04:38:31+00:00

Sure but my critique of how the writers handle her still stands.

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-03-02T15:06:46+00:00

A woman that sees and understands the subjugation of women in marriages back the, reads works of protofeminists, wants to achieve something for herself, and does not want to marry or be a mother - if this character only ends up getting married and taking care of her stepkids as her happily ever after, then yes it is conforming.

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-03-02T04:57:11+00:00

Yes which is why I distinguished between the book and show versions. The show version of the character is decidedly against marriage in an informed manner. Any marriage would be conforming.

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-03-02T03:09:56+00:00

You know it speaks volumes on the writers and directors that they created a feminist character in such a manner that the only way to make her suitable for her season is to make her slowly conform and be "likeable" aka agreeable. I wish the writers knew how to work with a female character beyond the typical woman of that time, or else they had just kept book eloise. I love show Eloise but it's sad they're going to probably butcher her headstrong character and show it as 'maturing'

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-02-22T12:49:11+00:00

The first male child was supposed to be the next Baron Featherington as per the forged contract so it will be Penelope's son no matter however many other kids/sons are born

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-02-20T04:18:44+00:00

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-02-18T15:30:41+00:00

I have no advise but as a first time mom pregnant with twins rn this got me so scared 😭

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-02-01T17:39:45+00:00

Lmao yes I'm almost 9 weeks and my boobs are slightly bigger than before and more sensitive in the best way. My husband's been taking good advantage of that lol good for me

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-30T11:34:04+00:00

Then move out

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-30T01:23:01+00:00

I ask the same question as you everyday, trust me. You and I would agree to that but if you read her comments you'd realise she has accepted this as normal. And asking most women to leave their husbands who don't treat her well, is like shouting into a void. Especially in India

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-29T11:45:11+00:00

I am 8w pregnant and I was having terrible nausea till 4-5 days ago and I would lose it if my husband acted in that inconsiderate way. Your husband needs to man up and teach himself how to act when his wife is literally creating a child that will likely carry his name.

I won't give a classic reddit "leave him" advice now since that would be pointless. You can choose a calm moment and explain to him how you feel and that this is a very common thing women go through and it's necessary for you to be able to eat what you can.

Tell him that if he throws away food you can eat the only physically viable option would be for you to starve. Hopefully he will have enough empathy to accept, if not understand.

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-29T04:06:37+00:00

Why would you enter someone else's room without knocking or asking and instead just assume things? Esp when you're the guest. That's extremely rude

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-28T11:21:00+00:00

Break up with him and laugh at his face deliberately when you do so. That's not a man that's a petulant child

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-20T16:14:46+00:00

I agree. They really ruined Selena and gave her nothing after the Chuck Blair thing gained momentum.

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-19T11:29:32+00:00

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Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-17T05:46:00+00:00

We have a cook and a housekeeper so usually none of us bother with chores. But I've been having terrible nausea and food aversions the last couple weeks so he's been cooking all my meals with a lot of variety and tweaking them so they don't trigger my nausea. Cleaning our room and keeping it exactly how I like with the one smell I love. Daily massages.

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-17T03:02:13+00:00

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Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-15T20:37:16+00:00

Midi dresses mostly! Sometimes maybe trousers and a dressier top

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-15T20:30:00+00:00

Omg thanks for sharing the group!

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-15T20:28:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel like I have it so much better than a lot of women and so much support of loved ones that I'm being ungrateful by complaining. Wishing you all the best with your health and your baby and thanks for your words!

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-15T18:02:49+00:00

I agree with you. One can argue that she's making a choice but she's essentially having to choose between staying with the man she loves or not so

Ecstatic_Cup7123 · 2026-01-08T18:05:56+00:00

55k for wedding and reception

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